me and my ex got back together after a 9mth or so split. previous to that we had a 8 year relationship. after me being there for her when i could and us not having sex or any sexual contact for 9 mth we somehow out of the blue got back toether i was not expecting it. it was amazing she was coming to my place which she said she never would i slept at hers we were going out everything for 3 weeks. it was amazing, then a few cracks came back from the past and i asked her about it (him) and she went cold on me, i gave hertime and just simply asked (what you doing tonight) every night for 2 weeks it was (nothing but staying in by myself and with our daughter) so eventually i couldnt take anymore of it she wouldnt talk to me about anything, and i said fine lets just forget it then. which i didnt mean. now she just wont talk to me at all apart from a small civil conversation when i pick my daughter up. now 3 weeks later i have gave up trying to talk as she has been very rude to me ---
2007-01-08
04:31:19
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things like look just face facts (i dont love you anymore) i was like yeah thats what you said 8 mth ago fine but we got back together and you said you still did and you werent going anywere remember>?
so now shes got really rude shut off completley and told me to f off or she will get me done for harrasment. i dont know what to do, what did i do? honeslty i dont think anything at all.
she is sleeping all the time and im not saying anything bad about her but im just so lost, could it be she got scared or was this all just one.... i dont know im confused it was so real and just 5 weeks ago. now NOTHING
2007-01-08
04:34:04 ·
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oh and all i have been phoning for is to try and talk, some days she will somedays shes abrupt and rude, then when i see her we have a laugh still. but she wont talk about us! its doing my head in!
how can u get back with someone after 8 yrs and a 10 mth split, everything goes fine, he obviously as she knows has a few down points but hey dont we all. then screw me up again by ending it knowing how much i love her and i have done so much for this women
2007-01-08
04:36:41 ·
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Move on and FAST. I would be willing to BET MONEY that if she knew you were out with some other girl- she would want you back. Trick of the trade... its HUMAN NATURE to want what you cant have, as soon as you made yourself readily available to her, she no longer wanted you like she did... If you make her think you are moving on... she is going to want you back. Good luck
2007-01-08 04:34:36
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answered by Angel Eve 6
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The obvious is screaming at you. The breakup was the best thing for the both of you when it originally happened. It is very rare that you can ever go back somewhere. You think for a little while that now it's different, but it never is. Sooner or later the exact same stuff that brought on the break up before, starts up again.
Life is even shorter than you already think it is, and you're "burnin' daylight". Move on in a hurry. Just do what you have to do, as your obligation to the child, but otherwise just simply cut the ties and be firm about it if she comes around later wanting to cosy up to you. It WILL happen all over again, and all you will be doing is returning to old, useless territory.
2007-01-08 04:44:39
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answered by Anonymous
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Splits are never easy in a long term relationship. You think splitting up is the answer but all you're left with is questions.
If she doesn't want to get together again now you have to leave it - whatever your feelings.
Just keep it a day at a time and see how things pan out. If you're meant to be together it will happen.
2007-01-08 04:37:52
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answered by Anonymous
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Women need space give her more time..but don't wait on her in the mean time you should start going out and dating. It sounds like you two are very young. You can still be a big part of your daughters life she is the only girl that should matter right now.
Good Luck
momof4
2007-01-08 04:40:52
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answered by mary3127 5
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well i put it to you like this , you caught her doing something wrong and she don't like it , so now she is going to treat you like crap , i say if you 2 are meant to be then you will be .but if you keep breaking up and getting together stop because it will only hurt more in the long run ...... and ps . don't stay just for the child because it will hurt the child more than eaither one of you ... so i say just stay friends for the child but don't put yourself thur the heart ache and pain of trying to get it to work .. i tryed and i only got hurt more ... ps good luck and hope everything works out for you
2007-01-08 04:39:12
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answered by Anonymous
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It appears like your sex life were fairly absent in the previous you separated, what consisting of his deployment and then being despatched off lower back for preparation, so it truly is organic to be pissed off. If he needs you lower back, and also you may't get him out of your head, of direction, what might want to be the damage in permitting him lower back in by way of courting? of direction you doesn't pick to leap lower back into an total time courting, yet this can grant you with the chance to work out if he's severe about desirous to rebuild your courting, and to scratch your itch, to be blunt. after I separated from my now ex I too went by way of a few thing similar. i become so lonely and scared and sexually pissed off that i might want to cry each nighttime so i began courting him lower back. It gave me what i necessary, the time to work out that he extremely hadn't replaced and had no objective of doing so, the skill to be sure that this become no longer what i needed, and it soothed my libido adequate that i might want to imagine instantly. We did have an twist of destiny in this time that led to my outstanding daughter, yet I left him lower back regardless and that factor i turned right into a lot more effective useful prepared to cope with being unmarried.
2016-12-28 09:47:29
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answered by ? 3
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i'm in a very similar situation, except i have son. you need to just leave that kind of love in the past. you guys broke up for a reason right? let her go back with "him" and see where it takes her. you obviously deserve better.
2007-01-08 04:34:56
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answered by Anonymous
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Never go back.
Just be civil to her if its what she wants but only for your daughters sake. This could and is shaping up to be very messy and I hope for your sake it doesn't get that bad.
Good luck.
2007-01-08 04:35:26
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answered by ? 4
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Just be the best father that you can to your daughter and leave you ex to figure things out for herself, she sound confused.
2007-01-08 04:34:50
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answered by stringhead3 4
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