im 14 and im 15 on 21 of feb my bf is 15 and 16 on the 13 of feb but im scarded that when in 15 he will want to sleep with me because we are both old im not ready but i relli relli like him
2007-01-08 03:44:16 · 71 answers · asked by missy 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
He wanted to sleep with you from day one so don't act surprised.
Just be truthful and say no. It's your only defense against unwanted sex.
2007-01-08 03:46:24 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 5⤊ 1⤋
The fact that you have asked this question hon says that you are not ready and that you need to mature a little....this means that the day that you are ready for sex with a boyfriend you will know....becuase you will be in control and not just because he is 16 and you really really like him.....really liking a boy isnt enough to decide to sleep with him.
If he asks you, and you decide not to because deep down you know your not ready for it.....and he gets funny or doesnt understand and wont wait then you know he's not the right one......never sleep with someone just to keep them...your worth more than that ok.
Remember you decide and dont let anyone pressure you....and use protection....condoms and such like...
take care and good luck!
2007-01-09 10:31:31 · answer #2 · answered by Jp 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hey hunny i cant say anything i was having sex at the age of 13 im 25 now and i have a 8 year old son ,
but i dont think you should rush into anything u got all the time in the world to be having sex ,but its up to u im was lucky ive been with the same man for nine years now and he is the father of my son so sometimes things can work out just be carefull hun take care and make him put a rubber on u might not know where else he as been and then you will be ill . x x
2007-01-09 02:22:33 · answer #3 · answered by Saz 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's going to want to be with you no matter what your ages! You are WAY TO YOUNG to be getting into sex!! If you aren't ready, then don't do anything, even if you loose him! It isn't worth giving up something that means so much to you, just to be wasted on some guy! At 14 you two will probably not stay together the rest of your life anyway, you will have many many more boyfriends and you can only give it to someone special once and at your young age, now is not the time!
2007-01-08 03:47:55 · answer #4 · answered by wish I were 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I don't think him being 16 will have anything to do with it. He probably wants to sleep with you now - he is full of hormones.
I'm sure you know that you shouldn't sleep with him if you don't feel ready, especially if you are just doing it to keep him.
Be strong, stand up for yourself and make him wait until you are ready.
When you are ready, get yourself some reliable contraception and don't even think about using the withdrawal method!
2007-01-08 04:24:01 · answer #5 · answered by Ricecakes 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're too stupid to be thinking about sex. Anyone who's not yet an adult (18) who is sleeping around, even if it's just with one person, is disgusting and nothing better than a whore.
Just think about it. If you sleep with him when you're 15, you're "dirty" for the rest of your life and much less guys will ever want to have a relationship with someone who already played with another guy's penis before. That's gross, I'd never date a girl who wasn't a virgin.
2007-01-08 03:48:53 · answer #6 · answered by biggestperlnerd 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is probably wanting to sleep with you now! But for both your sakes don't you have a long ways to go before you need to be thinking or doing that. Besides think of all the things that could go wrong. Pregnancy,disease,fear need I need to add more? By your spelling I think you better concentrate less on boys and more on school!
2007-01-08 03:49:33 · answer #7 · answered by mikef1234 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Bless ya hun - Even if he does want to sleep with you, you don't have to do anything that you are not 100% comfortable with. Never sleep with a guy just to make him happy or through fear of losing him - guessing is that if he leaves you because you haven't slept with him he probably isn't worth trying to hang onto in the first place. Trust me I know!
2007-01-08 04:13:19 · answer #8 · answered by Suze B 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him that you're not ready. If he likes you as much as you like him, then he should respect that and accept it as your final answer. If he asks why you aren't ready, you should not have to explain yourself much. The simple answer of "I'm not ready" is good enough and he needs to respect that. Do not let him try to persuade you otherwise. Follow your beliefs, your morals, your values...and don't let others forcibly try to change them. If he still wants to have sex with you, then he does not truly care about your feelings and cares more about himself than you or your relationship. No matter how much you like him or want to be with him, you need to respect yourself first. Sex is a wonderful thing between two people who willingly agree to engage in it. You both have to want it - wholeheartedly want it - and be ready for all the consequences that come with having sex (possible pregnancy, transmission of STDs, loss of viginity). If you agree to have sex with him without really wanting to, you will regret it and, deep down inside of you, you will hold it against him. I know from experience. When I was 15, my boyfriend wanted to start masturbating with me and fingering me. I let him do it because I had a hard time saying no to him and seeing him disappointed. When things fell apart when we were 17, he kept demanding more physical pleasure for two reasons. He enjoyed it so much and he thought that it would bring us closer. He was wrong. A guy should respect and like me for me as a person, not as a pleasure toy. And yes, I did hold it against him for making me do things I did not agree with. Now I am with another guy and we have had sex. At one point, I told him that I did not want to have sex any more and he respected that. To him, our relationship is more important than having sex. He wants to make sure I'm happy and comfortable with him. I hope your boyfriend is like that. If he likes you for you, he will wait until you are ready.
If you decide at some point to have sex with him, be safe. Talk to him about past sexual partners (if applicable) and STDs. Buy condoms (try to find the ones with spermicidal gel). Know how to put on a condom correctly. Use the pill. Know that condoms can break and think of what you would do if you become pregnant.
2007-01-08 18:20:14 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
his age shouldnt make a difference to how he feels about the subject. i cant see that on his birthday hes going to wake up and think he wants sex now because hes 16.
if you are not ready then do not have sex. you should wait until you are old enough to take responsibility for anything that might happen because of it, also sex under 16 is illegal. if he pressures you about it tell him to go away, hes only thinking about himself.
good luck.
2007-01-08 03:54:18 · answer #10 · answered by bebishenron 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your not ready dont do it. It doesnt matter his age you should only sleep with someone when your ready and comfortable. If he loves you he will respect your wishes.
Its worth remembering that if he slept with you he would eb breaking the law as you have to be over 16 too.
2007-01-08 03:47:48 · answer #11 · answered by Scottish Girl 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋