he'll do it for up to half an hour sometimes, and won't tell me why or what he's thinking. any ideas what this means?
2007-01-08 06:05:38 · 27 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
we've only been married 3 weeks, and everythings pretty great. we have some communication issues that we're working on, but we respect & love each other. the staring usually occurs when we're just hangin out watchin tv (i think he does it when he's bored?)
2007-01-08 06:32:47 · update #1
It's a game.....He knows that it bothers you.......Tell you what......Next time He does it........Kiss Him!!!!! Every time He does it Your reaction should be Kissing Him.......Slap Him with a Kiss.......Don't allow him to bother you! Have fun with His mind now.
2007-01-08 06:09:59 · answer #1 · answered by Been There Done That 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If he knows it makes you feel uncomfortable and still does it, then that is why he does it. It's kinda like a power-trip.
I would suggest moving out of his eyesight range when he starts to do it. But I wouldn't act mad about it, or it will still convey the same message to him that it worked. Just tell him, "oh Lord here we go with this weird sH** again, let me get you a photo you can stare at while I go ____ (whatever task you want to put there)" and laugh. Or if you can, don't let it bother you anymore and just ignore it. He does it to make you feel uncomfortable, the less you allow it to have that effect the more likely he is to stop and find another way to.
2007-01-08 06:17:12 · answer #2 · answered by Jennifer M 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he won't tell you why, yeah...I'd find that kind of eerie. Most guys when they're caught staring at you are very happy to have an opportunity to express themselves and tell you how beautiful they think you are. Which is nice and makes a woman feel good.
But to stare is rude...obviously his mama never taught him that.
2007-01-08 06:14:40 · answer #3 · answered by gypsy g 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he enjoys watching you while you're cooking, or something like that, it means he loves you. If he just sits and stares at you for 30 minutes, he's losing it. Could mean he's plotting, or that he's trying to work your nerves. Either way, I think I'd leave the room when I caught him staring at me.
2007-01-08 06:13:22 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
There could be many reasons for this, but the main one i think is that you are not possibly showing him any respect. You see all men prefer to be respected first more than they desire to be loved, whereas women again desire love, it goes with their feelings and emotions. WHen a man gets no respect he behaves like your man, but give him respect and stop criticising and nagging him and he softens towards you. Dont provoke him.
Change your tactics! You show him respect and you will get love. In fact ironically its biblical to do that. God commands men to love their wives and wives are commanded in turn to respect their husbands. Be glad someone is telling you this, because I went through 27 years of marriage before I learnt this and I wish I had learnt it sooner.
We have to learn to quit the mud slinging and living defensively. We need to bring in maturity, integrity and dignity along with respect and love. We need to learn to communicate properly with one another. You need to understand how men think and operate and thus I am going to recommend two books to you to read. WHen you have read themread them over andoever until you understand clearly what is being said to you.
I think your man is tired of nagging and criticism and bad mouthing from you. He is angry and hurt and thinks you have no respect for him, hence those looks. PS those are just to rattle you and clearly its working!
Read WILD AT HEART by John Eldredge a book more for the men but necessary for the woman to read. THe second book is Love and Respect by Dr Emerson Eggerichs. Im sure they are available in your library and if not are available in any book store. i found my copies in a christian book store. I hope these help you change your attitude and also to rise above your feelings and emotions and choose to do the right thing instead. Good luck to you.
2007-01-08 06:20:19 · answer #5 · answered by uniquechild 5 · 1⤊ 5⤋
boy, looking at you like that for half an hour is kinda creepy. well, you just have to tell him it bothers you, and be serious about it. if he continues... well i guess, if everything else is ok, if he's treating allright i mean, then i suppose you will have to live with it, honey. if he becomes weirder and weirder everyday, then i believe you might have to seek counselling or something like that.
2007-01-08 07:53:20 · answer #6 · answered by kath 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it means he is a SCORPIO, and is reading your soul, or you, to the very deepest core of your soul.
He Loves you. No worries I say.
Maybe he is just messing with ya.
But if he is a Scorpio, I bet ya can't ever dissuade his, DEEP PENETRATING GAZE.
Ofcourse I don't believe in any of that...
SCORPIO...
DJH
2007-01-08 06:10:36 · answer #7 · answered by gemseeker 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
try talking to him while he is doing this and don't stop,
like a most men, probably will get annoyed with the conversation and do something else or leave.
2007-01-08 06:12:52 · answer #8 · answered by Chrispy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stare at him too....lol I dont know maybe hes totally in a trance because of your beauty...But if your uncomfortable by all means let him know....
2007-01-08 06:08:20 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Stare back! Make sure He's the first to break contact.
2007-01-08 06:07:03 · answer #10 · answered by maj 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Kick him in the nuts, see how well he stares then :P Does he know it makes you uncomfortable? If not, tell him or offer a picture for him to gaze at if it's your beauty he's staring at....
2007-01-08 06:09:20 · answer #11 · answered by darkness_returns 4 · 0⤊ 2⤋