How do I get rid of our roommate?

Question

Before my husband and I got married he had a roommate who is also his cousin. When we got married we also bought a house. The roommate couldn't find someplace else to live with such short notice (we were engaged for 1 1/2 years). So we decided to let him live here while he continued to look for a place to live. It's been 8 months and he's still 'looking' (he does actually go to see places) he annoys the heck outta me, since he's constantly around, doesn't clean up after himself and often decideds to follow my husband and I on our dates...(we let him know we're going out to a movie that night, he decided to go too...in his own vehicle, then needs to see the same movie when we get there). Before we were married my hubby lived with this guy for 4 years....and doesn't really see the problem because he is often away because of work. I'm sick of this guy, I married my husband, not this other guy. I shouldn't have to clean up after his filthy lifestyle, he's not my husband or my child

Answer 1

Speak with your husband and explain to him that this has gone on long enough and that you both need to sit down with this cousin and give him a month or two notice to find other living arrangements. He certainly must have friends that he may be able to move in with. If not he has a job and may have to live in a motel for a while until he can find someplace suitable. If your married and have a child then you most certainly should not be responsible for cleaning up and looking after him also. Best of luck and hopefully your husband can see your point of view and will get on the same page as you regarding this situation.

Answer 2

Talk it over with your husband and set a move out date with the roommate and stick to your guns, in meantime, start looking on your own for places for this person to move into, because it really looks like he is seriously not looking. On the day that he is suppose to move out, have his stuff by the door along with the U-Haul truck that he can drop off once his stuff is move into his new place. Sometimes you have to light a fire under people because they get so comfortable, not even thinking about inconveniencing the people that they are living with

Answer 3

Try to help him find a place of his own and express to your husband that you feel as a married couple, you'd eventually like to have the house alone with him. Does he pay rent & stuff or is he just freeloading? Sorry, I'd feel the same way as you, too, and I'd have to put a stop to it.

Do it before things get ugly because with roomates, things almost always do when there are resentments!

Answer 4

how much rent is he paying? if not tell him he needs to pay the going rate for rooms in your area. If he says he can do that find him a room at the same rate and tell him to pack his stuff. If your husband says anything tell him you married him NOT his cousin and you feel like a bigamist. THAT will get his attention

Answer 5

PUT YOUR FOOT DOWN, AND BOOT HIM OUT!!!!
NEW WIVES, HAVE MORE POWERS OF PERSUASION THEN WOMEN WHO HAVE BEEN MARRIED FOR A WHILE, ACT NOW!
CONVINCE YOUR HUSBAND THAT WILD SEX THROUGHOUT THE HOUSE WILL COMMENCE UPON THE ROOMMATES DEPARTURE, BRING IT UP OFTEN. EVENTUALLY THE PROMISE OF EXCITING SEX WHILE FORCE HIM TO KICK OUT THE ROOMMATE.

THE OTHER THING THAT YOU CAN DO IS - PACK THE ROOMMATES STUFF IN BOXES ~HINT-HINT~ OR GIVE YOUR HUSBAND THE ULTIMATUM THAT IS COMING ANYWAY - HIM OR ME.

Answer 6

Tell your husband either his cousin goes or you are going to start sleeping with him everytime your husband goes away for business... tell him it won't be lovey-dovey sex either, you're talking angry mean take out all your aggression during sex kinda sex... yep, that will make any man kick this man to the curb. GOOD LUCK.

Answer 7

your husband has a choice to nake!

Answer 8

Find a place for him......