Okay, so my son is 4 months old, he was born 8 weeks premature and had a rough start in life. My new niece was born 13 weeks premature, she's still in the hospital but doing great. She's off of the ventilator and breathing on her own...anyway...my issue is that, my parents house is flooded with pictures of my new niece, but not one is up of my son. I'm talking they have pictures on the walls, on the fridge, their screensavers on their phones...pictures everywhere. Not one of my son. I've given them many pictures of my son. Some when he was born and hooked up to all the machines and some professional ones now that he's doing better. I've asked about it and they said it's because they don't have any picture frames for his pictures. But they managed to put my niece up. Am I being petty that this really bothers me? They treat him great it's just the pictures (or lack of) that bothers me.
2007-01-08 06:44:50 · 20 answers · asked by kerri_lynn01 4 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Newborn & Baby
I think the frame excuse is just stupid. They could take your niece out of at least one frame and put your son up. They must treat him well because they love him, but them must certainly not think he's "pretty enough". Forget about them, you're right about this one.
2007-01-08 06:49:52 · answer #1 · answered by rebeca_16_2000 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds strange to me. Were the pictures of your niece given to them in frames already or a format to display (refrigerator magnet, digital for their phones, etc...) and the pictures of your son weren't? If they supplied their own frames and only put up pictures of your niece, I'd really be bothered. One way or the other, if they really want to display pictures of your son, they will find a way. They could easily use some of the frames that your niece's pictures are in temporarily. Anyway, how long does it take to go out and pick up some frames? They've had 4 months!
I don't think you're being petty at all, but I'd give them the benefit of the doubt a bit longer....maybe offer to get them some frames. If they don't take you up on it (or get the hint at least and get some on their own), then it would be time to sit down with them and ask them if there is a reason they don't want to display the pictures.
2007-01-08 07:09:45 · answer #2 · answered by rhonda j 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's probably because the risks of losing your niece were higher. They don't love her more but she's probably been on their mind day and night. I'm not saying that your son is not important also but he has turned out "okay." Another thing is--your brother or sister may have provided them with the pictures and picture frames.
You aren't being petty. I understand completely. Just know that they love your son just as much but their hearts go out to your niece because she's been doing poorly. Try to ignore it as hard as it is. Good Luck!
2007-01-08 06:49:24 · answer #3 · answered by .vato. 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I definitly would feel the same way you do. This is their grandchild as well, so they should put pics up. Im sure they can afford to go out and buy frames for his pictures, they do have cheap ones. My mother has two grandchildren, mine and my brothers, 4 years apart. She has equal pictures up of both, and treats them both the same. I would send a picture in a frame and see if they put it up. I would feel like my child was not wanted there, like he wasn't important. I don't send frames with my pictures, and my mother always gets a frame to put the pictures in, same with my grandparents and they are in their 80's. They always have room for one more picture.
2007-01-12 04:55:21 · answer #4 · answered by Proud Mother 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey, I can understand how you feel. I have a six year old and a 3 month old, my in-laws treat my son who is 3 months old differant than my 6 year old daughter. Go figure that one out (maybe because he is the first born grandson). What I would do is go buy the picutre frames for them and say "Here you go" and see what they do. I say proof is in the actions not in the words.
2007-01-08 06:50:47 · answer #5 · answered by Keiko 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can say that if I was in your shoes I would be upset too. Whether it is petty or not that is your child and you want his grandparents to be just as proud of him as they are your neice. Maybe next time you give them a picture of your little guy, give it to them in a frame and see if they put it out. If they still don't then address the issue with them again.
Congrats on your little boy
2007-01-08 06:47:58 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try giving pictures in frames, if you still see they are not getting displayed, then throw a fit! As a grandparent I myself don't get it, and would not let a little thing like not having frames prevent me from showing off each and every grandchild.
2007-01-12 03:01:10 · answer #7 · answered by snoweyowl44 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you have every right to be upset, I would buy them picture frames for the pictures so they don't have an excuse and then if they still don't put them up then confront them again.
2007-01-08 06:48:09 · answer #8 · answered by mdoud01 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Buy them some picture frames! Then see what the excuse is.
2007-01-08 06:48:16 · answer #9 · answered by MyOpinionMatters 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would be upset too. Go to a cheap store and buy frames and put your son's pictures in them. and then give them to your parents.
momof4
2007-01-08 06:47:49 · answer #10 · answered by mary3127 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋