When i found out my ex finally had sex with someone els after our break up i will never get back with him. How do you do it?
2007-01-08 04:40:26 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
There are a lot of different things that could cause someone to cheat. Mostly there is a flaw somewhere else in the relationship. What you do after you discover that one of you was cheating is figure out why and if this will happen again. Also, you have to be able to allow that person to earn back your trust. Sometimes people make mistakes....and sometimes some of the mistakes are greater than others. No one is above cheating given the right set of circumstances. The trick is to avoid getting into the situation where you might in the first place. LOVE is supposed to be patient, kind, and unfaltering. It is not always easy but if you can make it through the bad and enjoy the good, it is worth it.
2007-01-08 04:54:39 · answer #1 · answered by Airlantiss 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It is called unconditional love. Some times you just know in your heart that a person and relationship is worth the effort to try to fix what went wrong. And the most important thing here to remember is that we as human beings are fallible, we make mistakes, and often the mistakes we make hurt others. I believe that people make mistakes and some people can be truly sorry about what they have done and what to make amends. I don't believe in a person making the same mistake again though. People will always make mistakes and if you have enough love for that person anything is possible, and forgiving a person for being unfaithful ONCE doesn't make you weak or stupid or have low self esteem, it takes a strong loving person to want to work past all the pain you have been through. Everyone is different and everyone has a different tolerance for this issue. Love is love and until you have had your feet to the fire you will never and I mean never know what lengths you will go to, say all you wish about it, but until then you will absolutely NEVER know what you will do, because love does strange things to people.
2007-01-08 04:50:28 · answer #2 · answered by Premo Mom 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
This has not happened to me but I know someone that it happened to. If you are talking about a marriage then each individual has the right and responsibility to decide if the marriage is able to be saved. If it was my marriage I would take into account if this was the first time and if so is my spouse willing to get help, if so then I would work on saving it. This is one of the problems with society today, marriages are disposable, sad.
L.
2007-01-08 04:52:22 · answer #3 · answered by tink3610 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Whats the problem here? So what he had sex with someone AFTER you're break up...My my aren't we controling. When two people no longer date, they are free to roam the feild for a mate. And because of silly little girls like you how think they can still control their ex after a breakup, give women a bad rep. Get him, and more importantly, get over yourself. Because you end it with someone, doesn't mean they have to edn their dating life forever....
2007-01-08 04:48:57 · answer #4 · answered by Pandora 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Im the same way... ID NEVER EVER EVER take back someone who cheated. Once a cheater, always a cheater. Taking someone back who cheated is like saying... go ahead and treat me bad because I'll take it. Its ridiculous.
2007-01-08 04:42:38 · answer #5 · answered by Angel Eve 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is an individual personal decision based on both the person , the
circumstances of the offence and past history.
2007-01-08 05:00:40 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he had sex with someone else "after" you broke up, he never cheated!
2007-01-08 04:45:12 · answer #7 · answered by DORY 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your ex didn't cheat; you were broken up!
Sounds to me like the relationship was not meant to be.
2007-01-08 04:49:50 · answer #8 · answered by AnnieD 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It really depends on the circumstance. I forgave my husband and i never doubted him again. We are both happy and have been married 23years. This happened on our 7th year.
2007-01-08 04:54:47 · answer #9 · answered by bluemist 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he had sex while you were on a break up? so what
he is your ex, don't take him back, you left him for a reason.
2007-01-08 05:08:05 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋