Ive been gay all my life and this Kid at my work come up to me on our break and told me he was gay also, but his parents abuse him call him names ect.
how can I help with out getting bashed myself?
2007-01-08 06:01:19 · 14 answers · asked by ? 4 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
Well as far as going to talk to his parents is concerned, that's way too touchy a situation. The VERY nearest I'd go to that is tell him about PFLAG and tell him that although you won't talk to his parents as that would likely make the situation worse for him, he can at least tell his parents about it without bringing you into the situation at the same time.
There are many ways you can show your moral support. You can sit and have a coffee with him during break or after work and listen to his problems. But what you can do as well is tell him what youth groups are available for him as well. In fact, why not go with him to his first meeting together after work? It'll definitely show him you support him unconditionally, plus you'll be a good, gay role model for him. And give him as many book or book titles as you can. If he's hearing hate from his family, he needs as many resources and supporting people as possible to counteract that with love.
2007-01-08 15:05:58 · answer #1 · answered by Megosophy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He needs to deal with his parents on his own. It's not your place to do anything with them. It's something he will have to work out, either with counseling or otherwise. Youi can be there for him....being supportive. Be a good listener, offer him a shoulder to cry on, and a place to come if need be. Give him info on resources in the area that can help....counselors, etc.
2007-01-08 14:03:44 · answer #2 · answered by nottashygirl 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
for you to do this on your own honey I'm gay to[ when i was 16 i told my ex babysitter brother that i was gay i knew he was he was 18 we started talking .......and well i have never looked back 45 now married another guy 23 yrs been together] but with today times maybe send him to a gay/bi/trans/ centre close by if not then do your best wish you all the luck
2007-01-08 15:02:16 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
if my son was gay..i would be a bit shocked at first..but i would get over it quickly. your friends parents should be ashamed of themselves...they will drive him away and it will be their loss!
life is very short..so we all have to try to be happy in whatever way we can - sod what other people think!! who cares who anybody sleeps with?? - on the scale of things..its just not important!
you are already helping your friend..just by being there for him - well done. in time...he will learn to rise above the snide comments from others...and move on. i wish him luck..and you too!
2007-01-08 14:13:01 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hello =)
I think the idea of having a little suare of those persons who would be supportive and helpful would be a nice idea......
Gather up some of your gay and pro-gay friends, and have a party...a "gay bash"...an "outing"..... it truly is something to celebrate, after all.....
Namaste,
--Tom
2007-01-08 14:06:03 · answer #5 · answered by glassnegman 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just be a friend to him. Listen to what he has to say without interrupting with opinions. Just listen. It can go a long way. Let him take his time with coming out, as I'm sure you know how hard it was for you to come out.
2007-01-08 14:13:28 · answer #6 · answered by Autumn 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Congratulate the kid at work for coming out to you, dish out advice and be there when he needs it.
Does this other person have any relatives/friends he could talk to?
2007-01-08 14:04:36 · answer #7 · answered by swelwynemma 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Be his friend. He needs to know he is valuable to someone. Value him and be there to support him until he can get out of that environment. God, I feel so sorry for him. Thank you for caring.
2007-01-08 14:04:45 · answer #8 · answered by donewiththismess 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
just remind everyone that you care about that you are the same person you were in the closet. it's hard to come out of any closet, no matter who you are.
2007-01-08 14:04:03 · answer #9 · answered by wrldzgr8stdad 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I don't hate gay people and I don't know anyone who mistreats them. Maybe things won't be as bad as you think. It's your choice.
2007-01-08 14:06:01 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋