2007-01-08 04:25:58 · 18 answers · asked by rivers&dreams 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
theres no kids involve.
2007-01-08 04:53:09 · update #1
Hello there, for me i would still be friends, but not a close friend. I am not saying that you should be a close friend to your ex because he may still love you.
Bye bye
Good luck!
2007-01-13 09:13:23 · answer #1 · answered by Ravie l 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
One of the saddest things in life is to wind up hating someone you were in love with. Believe me, this can break your heart.
It is better to avoid this by reducing the tendency to blame your spouse for everything that goes wrong in a relationship. Some people are just impossible, and that's a fact. But very often both people are responsible for failing relationships. You need to take responsibility for your own contribution to the failure while at the same time being forgiving of the other. If you can do this, you can remain friends, and this is far far better than retreating into a bitter shell. I've been married 3 times and am still close to 2 of these ex-wives (and glad that I am). They know each other and aren't the least bit jealous of each other. Love is such a good thing that it is worth preserving.
2007-01-08 04:33:15 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok, sweetie. i am actually trying to deal with the a similar thing. Me and my ex have been trying to be friends, its kind of hard considering how things ended and why. So heres the skinny. If he is an ex because he was a lousy bf, but a great friend, let him go. If it is over b/c of you, let him go. If it was a mutual thing that you two weren't meant to be that's cool, that just might work out as friends but if there was hurt feelings to cause him to be an ex, the friendship will not last. Me and my first ex- do not talk at all, we tried but it was too weird. Me and my present ex- tried to be friends, ended up fighting all over again. My advice, learn something from your experience with him and move on. good luck and God bless.
2007-01-15 15:27:50 · answer #3 · answered by babyblue76al 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, I'm in the exact situation, my dear! You see, (big love-triangle) story coming up. I dated this guy, Louis* for a while, who was best friends with another guy, Craig*. I dated Louis, but thought I had feelings for Craig, so I dumped Louis & started dating Craig. I felt really bad afterwards, and it was my loss because Craig & I just didn't work out. So, after a few months, I went back to Louis, who eventually got over the whole me dating his best friend thing (and we're still together!!). Both of them got over the breakups, and as soon as I started re-dating Louis, Craig and I became close again. I consider him my best friend, but he has feelings for me now that are stronger than that, which he won't own up to. (It's very obvious...late night calls..."accidentially" kissing my cheek...). So, my answer is yes, you can be friends with your ex if you make it work and don't lead them to think you want more than that. Just act normal around them. If you ask for them to come to dinner with you or a movie, they may take it the wrong way, so be careful. I wouldn't try jumping into being friends if you guys just broke up, because feelings are still strong. Give it some time, and maybe he'll realize that you don't have the same feelings for him. But, if he cares for you, he can accept your decision.
2007-01-08 04:33:51 · answer #4 · answered by 0akland 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it's great to stay friends with your exes. I'm really good friends with my ex, he knows just about everything about me and can tell me things that I don't wanna tell myself. If he is still in love and your not, you've just got to let him know where you stand. It's hard, but in the long run you'll feel 10x better.
2007-01-12 05:51:50 · answer #5 · answered by Little_Bit 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Exes should stay exes. You broke up for a reason, and that reason hasn't changed. If they're still in love with you then you're leading them on. Do them and yourself a favor and break off contact. It's not healthy.
2007-01-08 04:28:56 · answer #6 · answered by none 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why do you want to stay friends with your ex? Live in the present, not your past.
2007-01-08 04:38:09 · answer #7 · answered by Paul 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are there children involved? There is nothing wrong with being friends with you ex. Their exs it doesn't manner whether they are in love with me or not.
2007-01-08 04:32:59 · answer #8 · answered by stringhead3 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, it is OK to stay friends with your ex. Love dose not have an "OFF SWITCH ! " You may not be compatible ,that dose not mean you cant still care for someone.
2007-01-14 19:21:10 · answer #9 · answered by mike f 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your ex is still in love with you it is not wise to stay friends.
2007-01-08 04:28:01 · answer #10 · answered by Weiners and Beans 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋