This question is for Married people. But singles can read n answer too.?

Question

Married People, What 3 things make your marriage work.
Single People, What 3 things are you looking for when you get married.
Both, Do you think marriage is untill death do you part, or do you honestly think that if it does not work, Dovorce is a way out? (barring abuse or jail for serious crimes)

Think hard on your answers, and try not to be influnced by what others answer.

It might be a eye opener for alot of us as to what everyone thinks.

Seems the key word is RESPECT, but wow, so many great things. You ALL are lights to shine to others.

Answer 1

#1 We are best friends so we trust each other and confide in each other daily. We know we can count on one another all the time.

#2 Shared goals. We both want the sames things in our life....a nice home, cats, nice things, retirement, travel, and fun.

#3 Mutual interests. We both enjoy fishing, traveling, and jet skiing. We have things in common, and other things we dont' do together to allow for time away from each other.

Answer 2

Being happily married for 22 years and having even more fun now than we did in the beginning, I would have to say the number one thing that makes a marriage work is that your spouse should be your "best friend". Whether or not they are your best friend before marriage makes no difference but they SHOULD be afterwards.

Second would have to be "forgiveness" for screwing up, big things all the way down to little things. Take things with a grain of salt and life just keeps getting better. With forgiveness comes respect and repsect is also a very powerful thing.

Third would be "laughter"... Laugh at and with each other every day and make it FUN. If you are such a dead head that you can't think of anything fun well then I pity your spouse !!

Even little fun things like putting a penny in ones shoe, putting a little love note or just a smile on paper in a lunch pail or brief case or a naughty text messege in the middle of the day. Make it fun !!! I could give 10 things that make a marriage work but will stop since you only asked for 3... : )

I think marriage should be a five year commitment and then it should expire. After the five years if you still want to be married then you simply sign a continuing license and live on. If you don't want to renew the marriage then you both divide everything in half and move on. The lawyers would still make money due to all the morons fighting over crap they have accumilated over that five years.

I have not read what others have said, this comes directly from me and is how I see my life and the love of my life.

aaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaagh life is good !!

Answer 3

1: Open Communication
2: Humor
3: Support, Help and a listening ear from my family and his family!

I believe divorce is needed if abuse is involved, or a serious crime had brought my husband to prison or he cheated on me. Most anything else can be worked out. I feel too many people give up way too easily and do not want to deal with confrontations.

My husband is in prison due to charges from when he was 17. We had known each other for over 10 years and he was doing well. But he is finishing up his time and looks forward to coming home. He knows if he goes back to the way he was 6 years ago, He was involved with drugs and now is clean and happy. I would have to leave him if he got back into the drug scene, because I will not put myself into a situation that I cannot tolerate or jeopardize my life.

If we can get through this, we can get through most anything life challenges us with! The three things I've mentioned above have been the key to our relationship!

Answer 4

1) Communication
2) Open-mindedness
3) Work/maintenance of relationship

I think you have to believe that it is until death do you part. If someone views divorce as a way out, then they probably should rethink whether they should get married. That being said, more than half of all marriages end in divorce. People get divorced for lots of reasons, and many times people's lives are impacted in positive ways as a result. But . . . every person and marriage is different.

Answer 5

To make a marriage work you need:
1.respect
2. understand
3.strength
You MUST have respect for your spouse and yourself and have understanding and be understanding, because your spouse will NEVER be perfect and will have a bad day and will do things to get on your nerves. And you MUST have strength to endure the different cycles your marriage will go through, strength will make the bad times easier if you have the strength to know it is just a bump in the road. Marriage vows are most definitely till death do you part unless of course you are being abused, or your children are being abused or you are abandoned or if the spouse is a serial cheater, alcoholic or drug abuser or gambler who won't seek help or cannot overcome the addiction.

Answer 6

im in a serious relationship...the three things that make our relationship functionable are
communication
trust
friendship
and one more major factor
love

Ive been divorced from a horrible bad marriage...and ive learned the hard way i guess you could say. I feel that marriage after my divorce is sacred..you should olny marry somebody if you know it will last forever...you should marry somebody you dont have any doubts about sharing your life with, you should only marry if you know that that person makes your life richer. Im hoping i met that somebody...i have a lot invested into our relationship..i wont give up on it easy...we have all those ingredients to make a happy marriage..im just a bit scared to get married because the divorce statistics...but someday..maybe we will...i know i want to be with him til "death do us part"

Answer 7

I am married. I believe marriage should be forever. Somethimes, though, thats not possible thru no fault of your own. My 1st husband and I were married for 7 years and he cheated on me the whole time. When our second daughter was born he left for another woman. I moved on and found what I had been looking for all of my life.
3 things that makes it work? Honesty, Communication, and Respect. -- Actually, I think there are 4 things. GOD should be first.

Answer 8

I HAVE TO SAY THAT MARRIAGE IS SOMETHING THAT YOU SHOULDN'T HAVE TO WORK AT EVERY DAY YOU SHOULD LOOK FORWORD TO THE PERSON YOU ARE WITH COMING HOME EVERY DAY AND YES THEIR WILL BE BAD TIMES BUT IF YOU REALLY LOVE SOMEONE THEN YOU WORK THOUGH THEM DEEPER AND STRONGER IN LOVE DIVORCE I HAVE BEEN ONCE AND THAT WAS BECUASE MY HUSBAND LOVE THE DRUG MORE THAN ME. AND YOU CAN'T HAVE A LOVLESS MARRIAGE IT WON'T WORK NO MATTER HOW HARD YOU TRY . THE MAN I AM MARRIED TO NOW THE THREE THING THAT MAKE US WORK IS LOVE TRUST AND WE TALK ABOUT EVERYTHING EVEN IF WE THINK THE OTHER MIGHT GET MAD.BUT WE ALSO DON'T BUT OUR SELF IN PLACES WHERE THE OTHER CAN THINK THAT THE OTHER MIGHT BE CHEATING BECUASE ONCE THAT IN THEIR MIND THE IT IS SO HARD TO GET OUT .AND YOU MARRY FOR LIVE NOT INTELL YOU CHANGE YOUR MIND!!!!!!BUT YOU ALSO NEED TO THINK ABOUT YOURSELF IF YOU'RE BEING ABUSE.

Answer 9

Love Trust and Security

I do think that marriage SHOULD be death to us part but some people rush in to marriage to quickly with the wrong person so yea then divorce would be the way out

Answer 10

Married

1. Patience, lots of it, to ignore things that bother me, but i cannot change.
2. Trust, fundamental.
3. Respect. I have to respect and admire the person i'm with.

I do believe in commitment, which has to come from both partners. I believe that we are not perfect, and we may screw up from time to time, i believe that in the end, when your partner cheats on you, he/she is really chetaing on herself/himself. I believe that if a person knows why he/she has done certain things, can surely find a way to remedy it.
And when i say cheating, it can be any kind of cheating, with other person, with drugs, alcohol...the only instance where i would consider divorce as a way out would be if i was being abused. Or if the other person was in denial of the damage he/she's done.