my g/f sex drive is gone! and i have tried everything, even being stubborn and letting her initiate it, but nothing! she said it has nothing to do with me or anyone else, help me!!!!!!!!
2007-01-08 03:42:49 · 11 answers · asked by bad b 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
If it has nothing to do with you or anyone else, that means she is admitting that it is her and she is the only one who can fix it. There has to be a reason, whether physical or emotional. Maybe you need to show her love and affection without expecting sex from it for a change. If you are always trying to get sex from her, she may just feel like a f u c k toy for you. If when you mean you tried being stubborn and let her initiate you meant that you just didn't show her any affection, that is a problem too. In order for a woman to feel like she wants sex, most need to feel loved first. I assume you are living together? If so, put some elbow grease into helping around the house. If she doesn't feel like she is just your servant, she will feel your love more.
Just because she said it isn't you doesn't mean you can't help fix it, but if sex is the only reason you are with her, do her a favor and move on.
2007-01-08 03:57:20 · answer #1 · answered by PDH 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Big Secret teh Drug Companies DOn't want YOu To Know-
oral birth control can be ruinous to the sex drive. Funny how sex advisors know this, and her dr. probably knows it, but it's never in the side effect list in teh packet.....
I would second the dr. suggestion. If it is her pills, there are options. If it's something else, it could be fixed.
Another point to think about- just because teh drive is gone doesn't mean sex is impossible. Starting with a "cold engine" just takes a little longer. We had this issue- I have gotten better drugs, but my drive is not nearly what it used to be, but I do know that 1) it's well worth me finding time 3 times a week to have sex with my husband and 2) practice makes perfect, so to speak, or better- success breeds success. Now, how much of this is because it is somethng special to share with my husband vs. merely something fun to do? Don't know.
2007-01-08 12:07:32 · answer #2 · answered by heathrydge 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey you are the guy, it is clearly your fault. You tried being stubborn? WOW. How could she resist that?
Have you thought of trying to be romantic. Set up a special night for her? You need to learn more about women.
2007-01-08 12:20:23 · answer #3 · answered by elb366 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe she does not feel sexy enough. Try doing some little things to make her feel sexy, like tell her how beautiful she is, cook her dinner....and do not buy her a sexy little outfit...that really is for your purposes more than yours, and she will read right through it. Get her some wild flowers or something.
2007-01-08 11:51:44 · answer #4 · answered by NCOIC 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you should start romancing her and showing her affection. If you grab her *** and just expect it to turn her on, then you're wrong. Women want sex emotionally before physically.
2007-01-08 12:03:09 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
go out. drink red wine. it really works. stay away from fruits. hang out in a bar and drink. it will make her feel like flirty again.
2007-01-08 11:50:33 · answer #6 · answered by K 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
..are you sure she is not seeing someone else ?...how could it just be "gone"..?...that would be one reason why she is not interested in you regarding that matter...something to think about, and something to look into?
2007-01-08 11:48:02 · answer #7 · answered by chillie 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
when was the last time you bougth her flowers?
a romantic dinner?
a gift?
gave her a massage?
do you tell her how sexy she looks?
have you ever listened to her needs?
love her don't try to boink her!
2007-01-08 12:31:35 · answer #8 · answered by juan z 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
is she old, did she just have a kid, if no then she is mental , needs help with body or head and you need a new girl mate.
2007-01-08 11:51:49 · answer #9 · answered by picture 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
IT WIL COME BK SOON!
doofus..ask doctor!!
2007-01-08 11:46:20 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋