What is a reasonable time to allow a 14 year old girl out in the evening? We live in a reasonably good area, she is with her friends but what time is reasonable for her to stay out with her friends?
2007-01-08 05:53:16 · 22 answers · asked by lozziboo 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
I think you should sit down with your daughter and discuss what she thinks is a reasonably time and what time you think is reasonable for her to stay out till. Then reach a compromise between the two of you. I believe as long as your daughter has a say in the time she comes home she would more likely respond positively to the arrangement . Maybe also be lenient on the time a little bit say at a weekend or if a important event is on ..
2007-01-08 07:56:48 · answer #1 · answered by scorpionbabe32 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am glad my daughters are in their early 20's now but i remember the age 14 only too well! I'd say 9-10 pm at the weekend and if they ask to stay at their best friends house overnight, check via a phone call that that is where they are, they have issues with the truth and like to think they are 18 going on 25, good luck!
2007-01-08 15:00:31 · answer #2 · answered by thalia_marks'swife 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I find this quite a hard one to answer as im not at that stage yet as my daughter is 10 but I have thought about it lots....to be honest at 14 in find 9 oclock quite late....I'd have to say 8-30 latest and no hanging around the streets.....but then id also sit down with my daughter and see what we can thrash out together...i want to give her a little freedom and be responsible and not just me laying down the law because all that does is make kids tell lies because they feel that there oppinion doesnt count....it does if its reasonable and justified....id set a time and if she wanted it later for a specific reason then I'd go and pick her up if its too late.
2007-01-09 18:44:48 · answer #3 · answered by Jp 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am 13 years old, and am allowed to stay out until 9:30 on school nights, and 11:00 on the weekend. It gives me a sense of freedom and I appreciate it very much. I am well trusted with my parents, because I have no desire to do anything bad. I can take care of myself like I do almost every Day of the week. I take care of myself as a full-time job, only I am responsible for myself. I have loving parents who work their butts off for me, so I have to keep my end of the deal by keeping myself safe and out of trouble. The curfew depends on responsibility. How responsible is your teen? Tell me that, then we will talk.
2007-01-08 23:54:50 · answer #4 · answered by Temmymuffin 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What time have her friends have to be in. I have a 14 year old cousin who lives down the road from myself she has to be in at 9.30pm. But just hangs around in the street. On the wkend i think she can stay out a little later, there is a group of them who hang out so shes never on her own.
2007-01-08 13:59:32 · answer #5 · answered by lisa c 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is dificult but here goes:
8:30 - school nights - non organised event
9:30 - school nights - organised event
9:30 - weekend - non organised event
10:00 - weekend - organised event
Make sure you know at least 2 of the people shes out with reasonably well. Even though she may not like it give her the lecture about dangers regulalry. Trust her to make sensible decisions, but remember she must earn your trust. Finally know where shes going, what shes doing, and the people shes with. If in any doubt keep her in, its better to be safe than sorry.
2007-01-10 11:56:54 · answer #6 · answered by rockchick130289 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Times have changed,i have a teenage daughter and dont like the way teenagers hang around when theres nothing to do.I also dont trust these dark nights.I would say 8.30,during darker months then later in summer.Every parent has different fears.Ican remember how my hormones were at 14 also so that makes me even more wary!
2007-01-09 18:23:06 · answer #7 · answered by smiler 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I cannot believe that person who said she's allowed to stay out until 11:30. I think 8:00 is more than late enough.
2007-01-08 15:30:49 · answer #8 · answered by spelling nazi 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
At 14 you should always know where she is and who she is with. If she is hanging around the streets she will be open to drinking,drugs,shoplifting etc. Peer pressure is a strong influence.
You should know her friends and their parents and they should get together at your homes. Trips to the cinema,bowling or whatever else they show an interest in are great, you can take turns with other parents to chaffeur them to and fro. To allow them to hang around the local shops or parks bored is just asking for trouble.
2007-01-10 18:37:21 · answer #9 · answered by cathyjast 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She should not. I don't allow my daughter out in the evening. To do what? To go where? What is so exciting about hanging around in the street. I did it when I was a kid....boring!
She can be at her friend's house (providing it's OK with the parents) or at your place. Too many dangers, too much peer pressure!
2007-01-09 08:47:26 · answer #10 · answered by Stef 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋