Do you think it is okay for a spouse to check the other spouse's emails without permission?

Question

I know of two couples in which the wives secretly check their husbands' emails. I think it's wrong and shows a lack of trust. What do you think?

Answer 1

I think it depends upon why they are checking their spouse's e-mail. If they routinely check it just because they're nosy it really isn't right. When someone has suspicions that there may be something improper going on and they are checking it only to confirm their suspicions, I don't think that it's really wrong. Sometimes the only way to deal with an issue is to have some proof that you know what's going on, not just some nebulous gut feeling that things aren't quite right. When confronted with the truth, the lies are not able to continue. And the lies likely would continue without any proof. Plus, the one who is doing something improper may try to convince the other one that their suspicions are way off base, or even that they are crazy.

Answer 2

It shouldn't be a big deal. I don't see why they see a need to check their husbands emails. But what ever they find that they don't like is their own fault they shouldn't have been snooping in the first place. Plus they could really destroy their husbands trust for them. If there is something they want to know then they should just ask if they can read it. Obviously their husbands know how else would they have gotten the password. if they got it the wrong way like sneaking it then they have real problems and need a hobby.Something like that can really start trouble in a marriage.

Answer 3

My husband knows my email password and I know his but the only time I check his is when he ask me to. I think secretly checking your spouse's email shows a lack of trust and respect in the marriage.

Answer 4

in case your credit is being checked it really is listed on your credit report as to what company or maybe as it become carried out. they could't get round this. in spite of the undeniable fact that there are numerous kinds of credit checks. no matter if it really is a delicate Inquiry that does no longer pull each of the report and does no longer choose your permission. because it isn't a customer initiated request it really is in consumer-friendly words referred to yet causes you no damage on your score. in reality you're the in consumer-friendly words human being who sees them. So if it truly is what they're doing it really is annoying yet no longer unlawful. no matter if it really is a not hassle-free Inquiry this does choose your authorization because it does pull each of the report. this can be issues alongside with a request for brand spanking new credit, so it really is considered by way of alternative lenders and may decrease your score. in the experience that they are doing this no longer in consumer-friendly words is that against the law yet you are able to go after the Ex and the corporate that they artwork for. no longer less than they could be fired the second one you delivered it to the businesses interest. a third style might want to be one with a company you've an modern account with. oftentimes once you spread out an account you also gave them permission to acces your report contained in the destiny. if it truly is the case having stated that it might nicely be annoying yet criminal.

Answer 5

If there is something to be hidden he should set up his own private account with a private password. Problem solved.
I am administrator for all of our email accounyts, about 10 of them. I check them all at one time or another. Two of them are mine without access to others. The children have their own private accounts.

Go ahead and snoop if you like. I'm not foolish enough to have any correspondence available which would be incriminating.

Answer 6

Well, I signed on my email in my bf phone and when he logged on later, I was still logged in. He told me later that he kept it on there and checked it a few times. So of course I felt like he didn't trust me, otherwise, why wouldn't he have logged out or at least tell me that he was about to check my mail....I don't really mind though, it's not like there's anything to hide. I saw him typing his password one day and I checked his. I told him about it. He was upset that I had gone in there, but I wanted to know. I felt like if he was checking my email, I should check his. It makes me crazy to think that either of us is hiding anything from each other, because I know deep down, we aren't. I don't have any need/want to do it again. That's his email and it should be private. He promises to tell me when he receives an email from his ex or any other girls and I have to trust in that.....how else are we going to grow together unless we start trusting each other?

Answer 7

My wife and I do go on each others e-mails but it is not to "check-up" on each other. We both agree we have nothing to hide. (Maybe she has an e-mail account I don't know about), but that is not the point. If you feel the need to look at their e-mail to see who they are talking with, then your problems are much larger than you think. You have a problem with trust. If there is a problem with trust, how much love do you really actually have.

Answer 8

I think my wife (if I were married) would be as bored as I would be with my email. Since I am single, there's some email in there I wouldn't want a wife to see, but... in a serious relationship, I've got nothing to hide, so if that's what it takes... at least I know it's going to be boring:)

Answer 9

I think that if there is a marrige there should be trust and I would be offended if I found out my husband was spying on me.

Answer 10

I think it is wrong, too. It shows immaturity and an extreme lack of self-esteem. They probably won't be together too long....