I mean someone who is calling you vile names and yelling. What can you say to make them stop and make them think of themselves as a real jerk for going off in the first place? Any smart comebacks or effective words?
2007-01-08 06:26:46 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
This is my abusicve ex-husband. We have children together, so I have to talk to him sometimes. Every single time I'm on the phone with him he starts screaming obscenities and yelling about me being a *****, etc..
Obviously, this is distressing and hurtful as I try to be really fair and nice - Just an indication of how our whole long marriage was. I usually hang up, but this makes him even more nasty the next time.
2007-01-08 06:40:38 · update #1
leave him and watch dumbfounded he look,plus what going
with your self-esteem ? do you truly like yourself, sista it,
time to do soul searching. and develop you so, you
know what to put with and not. don,t ever let NO ONE MISS
TREAT U, he did not bring U here, What love got to do
what about respect and dignity, don,t let him damage your soul.
you are a child of the Most High, keep you head and KEEP
ON WALKING I bet that will teach HIM a thing or two
2007-01-08 06:37:38 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Really meaning this, you say:
"The Lord bless and keep you; The Lord make His face shine upon you, and be gracious to you; the Lord life up His countenance upon you, and give you peace." Numbers 6:24-26
No one in the face of being blessed like this will continue to verbally attack you and may even be surprised that you cared enough for their welfare to ask the Lord to bless them. This goes along with what Jesus said when He told His disciples to pray for those who persecuted them and despitefully used them. It is all part of loving your neighbor as yourself. If everyone in the world practiced this, there would be no warfare.
2007-01-08 14:44:46 · answer #2 · answered by Captain Cupcake 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's hard to make some who is being a jerk to actually realize that they are.
However, you don't ever have to listen to verbal abuse Just tell the person that "I can't be with you when your yell and call me names, I get too ____________ (fill in the blank with how it makes you feel) Don't tell them that they make you __________, just that you get that way when they yell and call you names.
2007-01-08 14:43:35 · answer #3 · answered by Caffiend 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Name calling is very unhealthy, you know that right?
Lead by example, don't participate. If you aren't joining in he/she will have a clear view of their own words and behavior! It won't stop it in the moment but later they will think about it.
Niceness kills, remember that one too.
2007-01-08 14:36:19 · answer #4 · answered by Jennifer M 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
When he goes off, ask him in a very calm voice "Do you need a hug?" This comment will probably piss him off more and he will hang up.
2007-01-08 15:12:39 · answer #5 · answered by Kitty 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
"Better to keep silent and people assume you a fool, than to speak and dispell all doubt." -Ben Franklin Poor Richard's Almanac
2007-01-08 14:30:35 · answer #6 · answered by zax_fl 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
tell him that he is not a real man, that should send him out of control lol
2007-01-08 14:30:41 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell him that you will consider his insults when you and his replacement are laughing at him and hand him his divorce papers. don't put up with that.
2007-01-08 14:57:07 · answer #8 · answered by No Religion 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell him that excatly how you feel in the nice calm way and tell him he is hurting your feelings
2007-01-08 16:54:22 · answer #9 · answered by nina 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
SAY STOP
or i'm OUTTA HERE
2007-01-08 14:38:40 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋