I have a significantly higher sex drive than my wife. I have used porn for years, but she has told me recently that this makes her feel cheated on. What to do?
2007-01-08 06:11:12 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
The porn may be part of the reason for your high sex drive. At the same time, it may be the reason hers is lacking. If you looking at porn is making her feel inferior, that isn't going to increase her sex drive in the least. take a break from the porn for 6 months. Tell her that you are going to stay away from it. See if that helps increase her feeling of worth. You may find that you don't have any reason to look at porn when you are making your woman happy. While your at it, use the time you were taking to indulge in porn and spend it helping her with the housework, as well as paying attention to her. She needs to know that you are interested in more than just sex with her.
2007-01-08 07:04:23 · answer #1 · answered by PDH 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sit her down and explain to her that you were the way you are when she married you...you are the way you are now. Her sex drive may have diminished over the years, but yours hasn't. If she wants the marriage to continue and feels that she should be the only woman enjoying sex with you, she needs to step up to the plate; if she thinks that your watching a movie made for the very purpose you chose to use it for is cheating, imagine what she'd feel like if you went out every Friday night and came home smiling and friendly the next morning and didn't watch porn on your own TV! There is an obvious choice to be made here; you two need to arrive at a decision.
2007-01-08 06:21:11 · answer #2 · answered by wetdreamdiver 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her that having to go without her makes you feel cheated. Then you both feel cheated and it's up to you to find a way to resolve that.
Set a schedule. Three days a week? Monday, Wednesday, and Saturday nights? If she complains that's too much, suggest Saturday, Sunday, Monday, and Thursday, then ask if she has a counter offer. Negotiate, be willing to come down, but make her be specific. If she's not specific, you take more to your plate. Tell her that you feel frustrated and that she's not being fair to you leaving you frustrated all the time.
If it comes to this, it can also be set up against your hosehold chores: if you water the plants every day, then she has to on Monday, no questions asked. If you do the dishes, then Tuesday. In theory, there will be a break even point where you'll be doing too much work to want it any more, or she'll apreciate the work you've done enough that she doesn't mind.
2007-01-08 06:20:04 · answer #3 · answered by Sean J 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you should ask her to watch the porn with you so she doesn't feel cheated on. And as you are watching the movie you guys do things to each other or reenact a favorite scene maybe she wants something different. Maybe her watching the porn with you will turn her on by how you react to the porn.
2007-01-08 06:18:39 · answer #4 · answered by badazz_51 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe if you stopped looking at porn and showed a desire purely for her instead she might accept your advances better. I know that when I catch my bf looking at porn of any kind, it's a long time before I want him anywhere near me, and I'd like sex every day if I could, but he never wants it, god, is anyone ever on the same page about this?
2007-01-08 06:18:07 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her that you have a need. Ask her what she expects you to do about it. "Just deal" is not an answer".
Tell her what you want. Ask her what you can do to make her want it more. Is there something she wants?
If she simply won't give it up enough, tell her she has to give you a reasonable outlet, either porn or her.
As long as porn is not making you ignore her, it shouldn't be a problem....
Happy strokin'....
2007-01-08 06:17:15 · answer #6 · answered by fucose_man 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-09-03 18:17:08 · answer #7 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well she needs to "help you out" more then if she doesn't want to feel cheated on. If she would help you out, you wouldn't feel the need to use it.
2007-01-08 06:13:55 · answer #8 · answered by Fishgutts 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It only gets worse. I jo so much in the shower whenever it rains I get aroused.
2007-01-08 06:17:57 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋