Is it fair to ask my wife to have breast implants? After 3 kids?

Question

I keep myself in good shape for her. I go to the gym 3 times a week and walk every night. The walking is in large part for my own health but the gym is mainly for her. We both agreed that the others physical appearance was very important to us at the beginning of our marriage 11 years ago. Now she has three kids and while I do not expect her body should look like a 21 year olds (she is 32) but I do want her to get her breast fixed. She breast feed our kids and now that all that is over and we are not going to have any more children I want her to have the boob job. She is not so sure she wants to. Before children she was a 36b cup and perfect in my eyes. Now I have no idea what cup size but they do not resemble the pre-kids boobs I loved. Am I asking too much?

Answer 1

A boob job might be asking a little much, but it's certainly fair for you to ask her to try some skin tightening/firming lotion on her breasts and to do some pectoral exercises. That should perk them up a bit. Why not have her come with you to the gym?


EDITED TO ADD:

While it's certainly respectable for you to do everything you can to look good for her, you're not undergoing major surgery. Asking her to come with you on your walks and go with you to the gym is NOT asking too much (frankly, it's only fair since you do it for her), but asking her to have major surgery to look good for you isn't really fair to her. Women can't help that our boobs start to look ugly as we get older, it's a price we pay for having kids. Like everyone else has said, imagine how it would make you feel if she asked you to get a penile enhancement because your dick is not what it used to be. While it might be true, it would still hurt you like hell. Ask yourself: Is the appearance of my wife's boobs so important to me that I am willing to hurt her so much?

Answer 2

You seem like a pretty straight forward guy, and this does appear to be a genuine question...

But somehow it's my job to make you see that you are being a real jerk, an *** hole, and you are contributing to putting us men back another 400 years!

I'll give you another way of looking at this.

She loves you enough to have given you three children. She's worked harder than you (or I) have ever worked in our lives to bring up those three children.

And in return, you show your respect, your gratitude, and your love, by saying, "while you have worked your *** off raising our three kids, and I have been off at the gym, I noticed that your **** sag, and although I realize part of this is from breast feeding, and some it's by time and gravity, I don't think there attractive any longer, and I think you should do something about that..."

Now along with this incredibly loving and supportive act, you also haven't done your homework. Are you aware that the largest artificial breast manufacturer was forced to pull their product from the market? Then after that, the FDA mandated a halt to all sales in this country of silicone gel implants? Apparently, they have a tendancy to break, and silicone gel was never meant to be floating around in the fatty tissue of someone's chest, or in their chest cavity, if it hangs around long enough. A woman's heart muscle is not supposed to be a 34 C.

and on a more selfish note, have you ever seen a "boob job?" Think of a woman's chest with two sawed off croquet balls stuck up there. "Natural" is not a word that comes to mind when observing a woman with artificial breasts.

I am married to a wonderful 33 year old woman and we have one 7-month old boy. She is not too particularly happy with what has happened to her breasts. Her joke is that her breast size is now a 36 long. (which I find uproariously funny).

One day she brought up the idea of having her breasts done. I showed her a site who's link I'm pasting here. She has since decided that having her armpits carved up and having a bag of salt water stuffed down there is not such a good idea after all. Or they can slice through the nipple, and wait until 2026 until the feeling comes back!

It's not fair to ask your wife to go through such a procedure...

http://www.awfulplasticsurgery.com/archives.html

Answer 3

Is asking the mother of your children to undergo major surgery in order to stick globs of plastic under her skin so YOU feel good too much? The next time you went on your little walk, I'd probably lock you out of the house if you decided I needed better boobs after giving birth to and feeding YOUR 3 kids.
But it's very cavalier of you not to expect a 32 year old woman to have the body of a 21 year old. Mr. Wonderful!

Answer 4

Are you in love with your wife or her boobs???? Come on!! Breast surgery is painfull, and can be dangerous, i.e. infection, poor outcome that may make them look worse than you think they are now. She may also lose sensation in the nipples. You are not being fair, I am sure you would be quite offended if all of a sudden she said you need to have your "you know what" fixed cuz it ain't what it use to be. She had three children for you, that is the price she had to pay for loving you. Get over it!!!!

Answer 5

Brian, you could very well be messing with her self esteem, first of all. You sound shallow and selfish. If she does not want to get them, she is comfortable with her body and there is a lot to be said for that.

More importantly, some women lose sensation in their nipples after breast implants. What is better?

Lastly, she has more important things to do than worry about her breast size for the pleasure of you!

Answer 6

I think you are asking a bit much. There are serious risks involved with surgery. My dad died from a simple out patient procedure because it got infected and they didn't catch it in time before it went t his blood stream. If she wants to do it let her make the decision, don't persuade her in any way. It's a decision she needs to make on her own since it's her body. I'm sure you would feel kind of bad if she asked you to get a penis enlargment surgery or something like that.

Answer 7

WOW! If I were your wife, well I don't think it would be very nice of me to tell you what I would do.

If your wife doesn't feel like she wants to, just let her be. There are so many other things to worry about in this world, and you chose to obsess about your wife's breast. SHAME ON YOU!
A women has so much to worry about these days, without a jerk like you to put something else on the list.

You know what, I hope you wife realizes that she is perfect just the way she is and that she doesn't need a guy like you to pressure her into being something else in his eyes. I hope she takes her post baby boobs elsewhere!

Answer 8

How would you feel if she asked you to get a dick enlargement?

This woman had children for you, don't make her feel bad because her body changed. You are trying to force her to go through with something she doesn't want or need! I think you are putting to much attention to physical appearance and not being grateful you have a loving wife and healthy kids. Besides, everyones body changes as we age, even yours!

Answer 9

i personaly think so....
if you really want to ask her i would take a look at this web site rather than going have having plastic surgery, once she would have them done i don't think you would be as happy with them as you think you would be....
but serously how immature are you? you should love her not her ******* boobs! and i quote"they do not resemble the pre-kids boobs I loved."
umm ya i am sure that totaly makes her feel great about herself...
but if you are going to talk with her about it check out this web site http://www.bountifulbreast.com/order.html

Answer 10

I think you're asking too much. Breast implants are dangerous; they can cause serious health problems (including cancer!). Do you really want to put your wife at risk for such a shallow reason? If she wants to get the implants, then fine. However, I don't think you should press the issue.

Answer 11

Is it fair to ask? Yes. But it's her choice to decide if she wants to go thru the procedure. If she is comfortable with her body then let it be, but if she has expressed some dissatisfaction regarding her body (ie:breast) maybe she is scared to get surgery. Try to gather as much information (net & real doctor visits) to make her feel more comfortable and let her be the one to chose and you be there to help and support her.