my boyfriend and i have been living together for 6 months. we have been fighting alot lately. he asked me to move out but i refuse to because i have 3 kids and no where to go? he has been paying the rent but now i want to make a deal with him until i move out. the problem is that he paid this months rent and i refuse to give him anything. iam right or wrong? what can make it easier for us if we both refuse to move out.
2007-01-08 07:08:57 · 27 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
both of our names are on the lease, but he has been paying the rent since we moved in..
2007-01-08 07:11:42 · update #1
answer my other open questions, thanks.
2007-01-08 07:12:54 · update #2
well he is a stubborn person and i guess wants me to suffer, he says he is not moving.
2007-01-08 07:15:24 · update #3
i guess people don't now how to read,,i have a full time job and a bachelors degree, smart asses, and as for him supporting me that was his choice,
2007-01-08 07:27:59 · update #4
i think that he should pay the rent because he refuses to move out. if he has a problem with it then tell him you will pay half of the rent and save your money girl and move out.
2007-01-08 08:07:58 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Wow, I'm sorry that you are having these problems.
You need to think of your kids first. Having them in an environment where you fight with your boyfriend is not good for them. Is there anywhere else you can go? Stay with your parents or friends? Maybe your boyfriends' parents? You're in a really tough situation and there aren't any easy answers, unfortunately.
If it's at all possible, you should contribute to the rent. Whether it's half, a quarter, or even $20. If you aren't paying anything, your boyfriend has the right to ask you to leave. If you are going to stay in the house, try staying as far apart as possible and limit the arguing to when the kids are asleep or at school or whatever.
Best wishes to you. It's not easy, but you'll work it out. Do what's best for the kids. That's what is most important.
2007-01-08 15:28:26 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're both on the lease so you're both responsible for the rent payment. You might not like the other answers you got but they're right, you should be paying part of the rent too.
If one of you wants to move out and the other stays, the one leaveing MUST MUST MUST remove yourself from the lease! Contact your landlord to see what the details on that are. You usually both have to sign some sort of release to get the other lease-holder off the lease. Otherwise, you (or he) could be responsible for whatever happens to that place even though you don't live there any more.
2007-01-08 15:16:54 · answer #3 · answered by Rach 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Wow!! That's a difficult and personal question. I don't think it's about being right or wrong; however, are you on the lease? If not and he's been paying the rent then unfortunetly you don't have any rights in the matter. I'd say try to make a deal with him and if neither of you moves out to try and stay out of each others way as much as possible.
2007-01-08 15:13:27 · answer #4 · answered by cibolover 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your wrong why should he pay the rent for you and your 3 children, whose name is the lease in yours or his. Yeah it would make it easier on you to both live there but he told to leave he don't want you there anymore. Where is your money coming from , you say you told him to move out if he does how are you going to pay the rent. He needs to move out as soon as the rent us up and you take over. You should have stopped arguing with him if have 3 children and no money, you had it made but you wanted to not get along , it's not his problem to provide for you and your children, where's their daddy?..
2007-01-08 15:23:17 · answer #5 · answered by Nicki 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It may have been his choice to support you before, but he's changed his mind now, so you need to pay your half of the rent. You can use the child support money you receive for the 3 children. Or, since you've got that big time Bachelor's degree, pay your share out of that serious-money paycheck you get from that high-powered J-O-B of yours.
You have an obvious attitude about yourself and I can see why your man wants you out. He should never have made such an arrangement with you, particularly if none of the children are his. Thank God he didn't make the mistake of marrying your nasty butt!
2007-01-08 15:50:29 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you haven't been paying any rent, and you have nowhere to go, where would you have been living for the past six months if you hadn't been living with him? Whose name is on the lease? If you are both on the lease, probably neither of you can force the other to leave. If only one of you is on the lease, then they may be able to stay and have the other person be forced to vacate the premises.
2007-01-08 15:16:01 · answer #7 · answered by J'naii - belly dancer 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Whose name is on the lease? That's who is supposed to pay the rent. That's who can say who leaves and who stays. If your name is not on the lease, I don't know what to tell you, especially if you have not been paying rent anyway. You don't have any legal grounds to stand on.
If both of your names are on the lease, then you both have a legal obligation to the landlord. Neither one of you have to leave. If he has been paying the rent like he has, he has no recourse. He can't make you leave for not paying rent, because you have not been paying rent. Either of you can buy each out of the remainder of the lease and then move out.
2007-01-08 15:11:04 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
U might have to suck it up and move out. Do you live in an apt building or complex. See if there is anything available. At least pay him half of the rent until you or he moves out
2007-01-08 15:12:51 · answer #9 · answered by MISS KNIGHT 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If he told you to get out and you haven't then you at least need to pay 1/2 the rent, but with three kids you probably owe more then that.
2007-01-08 15:12:40 · answer #10 · answered by RayCATNG 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋