2007-01-08 06:18:49 · 27 answers · asked by lynda m 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
♥ ♥ treat him with the respect he deserves ♥ ♥
2007-01-08 06:21:48 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Give him the respect that he desires and in return you will get the love you deserve. Dont try changing him, instead you change and mature up and begin to operate with integrity and dignity. Become accountable towards him and become supportive of him. All men desire respect and all women want to be loved by their men. If neither does their part, the relationship goes into a crazy mode. Tempers fly, there is criticism and bad mouthing and dissatisfaction, disharmony distance and lots of dirty dishes in the sink. People begin to operate childishly with one another and the crazy cycle explodes into a disasterous mess.
No one wants that, but thats what happens if love and respect are not operating in a relationship. Read the book Love and Respect by Dr. Emerson Eggerichs. It is brilliant and an absolute eye opener.
This will keep you both in line! God bless you both and may you have a wonderful future together.
2007-01-08 14:27:52 · answer #2 · answered by uniquechild 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Love him and never let that spark die off. Make life interesting for the both of you and never stop exploring each other.
The first 5 years of my marriage was a disaster. My wife tried so hard to keep me in line and I kept fighting back, getting more out of line.
Then one day she just gave up, let go and just allowed us both to enjoy each day together without checking if I was in line or not. It has been a beautiful 5 years ever since and I've not strayed away even once, the thought of straying away gives me shivers.
2007-01-08 14:33:34 · answer #3 · answered by Stormbringer 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First, you have to set a base line of being the perfect wife: open, avaliable, and eager sexually, taking good care of him, not causing him a lot of problems with his friends. Then, when he screws up (he will, you will, we all will) you tell him what he did and why you don't like it, or what he didn't do or you didn't like. Be specific. Something like, "You missed my birthday," is good. Something like, "I want you to sweep me off my feet," is bad. If you say he needs to sweep you off your feet, and he gets the broom and sweeps you into a corner, he has done your request, no more complaining! But if you say, "Pick me up and cary me over the threshhold on Tuesdays and Fridays," and he doesn't, tell him, "I've been a good wife, but that can change. I deserve to be treated right. Start treating me right or you'll stop getting..." and insert something you'll back off on. Then, once he does right, do good to him!
Also, rewarding good behavior has three times the effect on getting what you want than punishing bad behavior. If he does something you like, spare no expense and be willing to suffer any humiliation to make sure he feels thanked.
2007-01-08 14:28:24 · answer #4 · answered by Sean J 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well i've never had a problem keeping a guy, or pleasing a guy...all i do is amazing sex (and don't be afraid to do oral and to experiment), communicate, romantic surprises (candle lit dinner when they get home from work etc), if i wake up first or super early i make them breakfast in bed, compromise (if we see the movie you want next week i pick)....so it's not about keeping him in line, it's making him know there is nothing better out there!
2007-01-08 14:27:44 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just give him a bj once in a while!
Once women understand that their husbands will do almost anything if they get a bj every couple of days us men will finally be getting them.
2007-01-08 14:23:30 · answer #6 · answered by fucose_man 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Marriage isnt a matter of keeping someone in line....its a partnership
2007-01-08 14:26:26 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
The best way is to stop thinking you can change him or control him. Instead, paraise him for any of the little things he does well. If he thinks that you do appreciate him, he will be much more willing to do things for you.
2007-01-08 14:21:16 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you are thinking about controlling your husband, perhaps you should divorce and get a dog.
Spouses shouldn't consider their other half something to be controlled or manipulated.
2007-01-08 14:25:07 · answer #9 · answered by Radagast97 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Sex. He will never leave you. You can be a bitc.h and a complete pain in the assss but as long as you put out whenever he wants to or just jump on him every now and then, he will never look away or walk out of your life
2007-01-08 14:44:05 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
My wife carries a paddle that she uses when I get outa line.
2007-01-08 14:28:08 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋