Relationship communication issue?

Question

I honestly don't know where to start. Basically, I am in a relationship where my girlfriend and I don't communicate much. We never fight, she always asks me to go places with her, and we watch movies together. Honestly, I think sometimes we partake in activities that force us not to talk as if subconsciously we are both purposely picking such activities. She seems to laugh so much more with her friends, but she doesn't laugh very often with me. It seems like our relationship is very routine. We are very limited to some of the things we can do because she has cerebral palsy. She can walk, but she needs the assistance of crutches to do so. So, taking walks along the river or a bike trail to get fresh air is out of the question. I don't know what to do. I love her and her daughter so much, but I'm just not sure if she feels the same way. Sometimes, she makes it seem like she loves me back, but other times, she seems distant. I think she cares about me, but she may not be happy

Answer 1

The only way to find these things out is to ask. With all aspects of life communication is very important to having a worry or stress free life. There are other romantic things to do that don't involve walking, how about sitting beside said river and asking her respectfully, "is there anything I can do to make you happier" Don't guess about things which may be wrong or not making her happy, make or find time and ask her. Good luck.

Answer 2

I see why your name is "good man". I am a disabled woman too, and I can tell you that when I started dating my husband, I acted somewhat the same way because I was constantly afraid that he would reject me because he would lose some of the things he likes to do, such as you said with walks and bike rides. But he reassured me so much, and it has worked out fine. Perhaps that is all she needs, but make sure she feels the same way about you. Good luck to you both.

Answer 3

Most important of all is to remember that your girlfriend is a mother---this forces her to take life very seriously all the time. She might be the only person her daughter can depend on for survival, so she knows she can't be frivolous--she's probably preoccupied with the realities of life all the time, as she might be as a mother, even if she didn't have cerebral palsy.

She probably likes you a lot (women are usually very picky, and do NOT waste time with men they don't like!).
She also might see and treasure qualities in you that you don't recognize. She has to be tough, with a "shell" to protect her and help her keep her own self-esteem because of her condition. Treasure this aspect of her, and respect it.

Answer 4

She might be scared, scared to get to close in case you decide to leave. It sounds to me like she is protecting herself.

You lose nothing by telling her exactly what you just said here! She will want to know what you are thinking. The best person to get the answer you want is to go to her and talk.

Good Communication can start with you, give it a try, and be as honest as you can be.

I wish you both happiness, good luck to you !

Answer 5

well,communicationis very important in a relationship.If there is great loving comunication then everything else will generally take care of itself.Keep trying to talk to her and dont give up :) Good luck and all the best to you

Answer 6

Sounds like her plate is pretty full without having to worry about stroking your feelings. Maybe she is just uncomfortable talking to you because some previous @sshole wouldn't allow her to speak. Try to slowly draw her out....I bet she'll talk about her child. Take it slow and be patient with her.

Answer 7

Please talk to her and tell her what you've said here. Ask her if she's happy, maybe even what it would take to make her happy. Make sure she knows how you feel and that you want to improve things. Best of luck. :)