A close friend recently lost her live in boyfriend to street violence.
2007-01-08 06:16:47 · 10 answers · asked by empress 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
She will be feeling very alone right now. All the time and all the things she used to do with him, she now has to do alone. Spend time with her, listen to her, try make her laugh when the time is right. Let her know she is not alone in the world. Make plans with her so she starts to remember that life goes on.
2007-01-08 06:33:18 · answer #1 · answered by ming_ming_2007 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just be there for her as a friend because that is what she needs the most right now. If she just wants to mope around let her she has gone through a traumatic experience. But after a while invite her out to do things she enjoyed doing like shopping or maybe even going for a walk. You can't rush people to get over loves especially if they are taken away so cruelly.
2007-01-08 06:21:23 · answer #2 · answered by badazz_51 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can only help you by my own experience with my late Husband.. We moved to the mountains and lived happily here for 8 years...He was a stroke victim and 3 mo. before he passed away, he asked me to please take him to our hometown, which was 11 hours away.. Finally I loaded him up in my car alone, with all the tubes, cathater and we drove that distance together and we were at home
for 2 mo. and he passed away...I had cared for him for about 7 yrs. and after the funeral(Military)
I would look at my hands and wonder what do I do now...I almost lost my mind..I would scream and cry uncontrollable for months I wanted to come back to the mountains and one day my daughter who lived near us in the mountains called and asked if I would come back , she had to have surgery.. I did and it was time for my yearly checkup and my doctor told me to either take this nerve sedative or get out of the house..go dancing and I thought she had lost her mind.. But I took her word and the friends that I have,have really been angels to help me through this horrible experience...We had been married 47 years and even tho now after 3 years of widowhood, I date and dance and have a great time..I do not think I will ever marry again, but meanwhile, I am a busy person and my advice to you is to do the same..Get busy, get with friends and it will work out and someday you will have a desire to date or etc.... Hope I have helped you....
2007-01-08 06:29:16 · answer #3 · answered by bobbye04 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You just have to be there for her. This involves letting her cry on your shoulder if needed. Sometimes, you may have to endure a lot of emotional outbursts, bad moods that can lash out in your direction, etc. The more she spills it out, the quicker she will recover. Grow a thick skin for a little while and remember that she has been emotionally wounded. Friends do that.
2007-01-08 06:39:05 · answer #4 · answered by mojonah 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
1. Let her know not only with words, but with your sincere actions that you are there for her anytime she wants to talk about memories, cry, etc.
2. Have lots of patience as everyone has their own timetable for grieving.
3. Just be the good friend that you are. Someday, you may need her support too.
2007-01-08 06:27:42 · answer #5 · answered by davemg21 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is really a tough one.
It's ok for her to talk about him.
Time will heal the wounds.
However, it is important that she not feel responsible for his death.
That's an easy thing for people to do.
Don't try to counsel her, just give her the opportunity to talk.
Listen as much as possible.
Don't let her feel sorry for herself.
She may need counseling from a professional.
Be patient and see what happens.
2007-01-08 06:22:26 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be supportive to your friend. It will take time for your friend to get back into the swing of things. All you can do is be there for her when she needs someone to talk to or maybe even go for a walk somewhere. Don't try to push or force her to change this is a long process. Take Care...
2007-01-08 06:37:43 · answer #7 · answered by angels 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Most important is to let them grieve in their own way....only if they're beginning to become a disfunctional human being should there be anything in the way of intervention......otherwise, there is no such thing as an improper way to grieve.
You can truly only judge this one day at a time.
2007-01-08 06:21:57 · answer #8 · answered by bradxschuman 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The best thing to do is let your friend lean on you and let her know that you are there to listen. Grieving is different for everyone.
2007-01-08 06:23:14 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you can't really help her move on... you just show her you are there for her but give her space and let her know she can count on you...
hope it works =S
2007-01-08 06:24:59 · answer #10 · answered by xocolate 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋