and know the engaemant is off and we went to sixs flags yesterday and know he wants to break up with me over that. i keep telling that i didn't. what can i do?
2007-01-08 04:12:32 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Ask him to take you to the person that "told" him, and the three of you have a talk. If he refuses, this is just his way of breaking things off with you. May be time to move on.
2007-01-08 04:15:14 · answer #1 · answered by NAN G 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well your fiance does not know the really facts, and whoever told him that you were cheating on him probably does not know what they are talking about. So he is believing lies that aren't even true. It might help if you set the record straight even more like tell everything you know from start to finish. If he really loved you and wanted to marry you then he would listen to what you have to say and not be quick to jump to conclusions about what he has heard since he was either told a pack of lies or just does not know what he is talking about, Maybe it is a good thing that you are not engaged anymore since you know his motive to wanting to blame you for something that did not even happen, it is time for you to make a choice you might not want to make and it might be time you said good-bye and why, You know he won't believe anything you say reguardless of what you tell him. I know you don't want to, but it might the only way you will find the right one and be truly happy and you think you are happy but inside there is a chance you could be hurting from this dramatic event, you really don't need this kind of drama in your life.
2007-01-08 04:33:21 · answer #2 · answered by gordonflames242003 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are the one who should be freaking out here, someone accuses you of something you did not do. He is trying to find a way of breaking up with you (and a stupid one) so let it be, you should be the one calling off the engagement if some one does not trust you. the other big possibility is that he cheated on you and when one cheats he has a strong feeling the other did. Move on
2007-01-11 23:54:54 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds to me like he is looking for an excuse. I would say he does not trust you at the very least and you are better off out of that relationship if that is the case. Find out from him who supposedly told him this and let him know he has a lot of nerve believing them over you. I think though for you it is a case of good riddance to him. If you get back together it shows on his part a lack of trust and that is not a good foundation for a marriage.
2007-01-08 04:18:44 · answer #4 · answered by The_answer_person 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is a trust issue. If he can not believe you, then it is best you end this relationship before you are married to someone and are miserable. Or he is just saying that as a way to get out of marriage. Either way, move on, he's not the right person for you.
2007-01-08 04:17:11 · answer #5 · answered by Heather Rae 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Bear in mind there are many different forms of "cheating", don't assume he meant you slept with someone else like everyone seems to be.
He might simply mean you flirted people have very different interpretations of the word "cheating".
Your answer lies in him and the person who accused you of it. Go and talk to him and as already said both of you need to confront this other person with the facts.
If he won't, or doesn't believe you still there isn't anything else you can do to prove it to him to regain his trust.
The only options that are left are councilling or moving on.
HTH's
2007-01-08 04:21:18 · answer #6 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all usually when someone starts acusing their partner of cheating it is because they themselves are the one cheating.Secondly if you don't have trust in your relationship then you don't have a relationship because without trust you have nothing.He obviously is not the one for you get out now while you can.
2007-01-08 04:16:57 · answer #7 · answered by Maureen B 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it could be an excuse sorry to say but if it were me i would say,,"right,,who told you and lets go and see them' if he wants the truth you have a right to be there to defend yourself and your reputation,,,,,,there is always 'someone' out to cause trouble but without other proof usually it takes more than just gossip for a partner to end it! you dont have to sit there and take this and if he doesnt want to go and sort this then it isnt something he wants to know the truth about.
2007-01-08 04:17:32 · answer #8 · answered by lex 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nothing. If you really didn't do it - you can't force him to believe you. I would hope that he has enough faith in you, but I guess not. I guess he has more faith in the person that told him, than you. Take that as a sign of things to come. Do you really want to marry someone that has no faith in you?
2007-01-08 04:15:12 · answer #9 · answered by Bondgirl 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
NAN G took the words right out of my mouth.
2007-01-08 04:19:39 · answer #10 · answered by marie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋