If one is not with the father of the unborn child, but he still talks about being there, would it be wrong to not give the baby his last name? Shouldn't it be a privilage for someone to carry your name?
2007-01-08 04:21:47 · 21 answers · asked by vivs043 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Newborn & Baby
if the father wants the child to have his last name, he needs to marry you. otherwise, don't stick your child w/the last name of someone who may choose not to be around. my daughter has my last name & my attitude is this: either both of our last names will change at the same time if I get married or hers will change when she gets married.
2007-01-08 05:34:37 · answer #1 · answered by L. 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes it is a privilage. No you do not have to give the child the father's last name. I did that because I felt "it was the right thing to do." We weren't married, but we were together. Now he is never around, and I regret it, big time.
2007-01-08 12:35:01 · answer #2 · answered by AV 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are not married then it is your choice as to what you name the baby, even if his name is on the birth certificate. I had a baby girl at the age of 24 and even though me and her father were not together at the time she was born(unfortunetly she was stillborn) I decided to give her his last name anyhow because he was there for me during a difficult pregnancy and he deserved that honor as for my 2nd child, his father was no where to be found during my entire pregnancy(we split up just a few weeks before I found out I was pregnant and he basically dropped off the face of the earth, tried looking no luck) so my son has my last name.
2007-01-08 12:38:41 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
U are right it is a privilage. A man can talk about being there all day long, but in reality he can run and do whatever he pleases, you, unfortunately, will be stuck with a child who doesn't even have your last name and a constant reminder.
2007-01-08 12:31:55 · answer #4 · answered by Vanessa H 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It depends on the state you live in, there should be a form you can fill out to do it. If you are not married, he has to sign the form stating that he is the father of the baby. I know my fiance would have lost it, if the state wouldn't let our son have his last name, fortunately they will even give you the paper while you are at the hospital after delivering. (Saves you from having to adjust the birth certificate later)
2007-01-08 12:27:30 · answer #5 · answered by squire_rhiannon 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's not wrong for a child to have his or her father last name. If you are not married, give the child your last name. That's the way it was done 30 years ago.
2007-01-08 12:28:12 · answer #6 · answered by jazzy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am not married to my daughters dad but we are together. I have children from a previous marriage (and he does too) so I decided to hyphenate our daughters last name. It's mylastname-hislastname. That way she shares both our last names and also matches our other kids last names (not exactly but close). After my divorce I kept my married name due to the kids. If I chose to remarry then I will hyphen my last name too. I think it's good to use both last names of the parents on the birth cert but that doesn't mean you have to use the whole last name for day to day things. Also in the hospital, he was there but they asked ME all the questions when it came to the birth certificate and he didn't have to sign anything.
Keep in mind - you might not like the dad anymore but that is still your childs father and it will be up to them to decide if they like their dad or not. No matter what you say to your child - they will make up their own mind on their opinion of BOTH their parents!
2007-01-08 13:40:50 · answer #7 · answered by Scorpio 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My husbands niece has her Mom's last name, Mom and Dad were not married and barely dating, so she decided to give her her name. It is the choice of the person filling out the Birth Cert. form in the hospital. Dad may try to take Mom to court later on to change the name, but if he is not involved, he probably would not bother. She should do what she wants- it is HER baby too.
2007-01-08 12:25:57 · answer #8 · answered by Smilingcheek 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Personally I think it's stupid for the mother to give the baby it's father's last name is he isn't going to be the one raising it! I know people who have 3 or 4 kids all with different last names!! Give the baby your last name!!
2007-01-08 12:26:02 · answer #9 · answered by ♥Stranger In Maine™♥ (Thriller) 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
You can give the child whatever name you want to when you fill out that birth certificate when baby is born. But generally I would think it is best to give a child the fathers name. Don't cut him out of your childs life, but do ensure that there is a legal custody and visitation arrangement in place and stick to it. Don't use your child as leverage in your relationship or break up with him.
2007-01-08 13:20:07 · answer #10 · answered by LindaLou 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋