I have two girls the oldest one has stayed with my parents alot, and still does. I want to move with my ex my youngest wants to go. My parents don't think he has changed, but I have my own house to come back to if I have to. What do ya'll think I should do?
2007-01-08 05:15:00 · 11 answers · asked by tina b 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
try it, but do not pressure the one who deosn't want to; especially if she can stay at your parents. if things work out, she will see it and follow you over.
2007-01-08 05:22:09 · answer #1 · answered by bjohnson808 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go see a lawyer - but if the payments are for the child this probably won't change. Do some checking on your boyfriend - make sure he doesn't have convictions or allegations that you do not know about because they could be used against you. How long have you been together? What are your intentions? If your ex goes after you then make sure you can show stable home environment and evidence of a permanent relationship - serial monogamy is not good for kids. What have you got on yr ex? keep all or start using the law to keep track of yr ex's actions. You need an audit trail or police records or lawyers letters/proof of meetings to evidence the harassment and threats that he levels at you. Do you still talk to your in-laws? can't they help their son to re-focus his life? Do they know what he is doing to you? While they will be on his side, they must see that wearing you down will not be good for their grandaughter in the long run. Failing that - know any single women you don't like and hook him up lol. On a serious note. Just because you don't love him anymore and have moved on doesn't mean that he is mad. Sadly we all recover at different rates. Sounds like closure issues. Maybe you need to have a talk so that he can move on with his life too.
2016-05-23 11:09:17 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
take the opportunity to think back on all the reasons he is your ex to begin with. How is he now? has he really changed?
its been my experience that people can change (sometimes for the good sometimes not) you can always try this ( a trial basis)
because he could always fall right back into the old routines.
i would put my foot down with the daughter, if she is rebellious now and you let her get away with it, then what is it going to be like in say 2 or three more years? she is setting a very bad example also for the younger one. can you hear it now? "well, you let her do it why not me?" or "fine if you won't let me i'll just go live with grandma"
2007-01-08 05:27:19 · answer #3 · answered by angel1 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should go with your hart ! after all your girl will become some elses lover or partner and in good time she will come to her sences and relise that she has her own life. Dont let your daughter distroy ya hart as my daughter did with me and my ex after a 23yr marriage. They can make things worse rather than the better.............. anyway life is too short and ya may never get what ya hart really wants. Do you think your parents could be pulling strings (may be they dont like ya ex?) Go back and if it doesnt work and he goes back to the Old ways just burn him and start again lets not forget ya younger daughter it may help her understand why ya left him in the first place but a chance to show ya care of family values to ya girls and at least ya gave it a second shot. Hugz
2007-01-08 05:29:48 · answer #4 · answered by scratch_n_sniff 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Listen to your parents and daughter..What part of X do you not understand?Hey a person only changes to benifit themselves.Don't go back on that merry go round.Unless you have a rental agreement and everything is in writing making sure he dosen't have the right to come control your life.Beleive me if you give him an inch he will take a mile.BE CAREFUL wuith that..If you can find another house take it..
2007-01-08 05:25:00 · answer #5 · answered by gblue52 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try to remember that yes, your kids are very important in this decision but in the end it is what makes you happy that is what matters here. your kids will grow up and have there own lives and when they are teenagers the fact that you are with or without a man wont even matter to them. you need to make yourself happy and that happiness will trickle down to your kids. As long as your ex treats the kids right than that is all that concerns your children.
2007-01-08 05:33:15 · answer #6 · answered by play hard 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Put your children's wellbeing above doing what you want. Stop playing musical houses and stop forcing your children to deal with your inability to make a decision. You married him, you divorced him, now you want to move in with him again-- and this behavior of yours is healthy for your children.... how?? Sounds like your oldest daughter has more common sense than you.
2007-01-08 05:23:34 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
How long has your ex been a chaged man ??? has he really??????? go ahead and move you can always go back but leave the kid who wants to stay she is probably smarter then you are.
2007-01-08 05:24:07 · answer #8 · answered by picture 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Look at why you broke up in the first place. I would personally always put my child before myself, though. You need to find out her reasons and actually weigh them in on your decision.
2007-01-08 05:22:24 · answer #9 · answered by tx girl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stay in your house, don't uproot your kids from their home.
2007-01-08 05:19:33 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋