I can't stand my inlaws,they can't even call my husband on his bday,but are 1st in line for his $$.Am I wrong?

Question

My husband is a good man.I try hard not to have ill feelings about his family, but I don't know how not to.They thrive off of negativity.They hate to see my husband happy or doing well for himself. But they feel its their right to reap the benefits. What should I do? Should I let him know how I feel or just hope that one day he see's their bad behavior for him self?

Answer 1

Sometimes you have to pick your battles. If their behavior isn't effecting your relationship with him, continue to shower your husband with love and let him find them out for himself. That way, when he finally wakes up, guess whose loving arms he going to look for?

Answer 2

If you bring this conversation up to your husband you are going to look just as bad as his family. You are his wife and should support him, no matter what. If he chooses to give money to his family then you need to support that decision. I'm sure money isn't important to your husband. It appears he needs the assurance that he is able to help when needed and sees nothing wrong with sharing the wealth. If you truely love him, you would understand that. I hope you will see that giving is so much more important that recieving. Thank you and GOD bless.

Answer 3

You can approach your husband about your feelings. But try not to be too negative or condescending about them, you may put him on the defensive. Instead ask him as nicely as possible why they only come around for money and they can never be there emotionally. It's a nice way to brooch the subject, ask if him if his family has ever been close knit or are they usually emotional standoffish.

Answer 4

I would just try to be decent to them but not make them a big part of your families life. Your husband may already suspect his families intentions but its proubly hard because even though they may try and take advantage of him he still loves them.

I would be supportive of your husband, concentrate on your relationship with him and show him what love really is and even though you shouldnt have to bend over backwards for his family I wouldnt go out of your way to be rude to them either.

But If his family try to interfere with your relationship then it is time to talk to your husband and tell him although you love him and respect him that his family needs to respect the two of you and your privacy. good luck

Answer 5

I don't blame you for not liking them, you mean they want your husband to give them money. I'd tell him look wake up and smell the coffee, they aren't getting anymore money because they don't appreciate it and we need this money for ourselves. He's not suppose to have to give them money, I wouldn't put up with that for 2 minutes. Tell him that no more money goes to Mom & Pop we need our money to save for are future where we will have a nice nest egg.