Why do women HAVE to change men???

Question

Is it some sort of mothering instinct???

They should date/marry/whatever a man for the way he is, not for what they can change!!!

AND then to add insult to injury, they complain - "You're not the man I first met!!!" Of course not, you NEEDED to mess... Then they find someone else and do the same all over again!!!

Do gay men change each other too???

Answer 1

LOL...these are some funny answers, the TRUTH is, divorce rates, fairy tale like movies, and country music, which I like. When my grandparents got married there was no thought of change or divorce. They had the attitude in their head that this is the person they would spend their life with, no excuses, no whining, no running away when things got tough. If women were smart they would look at these older couples and realize they had problems at first too but if you stick it out with someone you will gain so much love and respect from them that there will be no need to "change" them. You will both naturally adapt tp each other. Thats what I think. The other question you should ask too though is why men continuously fall for this type of woman?

Answer 2

I've been trying to understand and have struggled with this question for years. I guess it comes down to a few things.... most women in general... will get to know you on a first date.

But when you are together for some time... things will eventually change. I think women always picture the future... or the level of committment with men they date. In order to cope with your behavior and who you are... most women want to see progress in you by changing you.
It gives them control and that feeling of 'love' because they know you would do anything for them.

It can be pretty harsh, exhausting, and time consuming in the beginning... but on the way... you will learn so much more about their behavior and attitude. It will grow with experience. That is part of the fun.... it's about unlocking their mysterious cycles at the end of a long day.

Very confusing... and very complex from a male point of view. But not as much as you grow. Always remember... women are beautiful angels. Treat them like one. It's more about recieving and not getting what you want.

Also ask yourself this.... do the number of women give their bodies up for sex with another man in hopes that he will 'love' her in return? Most women know men want sex... so that is another issue they may be pressured to think about. It's a give and take for both sexes.

Answer 3

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Answer 4

i slightly disagree not all woman do that if sumthing has gone wrong in the relationship the couple should confide in each other and sort out there problems together not try to change each other after all we woman can b tough sumtimez but not me you r who u are if u don't like me then f***k off that's what i would say if sum 1 tried 2 change me same rules apply to men that's my opinion any way women do not have the right to change any1 if they want to change sumthin tell them 2 change the house around and that u r sick ov looking at the same room lol

Answer 5

Great question, though I think we are the culprits many times. What I mean is that when we are first dating, we show an artificial side of ourselves in order to attract the female. The female then says to herself, "Self......this is the perfect man for me...so nice, considerate and hygenic!". Then either after marriage or after a time of dating, our true self comes through--we begin to fart openly, shave less often, shower less often and revert to our true selves. The woman then tries to get us to revert back to no avail.

This happens in reverse, too, you know. Women put on this nice, tolerent facade to attract us, and then later revert their less kempt and less attractive selves. The key, I think, is either to be yourself from the beginning, or change your way of doing things on a permanent basis to be truly more attractive to your mate. Your question is valid, though. People rarely change under the direction of someone else--has to come from within.

Answer 6

The women want to date a "bad boy" until she gets serious and wants to settle down. Then the nesting instince takes over and she wants her "bad boy" to give up his ways for her whether he likes it or not. He don't want to change. Women should marry the type of guy that they want to settle down with, the nice quiet guy. A woman wants her "Married Bad Boy" to turn into the nice, quiet man. No way. Seek out what she wants to marry not with what she wants to have a good time with.

Answer 7

Well, did you have an open relationship when you got together? No? Sounds like you did change. You went from promising to love only her, to loving the neighbor as well.

Answer 8

It jsut that most of ladies fall in love and didnt think abt themselves. They became BLIND! its common!

Answer 9

Crazy, isn't it? But what are the alternatives? gay men are just as bad if not worse....lol!

Answer 10

I agree 100%! But where can we find prince charming?