I am 37 weeks pregnant and this week is the last week for me at work. I am very upset that no one at work has planned a baby shower for me. I work with group of about 25 people. My direct boss is a single male and usually the direct boss organizes something. Would it be appropriate to throw myself my own baby shower at work or how should I ask for it? I don't want to sound greedy but I am really hurt by it.
2007-01-08 05:41:55 · 33 answers · asked by BabyOnBoard 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
There is no polite way to ask someone to throw you a baby shower..that is just something that one does because they want to do it for you,it would be very rude to ask for one. I am sorry your feelings r hurt though & maybe if you have a good friend there they r planning you a surprise baby shower for you,you never know,but if not then try your best to just forget about it.
2007-01-08 05:43:46 · answer #1 · answered by CRYSTAL S 6 · 6⤊ 0⤋
Hey, not everyone throws a baby shower for a co worker. When I was at my other job I had one (which was nice) it was a surprise for my last day b4 going on maternity leave. Now that I'm in a new job I'm not sure if I will have one, but I wouldn't dare ask for one that is very classless. You have to act like it's no big deal. Asking for one, would make you look poor and immature. Anyway you never know maybe they are planning one for you. Even if they don't you really shouldn't be upset, some people just don't have the time or the $ to do something like that for a co worker, hopefully your family will throw one for you.
2007-01-08 06:17:41 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't. A babyshower is not a given by the person who is having the baby. I understand that you are hurt by this but what could you possibly gain other than material things by having your own shower? If anything, you know what kind of people you are working with. Your direct supervisor is obviously not aware or doesn't give a hoot about your having a baby. If anything the person or people that you think are your friends should be doing something. Who knows maybe they are really good at keeping a secret.
Best wishes for a healthy baby.
2007-01-08 05:52:36 · answer #3 · answered by Lisa D 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't ask 4 a baby shower @ work bcuz those sort of things are done bcuz the staff wanted to do it and it is not mandatory that they throw you a shower. You are an adult and you shouldn't be dwelling on a shower you should just pray and hope fore a healthy baby. people do things on their own. if you ask for a shower it will seem like you are desperate and need their help to support your child. I say Just get over it and enjoy your pregnancy and then enjoy the baby
2007-01-08 05:55:54 · answer #4 · answered by Tee Tee 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry, there is no polite way to throw yourself a baby shower or to ask for one. Try not to be too hurt, if your boss is a single guy, he has just not thought of it. It is out of his "zone of reference".
It is one thing to be hurt that you feel forgotten or neglected by those you work with and totally another to ask for gifts and a party.
Try to focus this last week on what you like about your office and on anticipating the arrival of your sweet baby. Nothing can compare to how full your heart will be when he or she arrives, you will forget all about not having a baby shower!
Blessings and congratulations,
Mom of 5 with another on the way
2007-01-08 05:48:33 · answer #5 · answered by Momof6 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
With my first baby, I went on a massive shopping spree the first month of my pregnancy so I had everything. My co-workers just signed a card and that was it. There was another woman in my department that was also pregnant and she went on telling the world how her married boyfriend abandoned her although she knew he was married and she was in her 40's, blah blah blah and the company threw her a massive pity baby shower with everything a baby could possibly need although she had a teenage daughter, messing with a married man and in her 40's. She acted needy and got everyone to chip in. Eight years later with my second baby, I lived in another state and my co-workers there took me and my husband out to dinner where we opened our presents at the restaurant but not at work. Now with my third and last baby, I am already hearing rumors of a baby shower in one of the conference rooms. Work 2 and 3 are world class companies (Fortune 20) with top notch personnel while the company I worked for during baby #1 hired anyone off the streets. DO NOT ask for a baby shower. If they do not do anything for you then your co-workers are pretty sleazy.
2007-01-08 08:02:00 · answer #6 · answered by Lucci 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't throw yourself a shower or ask someone else to either--especially colleagues. I would be totally turned off by that. You may feel a bit slighted, but think about the ramifications of asking for a shower (asking for gifts).
A woman at my job invited me to her shower a few years ago. That really ticked me off-I barely ever spoke to her, and she's asking for a gift? I avoid her now--the whole thing made me think she's a jerk.
Your co workers will likely wish you well, and some may choose to give you a gift fo rthe baby on their own, but again, don't go asking for a shower-that's horrible.
Congrats on your baby, BTW.
2007-01-08 05:48:36 · answer #7 · answered by melouofs 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Work is work, pregnancy falls under "personal".
Your co-workers are under no obligation to throw a baby shower for you. If you've displayed your entitled attitude under different circumstances, it might be the reason that a shower isn't planned for you.
I would understand you being upset if it were tradition in your office to celebrate everyone's birthdays, anniversaries, etc., and you were the exception, but I doubt that that's the case.
2007-01-08 05:53:27 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's pretty rude to ask for your own baby shower and it completely makes you sound greedy.
How do you know they're not planning something after the baby is born? Asking now will completely put them off doing anything for you at all. And if they don't do anything - don't sweat it. You having a baby doesn't obligate your co-workers, friends or family for that matter to do anything.
2007-01-08 05:51:24 · answer #9 · answered by chicchick 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dont!!! There is no right way to ask them to throw you one. I understand you are hurt. I would be upset too. Maybe they are going to surprise you, I dont know. Just try to look at it on the brighter side. They might have all just put in on a gift card for you instead of throwing you a shower.
2007-01-08 05:48:49 · answer #10 · answered by msprettyalldtime 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋