Do all exs act like Jeckell and Hyde?

Question

When they call you when they are alone they treat you with respect. When they are around the new person in their life they treat you like crap. Or is it just my ex that does this? how do you handle it when you have kids?

Answer 1

No, they don't. I get that he is afraid to make his new woman jealous/insecure. You need to talk to him about this alone and tell him it needs to stop. He can be polite or someone else can pick up the kids. Better that then the kids seeing that nonsense. They need stability and peace. He needs to act like a grown-up. Best of luck to you.

Answer 2

Fortunately i do not have children with either of my exes...though my first X doesn't do this...but my second is jekyl and hide. I could tell when my X had a love interest because he wouldn't call my cell phone. Now he only calls to tell me something new about him...like I care. But none the less to keep the peace I just tell him how wonderful it is that things are going to so well for him, etc. Because if you don't you can bet that you'd stir up a big ole pot of sh!t and he'd become belligerent, call you names and he'd call more often. This way I only hear from him one in a blue moon and rarely accidentally take the call.

Answer 3

the thing is when to people are separeted or whatever it is u want to call it. they show more emotion than logic. Yea they want to be with u if their acting all nice with u. but they know in the back of their mind that they don't know if it's going to work out and if they have someone else there they act like they don't care. But in all reality they do. NOw to answer the question on how to deal with it when u have kids. i would just have to say that the person acting like this needs to get their act togther cause once u have kids it's not just about ur feelings anymore. they have to be confronted about their actons because it's not just about them anymore.

Answer 4

Yeah they all act like that, even if you wasn't the cause of the break up their still upset with you. They'll treat you real nice and then all of sudden your dirt under their feet especially if their new friend is there, they trying o show them that you don't mean a thing to them , when act that way , they still have feeling for you.

Answer 5

From my experience, yes. And with kids, you just gotta try to stay more calm and rational than the ex, cause to the kids, the one who's freaking out all the time is the one they'll remember.

Answer 6

Sounds like your ex is very confused.~ Tell him to get his s*** together and that your not going to put up with his actions in front of the kids. You don't deserve to be treated one way than another.