about 125 married men want to marry me but i ask them why they got married, they anwered 10 points
1. bored sexual activities eg everyday he eats onlu hicken that become boring.he needs different foods as diffeent women.
2.wives keep complaining
3.lack of commuication
4.stress about family income
5.fight always
6.family hate them
7.waste money a lot
8.difficult to solve their kids' problem
9.stress by job
10.mistake choice wives be with them........
i do notknow why they go suffering during marriage. they like girlfriends are a lot of fun more than wives............
will i not amrry? because if i got my husband he will say marriage is bored and unhappy.
they need divorce.............
marriage is not a game and not easy..........
please help me to know me how to be succefull marriage? secret of successful marriage i like to learn more then i will get ready or not ready................................................
2007-01-08 05:29:54 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
1. If your truely in love, then the bedroom will neve be boring, you willalways be looking for new ways to please your love.
2. Why are they complaining? Take the time to listen and then try to correct what they are complaining about.
3. Same as number 2, LISTEN to them.(goes both ways too)
4. Learn to live within a budget and both be part of it. (Listen to Dave Ramsey)
5. Never go to bed angry, always resolve it, or drop it.
6. You married them, not their family. Families need to learn to respect your/their choice, not try to influnce it. If they don't like it, then don't include them in your activities.
7. same as number 4
8. Both need to set rules and BOTH need to enforce them.
9. Leave your job at work. Hard to do but do it. If Job is that bad, find another.
10. huh? need to be more clear in answer. If you mean they made a mistake, well, if there is kids involved, you NEED to make it work.. You made them, you BOTH need to be there for THEM.
Your right, Marriage is taken to lightly now. It should be a law that no one can get married without being legally engaged for at least a year.
Pre Marriage counseling should also be required (and in some states it is)
Also, Adultry she be a enforced crime again, with details published in the papers right next to the sex offenders.
2007-01-08 05:55:09 · answer #1 · answered by Common Sense 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is no secret. You really just have to find someone who is committed, honest, faithful, loving and who is willing to discuss and find ways to eliminate the problems that arise during all marriages. Finding someone like this is not easy, but it is not impossible either. Also, people change during the course of any marriage so even if you find someone who has these qualities you never know if these things will remain. Personally, I think the best you can do is pray for your marriage if you are religious, and try to be that ideal mate that you want whether or not you are religious. Theres little else that can be done.
2007-01-08 05:35:17 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
In 'man's defense', more often that not, the women we date are not the same as the women we marry. By this, I mean, the girl you've dated for x years is great - she sexy, exciting, fun-loving, and care-free. Then, after their married, the sex dries up faster than water in the Iraq, Victoria Secrets is never worn in place of sweat pants and sweat shirts, exciting and fun loving turns into watching HG TV, and care-free turns into worry about everything under the sun. And it only gets 200% worse when kids are involved. Any relationship is a 2-way process - it's not just the 'guys fault'. Good luck to you.
2007-01-08 05:41:24 · answer #3 · answered by [><] Rebel 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I don't agree, I have been with the same man for 14 years and happily married to him for 8 years, we have had our ups and downs just like any marriage and neither one of us has cheated. You have to be supportive of one another and best friends even when it gets tough. There is always fights, but if you choose to get married it is important to work at it and put effort into it if you want it to work just like any job. You have to be wife, friend, lover to your husband just as he is to you and must always make time for one another and not neglect each other. If you find the right person there is no need to stray.
2007-01-08 05:36:41 · answer #4 · answered by MRod 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you are talking to some first class loser man.
A REAL MAN:
Can communicate at least someone effectively.
Controls the family finances with his wife's imput.
Is master of his own sexuality and communicates such with his WIFE.
Is able to satisfy HER sexually as well.
Acts in such a way to garnish the respect of not only his family, but all that know him.
Do NOT CONFIDE with women outside his marriage without his wife knowing.
Can handle ANY problem one of their very own offspring might face.
Like I said, bunch of losers you are talking to!
2007-01-08 05:36:01 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You have to willing to let the stupid little things in life go.
humor, sex, attention to oneanother is important as well
work on what each one wants, compromise on some things
2007-01-08 05:42:26 · answer #6 · answered by picture 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
communication and understanding and compromise are the keys to a successful marriage
2007-01-08 05:36:48 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
marriage should only be gone through with mature, thoughtful, kind men and women and should only be done in front of God, not the state.
2007-01-08 05:35:03 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Heck Don't get married because you are going to go through all this and some(smile)
2007-01-08 05:43:08 · answer #9 · answered by gblue52 3 · 1⤊ 2⤋
I am not ready for it.
2007-01-08 05:31:49 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋