Too much sex?

Question

It seems latley that all I can think about is getting it done. I am not asking this to be sick or anything but is it normal to just want to have sex all the time? My husband seems a bit angry at me and a little worn out. He gets mad at the littlest things and I was wondering if that had to do with the fact that I want to have sex all the time. Not all the time but often and he seems to be distant. He wont let me kiss him as much or for a long period of time. I don't know if there is something wrong with me because I think about it more than my husband. I didn't think men thought there was such a thing as too much sex. As a wife, is there anything I can do to make this better besides giving up on trying to have sex?

Okay, we have talked about it over and over, and all I can get out of him is "I dont want to right now." We usually get along really really well. This just started about a month ago. And we have sex about once a day a least if I get lucky. No more than twice a day for this dang month. We used to be so into each other and I got used to it. And he knows that he pleases me thats why I dont get it! He is so confusing.

Everyone wants to know how old we are...let just say really really really young. Around 20ish. And only married for 6 months, we have been together for over a year.

Answer 1

Well, there's a pretty pervasive myth out there that men always want more sex than women, but as you've found out, it ain't true!

You say "lately," so I'm guessing this isn't a chronic problem for you. Since this isn't a recurring thing, I'd suggest just taking matters into your own hands until your drive returns to a level that your husband can handle.

Your husband is probably upset because he might feel like he's not "man enough" somehow to satisfy your off-the-chart sex drive. There's nothing wrong with you and there's nothing wrong with him. He's just feeling left in the dust right now.

Just the other day, my wife taught me a good rule of thumb anytime a spouse doesn't feel in the mood. Basically, she said, when a husband or wife says "No" or "Not now," then that means the ball is in your court. Do whatever you can to put them in the mood until they're either clearly not going to be in the mood, or are so turned on they can't remember ever saying no to you.

This can mean something simple like a backrub or a light touch on the back of the neck, or it could mean something bold (that requires you to take a knee).

See where I'm going? I hope this helps. And let your husband know that there's at least one guy out there who envies him!

UPDATE: Sounds like your guy is dodging. Don't let him avoid this important conversation! Let him know that this is an important talk for the two of you to have and you'd appreciate his involvement.

Sex can be complicated, and if there's one thing I've learned, it's that sex doesn't happen in a vacuum. This means that problems inside the bedroom almost always happen because of something outside the bedroom.

Is your man having problems at work or with his family? Is there something distracting him? Are there other problems in your relationship? Might he have some body-image issues?

It sounds like the problem might have some deeper roots than just a mis-matched sex drive. Have a talk with him and feel the problem out. If you really know your man, you'll find the root cause in no time and then you can fix it.

Then it'll be next stop: the nearest horizontal surface!

Answer 2

I am with you sister all the way! I drive my husband crazy wanting it all the time and he drives me crazy because he pulls the tired card or the I just don't want to right now card as well! I think it has something to do with the whole wife, mother of their children thing and it just like a lot of other things in marriage isn't new and exciting anymore! That is why you just have to go to an adult store and buy some fun new toys........take your man to a hotel for a night if you have kids though because there will be lots of noise and the last thing you need in our case is a child walking in going what's wrong with mommy or daddy....lol. Just do it honey trust me what do you have to lose and it does go in surges but when I am surging, I just can't get enough either!

Answer 3

I think you are making this up. Twice a day for an entire month isn't enough? Most men could not keep up with you if they were working. Vacation or something, sure no problem, but I like to think my wife and I do real well with 5-6 times a week.

Answer 4

I should guess it's all psychological thing. You are unnecessarily thinking you are in need of more of it. coz your husband thinks otherwise. Or may be coz hez done too quickly to satisfy you. Just let him not come soon. Give breaks during sex for atleast 3 seconds. Talk to him that you love him and you want him to help you. If he can't stand long without coming out.... talk to him about using toys. But I guess once you think your husband is with you.... it should all clearby... and your desires would slowlyyeild to your brain.
Wear only things your husband would like you to wear so as to turn him on. Make food tastier.... Be more loving to him and see the results.

Answer 5

More then likely it's your hormones surging. Happens all the time. You are normal so don't sweat it. It happens at typical times to women. Teenage (Brand new hormones) mid 20's (Child bearing time) and 30's when women tend to become comfortable with their sexuality.

Buy a vibrator and tell your hubby he's a lucky guy.

It sounds like you are talking and he is not. Keep it up but be gentle. Sex is a really hard (no pun intended) subject for a guy when things are not full speed ahead no matter what the reason.

Good Luck

Answer 6

It's unfair that people assign gender to this. There's just as much male or female lack of sex drive and over-drive, if you get what I mean. The problems arise when two are not compatible and make no attempt to work it out by compromising. I would say the same to you if you were man or woman -- be considerate, discuss it, arrive at a mutual amount that will make both of you happy and then live within those means. If this means someone has to do it a bit more than they want, and someone has to do without sometimes, so be it. Anything else is kind of rude.

Answer 7

You said that you are both in your 20,s so there should not be a problem in the sex department there is no one answer to your question because we don,t know what he is thinking are you to aggressive most guy,s like to hunt not be hunted but this will help you out show him what your working with in every way men are very visual and when he is giving it to you let him know that it is the best you ever had,< Prince> YOU MAY HAVE TO START WITH OUT HIM BUT i AM SURE HE will catch up

Answer 8

Sounds like something may be up with HIM! I can count on one hand the number of times I brushed my wife. I was sick, ready to pass out or would have been late to work. Remember I said on one hand. It's an absolute turn on for most men to have their wives want "IT" allot.

You are describing a man that sounds like he needs to sit down and tell you what's bugging him. There are some warning signs in your message, although, not enough information have been provided.

If nothing else, dude is a dolt for pleasuring you every chance he gets.

Answer 9

Age may have something to do with it. You don't say how old you and he are. Unfortunatly most men loose thier ability to perform often especially more than onece a day, when they hit about thirty. Women on the other hand blossom in thier mid to late 30's and are horny and hot well into thier 40's and beyond. thats why 40 yr olds are chasing 22 y/old studs, they knock the bottom out of it. maybe spice it up, like have him "catch" you and a girlfriend getting it on and invite him to join or something. I WISH YOU WERE MY WIFE!!!

Answer 10

I am in the same boat and it drives me insane. I wish I could have sex every day, but my man doesn't wait it that often, he is ok with once a week, and believe me, I have tried everything, when he wants to have sex, we have the best sex of our lives, and when he doesn't, I just get my toys and fantasize about him, there is nothing else you can do, I do get surprises every once in a while, but very rarely. Good luck! Oh my god, you get laid at least once a day and you are complaining? are you serious? I wish I had that!