I keep myself in good shape for her. I go to the gym 3 times a week and walk every night. The walking is in large part for my own health but the gym is mainly for her. We both agreed that the others physical appearance was very important to us at the beginning of our marriage 11 years ago. Now she has three kids and while I do not expect her body should look like a 21 year olds (she is 32) but I do want her to get her breast fixed. She breast feed our kids and now that all that is over and we are not going to have any more children I want her to have the boob job. She is not so sure she wants to. Before children she was a 36b cup and perfect in my eyes. Now I have no idea what cup size but they do not resemble the pre-kids boobs I loved. Am I asking too much?
2007-01-08 03:47:56 · 20 answers · asked by Brian 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
If my husband offered to pay for breast implants for me, Id do it in a heart beat. Some women however, believe its not for them. It would be WRONG of you to PUSH the issue on her, but just asking her isnt bad.
2007-01-08 03:51:14 · answer #1 · answered by Angel Eve 6 · 1⤊ 4⤋
"post-kid" boobs are not going to look the same as "pre-kid" boobs, and I don't think surgery would be able to correct that even if this was a good idea.
I think you should understand that breast augmentation/enhancement surgery is a major surgery and as such it's a lot to ask of anyone. Would you give up a kidney for your wife? Because that's basically what you're asking her to do.
I appreciate that you keep in shape for your wife. That's noble, but going to a gym three time a week and walking every night is not the same as undergoing a painful and costly medical procedure.
If you want to look at your wife the same way as you used to before the kids, I suggest doing something non-surgical that will boost your attraction to her and make her feel better about herself at the same time. Going shopping for some sexy lingerie might be a good start. Or the two of you could make a little movie together. Make sure the kids don't mistake it for a Disney movie!
2007-01-08 04:05:13 · answer #2 · answered by Jeff 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Brian I don't think you are selfish in your desires to have a wife with beautiful breasts, however, going under the knife to achieve that may be a little too much to ask. You married her "for better or worse" and as I understand that we all have desires for certain things in our mate, but as you said, the woman did give you three wonderful children. There are exercises she can do to build up her breasts, that isn't as extreme or expensive as breasts implants. Have her (or you) do some research on this but I can tell you of a a few - butterflies is one that I do myself, put 5 lb hand weights in each hand and open and close the arms also, wall presses..it resembles push ups but you stand up against the wall and use your chest muscles to push forward and back). The point is, the desire for her to have nice boobs is one thing, but putting her health in risk or making her feel unattractive won't help her, your children or you in the long run (if she feels unattractive to you, she won't perform well sexually). Good luck.
2007-01-08 04:07:46 · answer #3 · answered by Brandy 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's unreasonable to ask her to get any cosmetic surgery. You can't expect her to look young forever. You have to love the idea that you're going to grow old together, along with all that growing old entails.
Surgery always involves a risk of side effects and death. Fake boobs look fake, and in some cases make women look like bimbos. Also, who hasn't heard a story about a woman getting fake boobs and then cheating on her husband?
What are you going to do when she's 40? 50? 60? Just forget about the superficial stuff and love your wife for what she is.
2007-01-08 03:59:39 · answer #4 · answered by SoCalSkierGuy 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
See where the advice runs? One end to the other. What really matters is what is between the both of you.
Maybe implants are not the answer maybe just a reduction to tone.
Just remember that you both have to chose. You said you both talked about physical appearance before, you also talked about health. ANY surgery has a bit of risk.
Why not ask and help her exercize and swim. Water does wonderful things for the skin. Not sun but water. Think indoor swimming..
2007-01-08 04:02:22 · answer #5 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is asking the mother of your children to undergo major surgery in order to stick globs of plastic under her skin so YOU feel good too much? The next time you went on your little walk, I'd probably lock you out of the house if you decided I needed better boobs after giving birth to and feeding YOUR 3 kids. But it's very cavalier of you not to expect a 32 year old woman to have the body of a 21 year old. Mr. Wonderful!
2016-05-23 10:34:34 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, but be prepared. You may create a monster. I know so many men who bought the wife some boobs and the next thing you know she is cheating. When they get those boobs they can't just hide them under a sweatshirt, they have to show them off. They have to go to places where they can show them off. One thing leads to another...
be careful what you wish for
2007-01-08 03:52:48 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Dang, you're shallow! You married this gal for better or worse, didn't you?
When you go bald, or put on a few pounds, is she going to insist you get hair implants and go on a diet, just so you'll look good?
This gal is the mother of your kids, and is your wife. Why can't you love her for what she is?
2007-01-08 04:01:19 · answer #8 · answered by kiwi 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Breast Implants surgery is very safe nowadays. My cousin got her breast reduction, tummy tuck and facelift surgery in India by the company called Forerunners Healthcare .The Price for the surgery she paid in India was very less. She paid 30% of the cost she was quoted in America.
Forerunners Healthcare is very famous in India. They arrange cosmetic and plastic surgery for foreigners in India. I read a lot about them in the Newspapers and about their patient stories. They arrange financing for USA, Canadian, UK and other international patients who plan to have surgery abroad for low price, as the breast reduction, tummy tuck, facelift and other cosmetic surgery is not covered by insurance. They also have photos pasted of their International patients. You can checkout their website. There are huge cost savings. As a doctor I personally believe that surgery can be easily handled in India, as the quality of healthcare available In India is simply best in the world. The surgeons are USA/UK trained and facilities are 5 star.
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Hope this helps.
2007-01-08 21:52:58 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes you are, unless you are willing to not only go under the knife to get a vasectomy, but a penis englargement procedure (as she likely needs a bigger penis after having 3 kids to be truly satisfied in bed); hey if, you expect her to take pain for being on the "team", you should be willing to do the same.
2007-01-08 03:52:14 · answer #10 · answered by bottleblondemama 7 · 4⤊ 0⤋
FAIR? Are you crazy. Do you love her? Or are you just in love with her breast?
If she wants them that is a different story. it might make her feel better about herself. But if you ask her to get them so she looks for you, then you are a shallow person. Sorry.
2007-01-08 03:52:22 · answer #11 · answered by elb366 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋