what would you do if you are separated and he continues to call and stop by , how are you suppose to let go?

Question

he says he in love with another woman, but he still continues to still want to be friends with me, but I love him so much

Answer 1

I think you both need to sit down and talk about what real love is and isn't. To find out, read in the Bible, I Corinthians 13 "The Love Chapter" where it says that love is patient and kind and seeks not its own way at the expense of others. This love is such that it will gladly give its life to save the life of the other. It says that out of faith, hope and love, love is the greatest. If your love for each other died, it wasn't love in the first place, but something else. The something else will always fail. Real love was supposed to last your whole life time and it is this love that has kept my wife and I married for over 28 years. This love is always faithful to the other spouse until death makes one part. Divorce was never in the plan of God for a married couple. People aren't supposed to go around like animals mating at any time one is in "heat" and with multiple partners. That is what is supposed to make us different and better than the animals. You need to rekindle whatever it was that made you get married at the first and keep it going. He obviously has a wandering eye and you need to recapture his interest. He also needs to get his lust under control or he will never have a lasting relationship with anyone. I think once he finds out what real love is, it will help stop his wandering.

Answer 2

How to let go.. well... let's see.. he's obviously a slug because he's hitting on you and yet still seeing someone else. How any you ever trust someone like that? Why would you want to continue to put yourself through the pain you obvisouly felt before? The future just holds more of the same and the trust will never be there. A relation depends upon trust, with out trust a relationship is doomed.

So.. what to do?

1) When he calls, say "I don't want to talk to you." AND HANG UP! If he calls right back, DON'T ANSWER!
2) When he 'stops by' tell him, through the door, "I don't want to see or talk to you." Tell him to leave. If he stays, turn up the TV/Stereo.. if he persist, call the police.
3) Don't answer ANY emails. You don't owe him an explaination or anything.

In short.. if you want it to end.. then end it. You have the power to end it... JUST DO IT!

Good luck and I hope this helps!

Answer 3

I think for your sanity you need to make a clean break. Your love for him, of which I am sure he is aware, only makes you vulnerable to him. It will be hard for you to let go because you will continue to hope that one day he will come to his senses and this will prevent you from forming other ties and friendships.

I broke up with my bf of 5 yrs and only spoke to him again after 2 yrs of absolutely no contact. I am no longer under his hold so it was easy to have contact with him again.

It can also be possible that he is keeping you close so that if his present relationship does not work out, he have you to lean on. Or he doesn't want you to move on.... Don't want you but don't want anybody else to have you...

Answer 4

He's keeping you on the back burner in case it doesn't work out.

Get a backbone and demand some respect. That means he's out, gone, period. He does not get to have his cake and eat it too. I wonder how his girlfriend would feel about it...Do you want a man who can't make up his mind and who is insensitive enough to just string you along for his own benefit? Of course not!

I know you're hurting, but do what's right, not what's easy. Follow your head.

Best of luck.

Answer 5

Oh, I am so sorry that you are hurting, that's just being cruel, go get a guy friend today, watch what happens, thats why he's coming around to make sure your not happy and that you still need him and to make sure he can step back into your life if the new girl doesn't work out. He will loose his mind, BELIEVE ME! Get a guy in there TODAY, I will prove to you what he is doing. Bob

Answer 6

He will continue it until you stop answering his calls and being his emotional support. Guys all want a harem if not in a sexual way in an emotional way. You need to confide in some friends and occupy yourself for a while it will get better, but if he has moved on its your turn.

Answer 7

If there's someone else I would definitely not give him any chance. Have respect for yourself. It's hard when you're in love but don't let him do this to you. You're hurt and vulnerable and he knows it. I would tell him that you want nothing to do with him and if that doesn't work...a restraining order. You deserve your husband all to yourself and if he's going to play games I would get rid of him quickly!

Answer 8

Tell him to stop calling and stopping by...it's VERY tough to get over someone when they're in front of you every time you turn around. Get some distance so your heart can heal a bit.

Answer 9

Let it go! Dont answer his calls or when he is at the door. HE LOVES ANOTHER WOMAN thats reason enough.

Answer 10

if it is getting crazy.. scary crazy, id say restraining order. many people have waited for something bad to happen before getting police involved. honestly, it is best for both parties to prevent an incident involving law enforcement, but if neccesary best to call before trouble starts. on the vice side, mayb hes in love.