2007-01-08 05:11:29 · 14 answers · asked by patcary@sbcglobal.net 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
My grandkids are 7 and 4 and they love their 'Silly Bill'. Since we live together I have to tell them he's gone, and since he has refused to sign another lease in March and in his words, 'you better take care of yourself and find your own place to live'. I have done that and I think it's a much healthier environment than with him. His son, Jason, got thrown out of Bill's house just before we got together, and they just re-kindled their relationship with much proding from me. Jason is so mad at his father now for doing this to me it saddens me that this man can toss anyone to the curb and not have an ounce of feelings either way. This man didn't go to Jason's wedding, didn't see his only grandchild come into the world, because he's stubborn. I know I'm better off. He's lied to me so many times and I catch him at it again and again.
2007-01-08 06:32:48 · update #1
Why do you think you need to? If they ask where he is, tell them you don't see him very much anymore. Beyond that, it's none of their business.
2007-01-08 05:15:07 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Since your kids are older you will be able to talk to them as an adult...you may want the parents to talk to your grandkids and explain to them at their different age levels what has happened...they will be confused and not understand and may have a lot of questions so be prepared when talking about this...make sure to let the little ones know that the party that is no longer involved is still your friend too that will help ease some of the hurt and confusion. Good luck...it's not easy to explain a situation like this
2007-01-08 13:17:16 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
first, you don't "have " to tell them anything. if there are questions then you can be as discreet as you want to be. (please don't vent in front of the grand kids) unfortunately, sometimes relationships don't work out like we want them too. use your own judgment on how much or how little to tell the kids and then let the kids tell their children (unless they're already grown) and then you could just give everybody the same story.
listen, this is probably hard enough on you (as an individual) without worrying about what somebody else thinks.
take care of yourself first--do some things you have always wanted to do, learn a new skill, visit an old friend you haven't seen for a while. whatever you do, get out and don't let this thing get you down.
2007-01-08 13:20:02 · answer #3 · answered by angel1 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If I was you I wouldn't say anything unless they ask in curiosity. Just be you and spend time with them. I highly doubt it will matter to them unless your personality with them has changed. Kids mostly just want you to be with them and show them you care.Unless you are spending more time with them now than you were before and used to put them aside for this relationship than they could be confused by the changes you are making in time with them and maybe fear you will do it again eventually.
My best advise is regardless of who your with, it wont matter too much to them as long as you love them and show them this with consistent behavior and the one that you are with treats you and them good.Kids can be complex but when it comes to the things they don't know much about, they leave that up to you to handle and do right by them with.
2007-01-08 13:21:34 · answer #4 · answered by vmaxer85 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think posting this question once was enough. 4 or 5 times is excessive. Anyway, just tell them it didn't work out and it's for the best. It's best to be honest. Good luck to you.
2007-01-08 13:18:59 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is no easy way to do it, but i would suggest that you and you ex husband tell them together. For me it was much better to hear it from them together.
Hope everything works out
2007-01-08 13:15:41 · answer #6 · answered by acm 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Invite kids for a meal and tell them, be honest but don't tell them more than you want to. Chances are the news will spread without your having to tell everyone.
2007-01-08 13:14:31 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
when my dad and his old gf got divorced my dad just sat me down and said "you will no longer me seeing kim and her kids" I was 11 when he told me and was so sad. My point is tell them in a loving way. Abd be positive about it. lol i am just a teen but if my dad was to tell me again that is how i would want him to say it.
2007-01-08 13:15:35 · answer #8 · answered by skater-chick133131 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe just sit them down and have a talk and explain why this happend, what it was doing to u and what u are looking for in your life right now.
2007-01-08 13:14:15 · answer #9 · answered by Krissy 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You try to be kind. Don't lie, but put it in easy to understand terms. P.S. how old are they? the grandkids?
2007-01-08 13:13:55 · answer #10 · answered by maryfairy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋