What can I do to reunite with my ex after our relationship of 11-years ended 5-months ago?

Question

I'm 43 & she's 39.
Basically we broke up because her dream is to be an at-home-mom and we determined we could not do it without our 2 salaries (we need $78K annually). We'd be married with kids if we had the ability ($). Any ideas?

Answer 1

she left cause of money? im not sur you should get back with her

Answer 2

First off on the money end of things, why do you need anything? Why is there this specific figure of $? Your mortgage, your lifestyle, exactly what is it that brings about this $78K figure? In the beginning were the aspects of a family ever discussed or considered? Hey pal, maternal time for your lady is starting to run out. You sound as perhaps you might be a little on the selfish side in life. Why did you bother marrying her in the first place? Give it a few more months and perhaps by then somebody else will have given her all the things she needs!

Answer 3

If money is the only thing stopping you from being married then it's not love anyway & you have no business having a family together. Where there's a will there's a way. If everybody waited until they were financially stable to have kids almost nobody would have them. Sacrifices must be made. It's noble of your girlfriend (I guess that's what she is) to want to stay home to raise her own children. Time is running out for her though. If she's 39 you two need to get busy. Her biological clocking is ticking loud & clear! I'm sure she's now probably looking at the whole thing like she's wasted 11 years of her life on someone who has never cared for her enough to make a committment to her. Think about it from a logical point of view as well since that seems to be where your reasoning comes from: If your girlfriend continues to work it costs money for child care. It costs money for wear & tear on a vehicle to travel to & from work. Work clothes cost a lot more than stay-at-home clothes. She probably pays for lunches out most days of the week. For me it made more sense for me to stay home with the kids because when we put the figures down on paper it would cost me to work. Surely there are other sacrifices you can make that would allow you to be together & with a family. It's all in WANTING IT to happen. It sounds to me like you are just making excuses. There are plenty of poor people out there with kids living happy, fulfilled lives. Nobody NEEDS $78k annually. If that was true then $78k would be considered the national poverty level and that is far, FAR above poverty level. I think you are being selfish. You should have married her a long time ago.

Answer 4

first off she's wrong for leaving you just because she cannot be a "at home mom", everyone hates to work, but she needs to understand that THAT'S LIFE. If you can't afford it right now, then tell her maybe later because of the money. The both of you need to stick together through bad times. Although you've exhausted the possibilities of your 11 years relationship, there's nothing worse than having a woman who will just walk out on you when things are going rough & especially if she doesn't get her way. Without you, she will not be able to do it for herself unless she finds a rich man to love her the same & let her be that at-home-mom she's been dreaming of, and since when did staying at home become a dream anyway? All women work! the only ones that stay home are the ones who are RICH who have husband's that allow them to stay home because he makes so much money that they will have to pay additional taxes if the wife had a job. One of my Auntie's is a stay-at-home mom & she says it's nice to not be able to go to work, go shopping & watch her kids grow up, but at the same time she is bored out of her mind & wishes that she at least has a part time job. Unfortunately, my Uncle won't let her because he says it's not necessary since he makes a lot. So, unless you yourself can pull in $78K+, then your woman can be that at-home-mom, but why put yourself through all that agony over a woman who will just walk out on you because she didn't get her way?

Answer 5

have you two broken up fixed the problem
1- she will not b able to be a stay at home mom being on her own
2- you will not be able to reach the salary goal of 78k on your own
so lets put it this way you two need each other
so sit your butt down and talk
maybe you guys can cut in expense and she can work part time

Answer 6

After analyzing this i might want to get a Restraining order too, Dude she Poped your Cherry, She did not make you prosperous, and also after analyzing this you're WHIPPED!! let it go sounds to me the in consumer-friendly words ingredient you 2 had turned right into a sexual courting, in case you extremely Love someone you do not sit down there in arguments and call them Names, it really is infantile BS.

Answer 7

I think that you could maybe find another job for money or keep the one you have and have two jobs, and as for your ex, she can do the same until you guys have enough money to have kids. ! good luck, I wish you the best....!♥

Answer 8

What has changed?

Are the reasons you broke up still valid?

If they are, again, what has changed?