My grandchildren absolutly love this man and so do my two kids. This hit me out of no where and I'm worried how they will react. He attended my son's wedding with me and was included as a member of the family and he spent money like a crazy person on Christmas and now he says he didn't want to be the 'bad guy' and ruin the wedding or Christmas. He's in pictures and movies with all my family. This is so wrong and selfish but he hasn't been honest with me for a long time I've found out.
I'm going to be okay. I have friends and a place to stay. Just not sure how my kids will take 'yet another broken relationship' from Mom.
2007-01-08 05:09:11 · 9 answers · asked by patcary@sbcglobal.net 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Just be honest with them about what happened. They are your family and they love you and want the best for you. No ending to a relationship that concerned the entire family is easy but regardless, they will understand when they know the truth. Hugs to you.
2007-01-08 05:13:37 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think if this guy still appreciates you and your family then maybe he should be involved to say goodbye to them in a respectful way. Perhaps one last family get together or a letter. People arent perfect and some men never grow up. Maybe thats all he has to say. He or you could simply could say he made some poor choices and now has to live with the consequences.
Just be open with your kids and honest. Reality/ Honesty is the best policy. Dont sugar coat things if you need your children to be supportive of your choices and understanding of your point of view. The grandkids can be sugar coated if they are children too young to really understand. This man (or the fake image he portrayed) doesnt have to ruin the memories you all created together. If you all enjoyed times together then that is great! Dont think of this as a dissapointment but use it as a lesson to be learned, at least he was nice enough to be considerate for the well being of your family over the holidays and the kids got some cool stuff and memories from his presence.
2007-01-08 05:26:23 · answer #2 · answered by jessBcuz 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your children and grandchildren will love you no matter what. They may miss him but they will understand. I'm sure you will have so much love and support from all of them. Be proud you have them by your side.
As for the man he was selfish for not being honest but it was thoughtful of him not to ruin your families special moments.
2007-01-08 05:25:52 · answer #3 · answered by VC 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honesty is the best. I am sure that will be OK as long as they know that your going to be alright. After you are the mom and your happiness is all they really care about. Good luck and God Bless.
2007-01-08 05:13:44 · answer #4 · answered by meanny 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell your kids the truth the grandkids a watered down version.
2007-01-08 05:41:29 · answer #5 · answered by simplydelicious 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
its not your fault it didn't work. you don't have to tell every detail, but enough that they know why it didn't work. if you truly are OK...then show them how strong you are and keep it that way. if you can at all help it, keep the "crying eyes" for your friends shoulder and not your family. it will make the "broken relationship" transition very easy for them and you
2007-01-08 05:17:22 · answer #6 · answered by Get_R_Done_n_Dallas 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, honesty sucks, and lying blows. Tell your children the truth. Just why did he break it off. If they ca understand they will.
2007-01-08 05:13:56 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Love heals everything. They'll be fine right along with you.
2007-01-08 05:11:57 · answer #8 · answered by INDRAG? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell them why it didn't work out
2007-01-08 05:11:22 · answer #9 · answered by billy 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋