I am in a strange situation. When I met my husband I immediately thought "Wow! He has 90% of the qualites I always wanted in a partner" But I had a really hard time deciding to marry him or not cause I didnt particuarly loved his culture (or the stereotypes of his culture).
Anybody in the same situation?
2007-01-08 03:16:36 · 10 answers · asked by Alejandra 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Always have... always been. Sometimes when you're raised in a different culture other than your own.... you grow to love the people in that culture. It's about the environment you're living in and being exposed to. And I know many beautiful women regardless of ethnicity who have 90% of the qualities I look for.
Not that there's anything wrong with it... but understand that stereotypes tend to do two things...
1.) Glamorize AND
2.) Dehumanize a certain group,culture,ethnicity,race
gender, and disability
And for what purpose may I ask? Well if you live in America... it's always competition between people of various races,cultures,ethnicities,disabilities, and gender. And for some reasons... some people won't shut up because they think they're better than the other. It's so prevalent in many parts of America... and this has always raised issues. If people can learn to accept what they see and grow to love it... then I'm sure we all can learn to live in harmony.
But this is a sad and crazy world. My only advice I can offer you is to not be brainwashed by the everyday stereotypes you see on tv or the media. Why not enjoy what you have? And to stick with it until you feel there are other things you want to do? I mean 90% is a good grade level this guy has on you.
Why waste it?
2007-01-08 03:33:21 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Actually yes my ex boyfriend..who is also the father of my son..is Puerto Rican. When I was attracted to him I didn't like his culture when I started to learn more and more about it. Spanish people have different beliefs from African-American people. Especially when they found out I was having a child they were trying to get us to do things that I don't believe in doing. I also didn't like when I'm around Spanish people and they always seem to speak Spanish in front of me. Even when they were fluent in English. Now my son's father tries to speak Spanish to my son which I don't want him to do. I guess since I've had so many bad experiences that I don't want my son to learn Spanish just yet.
I don't want to sound ignorant but that's just how I feel. Its very uncomfortable dating or even being married to someone with a totally different culture and aspect of life than you.
I also had a little fling with a guy that was Iranian. I'm not really interested in Iranian guys or any guys of the Indian descent but he intrigued me. I'm glad it was just a fling because I don't find his culture attractive at all. The way they treat women is awful.
I hope things work out for you. I guess you may need sometime to understand his culture. What is his ethnic background? If for any reason you feel its too much for you to deal with maybe you guys need to have a discussion and see how you can resolve it.
2007-01-08 03:29:14 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No but if you love someone you love them for a reason and if you don't , you just don't. But personally if you like them 90% and not the other 10% because of their culture its not gonna work out you love someone because you like everything about them and if you cant do that then love is something you wont have!
2007-01-08 03:22:37 · answer #3 · answered by Pattrice 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I meet all types of very pretty girls from lots of different cultures, but I can't seem to bring myself to approaching them outside of a smile or two. I am most comfortable around my own people, but I love tan skin and dark black hair and that opens me up to a lot of potential relationships. I am single and looking.
2007-01-08 05:21:36 · answer #4 · answered by diamondbullet66 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well thankfully, my bf and i are both from the same culture, but i hve liked a guy before who was very different from my culture, he really cared about me, but things juzt didnt work out. ur marrried to the man, so its different, but if u lke 90% of who he is, thats very good, most ppl dont even like 10% of their partner's qualities.
2007-01-08 03:41:11 · answer #5 · answered by sweethyedreamer213 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, there are different women i fall in love with that have different cultures, but I am open to their cultures and their way of things.
2007-01-08 03:21:37 · answer #6 · answered by drunken_monkey1988 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi,
I can relate. I had an ex-girlfriend who was caucasian (I'm asian) and we had a lot of the same beliefs. I realized that when you're with someone, you also have to be able to understand their culture as well as their family. If you love him for everything that he is such as his personality and beliefs - then it can work.
2007-01-08 03:21:42 · answer #7 · answered by CHRIS 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am a white guy with a muslim black chick. Her family hates me and my family hates her. She was my employee, now she's my wife. We eloped in Vegas and now got a son. Best, most kinky sex ever. All the other stuff dont matter. Look at the heart. Assholes come in all shapes , sizes , races, religions, cultures ect. and so do pure people.
2007-01-08 03:25:40 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
each being is attracted to opposite sex. between human beings limitations are available between. If this barrier is absent adult men and women folk will be continuously in engagement. it really is why nature has set the barrier
2016-12-28 09:41:08 · answer #9 · answered by husaini 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
oui, there is always that case when can chose who you gonna fall in love with.
2007-01-08 03:20:23 · answer #10 · answered by celi 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋