i have been with this man for 6 months and was with my kids daddy for almost 10 years how do i tell my fiance that i dont want to be with him anymore that i want to be with the kids daddy again because he has patiently waited for my return and stands up for me to his family
2007-01-08 05:04:46 · 7 answers · asked by gigi 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Well, you have to open your mouth and say it.
You must say it right now, it WILL crush him for now, but at least you won't crash all his life, like you are doing with your life, your "kids daddy's" life and your own kids life.
2007-01-08 08:46:56 · answer #1 · answered by Bella 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Engaged after 6 months? Ex waiting? Ok, for starters, it sounds like you left your ex, and he has not gave up hope. I would not even worry about the new stud, and that is what he is if your engaged after only 6 months. If he was ready for marriage without knowing someone better, then he will have no problem moving on. The bigger issiue is why you left in the first place. Unless it was over abuse, you and your ex need to get serious counseling before getting back together. The one thing unsaid here is that you are dragging around your kids, and putting them through this without any concerns. I hope you can fix your relationship for their sake. But, no matter what, get counseling and stop shaking up their lives. (And NO, they won't just adjust) If you and your Ex do not work out, you need to worry about raising them instead of finding a bed partner or a step daddy.
Thats the biggest problem with todays kids, to many without the 2 parent home. And yes I can throw stones so to speak, I am a single DAD, not by choice (Ex choose drugs and sleeping around over kids). So I see first hand what it does to the kids.
2007-01-08 13:15:42 · answer #2 · answered by Common Sense 5 · 2⤊ 1⤋
He wil be crushed either way so just be honest with him and tell him sooner than later. Wow, and he proposed to you after just six months of courtship? Oh, he's really going to be hurt.
2007-01-08 13:12:26 · answer #3 · answered by phillylady4u 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I guess first of all you have to see what changed and why you left in the first place, it's not fair to keep the guy you are with now in the background. Just tell him be honest.
2007-01-08 13:08:56 · answer #4 · answered by Krissy 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Listen to the Prophet.
6 months is nothing. And if abuse was not involved your children should be thrilled to be back with both parents.
2007-01-08 13:31:25 · answer #5 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You can't. You will crush him. There's nothing you can do about that.
Maybe you should be more careful about agreeing to marry someone while you obviously have feelings for someone else. He will probably hate your guts.
2007-01-08 13:07:11 · answer #6 · answered by fucose_man 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
You'd better think that one thru again.... what make you end your relationship with your children's father???? It's still there, hon. You don't have to choose between the two of them, you can choose neither....
2007-01-08 13:14:32 · answer #7 · answered by April 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋