To all engaged/married women!?

Question

1. Only answer if you are engaged or married

Ok how many of you women have a little bit of a fear going into this? Are you nervous? Scared youre making the wrong choice? Are any of you a little scared that your days of going out and flirting and all that are over?
Be completely honest with yourself and tell me the fears youre having before marriage!

Answer 1

I have been married for 15+yrs Ithink that being nervous and a little scared is actually quite normal for any one who is going to or has walked down the aisle . my biggest fear was will his family still like me after we are married , will we grow apart will we still be in love after a few years ( yes we are still in love with eachother ) and yes I was a little scared that I was making the wrong decison but when I started talking to my husband /fiance what was wonderful was that he was feeling just as scared as I was , and it gave us a great chance to talk about the things that were bothering me and him . your days of flirting are not over because hopefully you will still flirt with eachother and yes I believe it is still ok to admire some one who walks by or catches your eye as long as that is as far as it goes . as for me I still want to fall asleep in my husbands arms . benig scared does not mean that you should call off your wedding some people even say it is nerves (as for me I wiil tell you I was still a little scared . when you think about merging two lives together and not to mention two families together it is a little scary but in a good way just remember to always voice your fears to your husband/fiance because it gives you someone elso to lean on and that is the greatest thing about marriage you are now a team a twosome I will tell you honestly that when I saw my husband waiting forme I was able to take a deep breath knowing that he was there made me a little less nervous . He was also there to catch me before I almost tripped on my train . your wedding day is the logest and the shortesr day or your life but it is also the most memorable . hope this helps some

Answer 2

I was married at 17, and I've been married for a year and a half now. I may not be exactly who you're looking for to answer this question because my days of 'going out and flirting' were quite limited to high school.

I had been engaged to David for a year before we were able to get married. I loved him so much, but yes, I was a little nervous. There were times when I'd think to myself, "I'm just too young for this! This is crazy! I want to do this and that and the other thing first!" I knew we wouldn't have a lot of money, and, coming from a rich family, that scared me. I knew we would have hard times, and I didn't want to face them. I knew that someday I'd be in the grocery store and bump into someone who may be handsomer/richer/have better teeth or breath or hair than my hubby, and I was afraid that I would resent my marriage. But trust me, I don't.

As soon as I got all dressed up on my wedding day, and looked into his eyes, (I know this sounds mushy and lame), I knew it was the best choice I could have made. My husband and I are so happy together--even now, while he's in training for the Army, and can't live at home.

It's fun to go out, flirt, and feel free to do what you like. But it's more of a comfort to have the stability of knowing that in 70 years, I may be old, wrinkled, and my red hair might be gray, but I won't be alone. There will be an old, wrinkled, gray-haired man beside me. And what we'll have will beat anything that anyone could have with any date or simple fling. A lifetime together? That trumps it all.

Answer 3

I think it is easy and has been this far. No I had more fear of how that we might find things that we might not be able to work out. One rule of thumb is never hit below the belt or else your headed down hill before you even reached the top. If your having all those doubts then if i were you i might just sit back and wait just a little bit longer. When you in love it shouldn't even be flirting anymore that is why you have that time of dating to sort of know what it is going to be all about, so you shouldn't be flirting at all while dating seriously.

Answer 4

i was TERRIFIED!! both times...
#1- i was so scared that he wouldn't keep his promises, that he'd go back to the way he was before he "changed" for me & i'd be married to a drunk @$$ hole.... i was right on that one! got divorced about 4 years later
#2- worried that we'd end up divorced, that things just wouldn't work no matter how hard we tried, that one of us would slip up & cheat & it would all be over. still worried of all those things, only been married three weeks ;)

i think it's totally normal to be nervous and anxious. but if you're more concerned with your time of flirting being over than whether or not your relationship has what it takes to last, then i think you've got your priorities wrong.

Answer 5

Actually none of them were ever my concern. I was always afraid that he would turn into a jerk, like all the other men I've seen growing up in my life did. My fears were, if we were going to have a place to live, money in the bank, able to afford our bills and still have money left over. Would his job offer medical for his family as well. There are grown up questions you need to ask and you aren't there yet. You are not ready to get married. Good luck.

Answer 6

I've been married over a year now and I was not at all nervous to marry my husband because he is such a kind and loving man. I felt really good about our decision to marry from the beginning. Yes, I had some anxiety about everything going well on the day of the wedding - but other then that, I was perfectly calm.

Answer 7

I didn't really worry about anything getting married, except a few housekeeping things that have to do with marrying someone in the military. As far as making the right decision, I never once questioned that.

Answer 8

It sounds like you love this man if you are thinking of getting hitched.
But, in all honesty you are not ready. If you were really truely ready you would not care or consider flirting anymore. I say, Go out with your girls have fun get it out of your system!! Because if you wed with these thoughts you will feel the urge to flirt and eventually flirt and be dishonest to your man. Go out and have fun and marry him when he's the only one you want to flirt with! =)

Answer 9

Mine was unique. It was around Christmas, he had a big box with rocks in it. When I opened the box, there was a reynolds aluminum foil box with a card that read You said you wanted round and shiny. I, who just did not have a brain that day thought it was a horrible joke, but he said to open the foil box and inside was a ring box. That is how he proposed. I laughed and cried for about ten minutes.

Answer 10

I get worried that he will cheat on me once we're married...you know, once he has me he won't be interested anymore...also worried about when to use the bathroom...in the two years we've been together, I've never used the bathroom around him...I always go home to do that.