I got married to my wife very quickly without either of us getting to fully know the other. We have been living together for 3 months now and we love and care for each other a lot. However, our personalities are quite different, and we have day-to-day problems relating to each other and enjoying each other's company, although we do not argue. We could stay together because of the love although we may be wasting our lives if there is often little enjoyment when we are together. What do you think we should do? Should we give ourselves a few more months to see if we can enjoy each other's company more, finish the marriage now, or resolve to stay together regardless?
2007-01-08 04:38:42 · 27 answers · asked by asylumseeker 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Give it a little more time! You don't want to give up someone you love easily. Try counseling, it can help! Trust me.
2007-01-08 04:42:49 · answer #1 · answered by brown_iyed_grrl 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You should wait a little longer. Have you actually tried putting in an effort to have fun with your wife? Set up a nice date. If you put in the effort, she will do the same. Don't give up until you have used all resources to salvage your relationship. Seek counselling. I have been living with my b/f for over a year. He makes me laugh all the time. We spent the whole weekend together watching TV and movies and he made me laugh so much, we had such a good time all weekend and we didn't even leave the house. You two deserve the same sort of relationship. He gets me more than anyone else on earth. He knows just what to say to make me laugh and smile. Get to know each other.
2007-01-08 04:57:10 · answer #2 · answered by hello 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
For goodness sake what did the pair of you do before you got married surely you had interests or hobbies or did things together - it makes me so mad when people do not work at relationships - if you love each other and are both faithful then stay together and find something the 2 of you can do together.
If you are thnking of splitting so quickly perhaps there is no love there and you were both just carried away with lust and have now woken up and realised what you have done!!
2007-01-08 04:43:52 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
This sounds a lot like a situation I was in. The marriage ended up failing. However, I think it could have been saved. I think that when you agree to marry someone, you have to remember what you swore to do, you said an oath under God, you commit your life to this person. You are having some personality problems right now, but you can definitely overcome them. What you need to do is work on the ability to compromise. You need to be accepting of some of her traits and work on finding enjoyment in some of the things she likes to do, and vice versa. Definitely, DEFINITELY give it time. Try to understand that the things you don't like about her are apart of who she is, and if you love who she is, you need to love those things. After all, time will continue to change her character traits, and she will continue to evolve and change as a person. Some of the things that bother you now may not even exist after awhile, or you will grow to love them as you grow to love your wife. Just treat her like a princess and grow in love together. If you are feeling really weak, seek out a church leader. Honest.
2007-01-08 05:05:58 · answer #4 · answered by CPDawg 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
everyone in relationships have differnt things they dont like about the other person, u dont fully understand another person straight away takes time, sex will get better and better the more ur together, marriage is a big thing and maybe yes u did rush into it, but must of felt right to start with otherwise u wouldnt be married, stick with it and see in a year if u still feel the same if not then dont waste anymore of each other precious time.
good luck
2007-01-08 04:43:04 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would say give it a little more time. Maybe try to get to know each other better. Don't understand why you got married so fast instead of getting to know each other better first. Just try to work out the problems that you two have and who knows maybe talk to someone about the problems you two are having and see what happens. Good luck.
2007-01-08 04:46:41 · answer #6 · answered by SapphireB 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you have any kids? If you do you have to stay and make it work. But if you don't give it a few months and see what happens. What is the main problem? If there financial problems? You should sit down together and make a list of all the things that you like about her and all the things that you want to change about her. I hope that things work out for you.
2007-01-08 04:43:46 · answer #7 · answered by anisarkisyan 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Giv yourselves more time - its a huge step living with someone especially if you don't know them that well. Take up a haobby or do something new together - its always good for bonding.
Hope you work it out - if you can't dont stay together regardless - that is no life at all.
2007-01-08 23:28:12 · answer #8 · answered by intelligentbutdizzy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Three months and you want to break up, oh please. Marriage is a compromise and since you love each other than you should be willing to make sacrifices. Communicate without demeaning the other person and be direct.
Seek marriage counseling to help you through and good luck.
2007-01-08 04:53:51 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You must have been attracted to each other in the first place, give it more time, maybe a long time!. I am a firm believer in 'life is what you make it' who knows what the future might hold. None of us are perfect anyway.Good luck.
2007-01-08 06:45:28 · answer #10 · answered by Plato 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Living with someone new is always weird especially if you haven't known them for long just give it time you will get used to each others ways and learn to get on. if your not arguing or trying to kill each other its a good start. Keep trying and good luck
2007-01-08 04:46:28 · answer #11 · answered by Giggle Angel 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋