I am 28 and he is 31-we have been married for four years.
I have told him before that it bothers me and he says he won't do it , but come to find out he still looks at it.
Please give me some insightful answers! Thanks!
2007-01-08 06:56:09 · 20 answers · asked by indymama 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Most men look at porn, but please don't take it as a personal affront against you, its a man thing as much as a woman reads a romantic book, don't think hes looking at the women and comparing them to you or thinking he wants to replace you, its just a thrill. But your not crazy either.
2007-01-08 07:12:32 · answer #1 · answered by laughinggiraffe2003 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, you are NOT crazy.
Most men look at porn, yes.
It would be wise to be very aware of this fact. Do some research on the subject and you'll find just what percentage do look at it. Then add 10%-15% to that number, depending on who did the study, because studies are very often "bent" in one manner or another.
Become aware of the current state of this world. The standard news media is generally not a good source of information as they tend to report things which people want to hear, but offer just enough information to strike a nerve in people.
Do some research about how much money the porn industry makes and how many websites are porn sites. You will become enlightened as to the "real" State of the Union".
2007-01-09 15:36:35 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can only answer for myself and thoese that I know. I am happly married and 33 years old. I sometimes look at porn on the net. I never pay to join a site but if I am on the net and at home and the mood its I will give it a look. The guys that I know do the same. My opinion is that it is pretty common for guys and should not be a big deal unless it really bothers you. If it does then talk to him about it and reach an agreement if possible.
2007-01-08 07:02:16 · answer #3 · answered by Brian 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm having the same problem except in lieu of the Internet, hubby brings home at least two dvd's every week! I dont know what to do. I've told him my feelings and asked him to get rid of them. I think its sick to have a wife and have sex three, four times a week and still need to watch porn.
Maybe I should start hording porn, and pretend I'm watching it when he calls. Let's see how he likes that.
2007-01-08 07:13:39 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
there is nothing wrong with guys looking at porn, as long as it doesn't interfere with his life and his relationship with you. unless he spends more of his time watching it rather than spending that time with you, you have nothing to worry about. don't let porn worry you, you've been with him for 4 years now..
my husband is the same, but he slowed down on the porn lately because we made an agreement on "after sundown" agreement--he's not allowed to look at porn after the sun sets. it's great because the sun sets around 5:30 and he comes home from work at that time. the weekend's all his though. it's sounds juvenile, but it works if your husband's willing to do it to make you happy and comfortable.it's been working for the past 3 months now and we've had no problems since.
2007-01-08 07:19:45 · answer #5 · answered by yung_boricua 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm very sorry. I am also a man, who has a lot of integrity. I would like to think he too is only in love with his wife. I have been happily married for 10 years and being ashamed I also look at the filth. There is nothing wrong with you or hopefully your relationship. It's just a guy thing.
2007-01-08 07:04:36 · answer #6 · answered by BKN 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
That really annoys me. You told him it bothers you and yet he still continues to look, thus totally disrespecting you. I thought for a long time "boys will be boys" and all men do it..but recently I met a MAN that doesnt look. Porn in general is disrepecting woman and I think that that is really what men are doing when they view porn. Anyway in answer to your question, real MEN dont look. They value and love what they have at home.
2007-01-08 07:06:17 · answer #7 · answered by shannon d 4 · 3⤊ 1⤋
You have every right to be upset. Guys who are married and in love, should not want to look at porn. Especially when it bothers their wife. He should respect how you feel.
2007-01-08 09:56:16 · answer #8 · answered by Kari R 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Yes. No.
News Flash!!!! Men are visual; one reason women "dress up" to attract men.
Chill. Sounds like he doesn't want to "hurt" you since you become upset. Are YOU upset due to being insecure? "Porn" has been around as long as man; check out some of those caveman drawings; they weren't all Woolly Mammoths!
2007-01-08 07:04:52 · answer #9 · answered by mike s 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Lets face facts, the reality is this, when he stops looking at porn chances are he has lost interest in you too.
Look at porn, go to the bar, look at porn, go to the strip club. look at porn, go have one on the side. Porn is the expression that he is faithful. Be careful what you wish for.
Worse yet your resistance makes him lie about it to avoid the confrontation. Is this really worth it.
2007-01-08 07:21:02 · answer #10 · answered by Flagger 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋