me and my boyfriend live together. we have a good relationship except for the fact that he never wants to have sex. He is 29 and im 24 . I consider myself a very pretty girl. but when it comes down to me wanting to kiss my boyfriend passionatly. he always thinks i want more and pushes me away. I one day asked him if he were cheating because i didnt know what else it would be. He said no and we had a huge fight over it because i asked such a horrible thing.. that's done with but he still doesnt want to touch me.. He always says " its the wrong time , and my mind isnt into it" .. i try to start things when hes not working, like when were just watching t.v, or when were in bed, or at a time when he's not stressing over work, but its like he only wants sex 1 time every 2 weeks.. I dont get it? He always tells me he loves me very much and he tells me he wants to be with me forever, but he alwasy make up any reason to say no. like my head hurts, im tired, i dont want to, i have to work.ect
2007-01-08 07:18:19 · 16 answers · asked by shellz23 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
your bf is a sexual control freak His motto is "we do it when I want or not at all " he already has you freaking out about your own sexual needs and questionning them it will only get worse. at 29 my hunny couldn't keep his hands off me but not everyone has a high sex drive you should find someone more suited to your sexual needs. Sex is not he only thing in a relationship until you are the one not getting it.
2007-01-08 07:30:00 · answer #1 · answered by Chillypepers 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You shouldn't be having sex until you are married to each other. Otherwise you are guilty of fornication and could wind up in Hell when Jesus returns to earth.
On the other hand, have you ever thought that he might be having problems with impotence, job stress, financial problems, etc.? There are a multitude of things that can make it so a guy either doesn't want it, is embarrassed to talk about it, or can't have it because of pain, etc. You need to be more understanding about it and get off his case. There can be a real physical or mental reason for his not wanting sex.
Also real love isn't sex, though everyone thinks it is. I suggest you both sit down, talk about it and read in the Bible, I Corinthians 13 "The Love Chapter" to see where it says love is patient and kind and seeks not its own way at the expense of others. This love is such that it will gladly give its life to save the life of the other. It says that out of faith, hope and love, love is the greatest. This love has kept my wife and I married for over 28 years through good and bad times.
2007-01-08 07:38:17 · answer #2 · answered by Captain Cupcake 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Here is the thing peoples sexual drives change as they grow and he might be going through a phase where he just doesnt want it and you pushing him to have sex will not make the situation better. As you age you will have a period of time where you have no interest in sex and sooner or later it will come back. Doesnt matter how pretty you are like I said sex drives change. When I was 24-29 I really had no desire for it from age 29-34 I wanted it all the time, now once maybe twice a week is enough for me at age 35. And check this out as much as we want to believe the man you love wants to have sex with you often his lack of desire doesnt mean he doesnt love you, after all you can pay for sex or have a one night stand its his commitment to you and your relationship that proves he loves you not how often he's having sex with you. And not to be rude but your age differance will in the future cause other problems in this area so be ready to stick them out.
2007-01-08 07:51:25 · answer #3 · answered by **Damn its cold up here** 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Here are all the explanations I can think of:
1. He's gay
2. He doesn't like you for whatever reason
3. He has an STD and doesn't want to transfer it to you
4. He has performance anxiety because of erectile problems, impotence, etc
5. He's religious and has taken an abstinence pledge
What I suggest you do is talk to him and tell him what you want. Tell him that you want sex. If he still refuses to give it try to ask him why. If he won't give a specific answer, weigh up whether the cost of your deprivation of sex is compensated by the benefits of you being with him. If they are not then you should stop seeing him and try another man like me.
2007-01-08 07:33:12 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some men get mentally stressed if there is no signs of im cheating don't worry about if the shoe were on the other foot how would you think he would feel. Things like this happen don't put pressure on him. If you feel this way just tell him you want to seperate.
2007-01-08 07:24:42 · answer #5 · answered by Mary O 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Something is wrong with him. At his age he should be extremely intrigued by the female anatomy. It has everything that a guy would want to occupy his time with. Excuses like "wrong time" don't float, either. It just doesn't make sense.
2007-01-08 07:31:09 · answer #6 · answered by mojonah 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
See, you two are definitely not sexually compatible with each other. Quit while you still can, and find a BF who is in to much sex as you!
All the best!
2007-01-08 10:09:01 · answer #7 · answered by Calculus 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
has sex once or twice a month to keep you happy. Maybe he is fighting an inner problem about your relationship. Maybe he has to look deeper into himself and be honest with you and him. Could he be gay? and just don't know how to express his feelings !
2007-01-08 07:32:32 · answer #8 · answered by BRAZEN 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe he has issues with intimacy or maybe the spark is gone. either way it won't improve. i say you end the relationship and find someone else that gives you the love and attention you deserve
2007-01-08 07:30:39 · answer #9 · answered by jim 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try taking the bag off your head.
2007-01-08 07:41:37 · answer #10 · answered by Panama Jack 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋