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You are 38 years old. You smoke cigarettes and drink alcohol regularly. You have a wonderful son who is 18 and leaving soon for boot camp. You are in a committed and loving 11 year relationship. Your partner is 48 years old. When grown son leaves home you plan to travel and do all the things you put off to raise him. You suddenly find yourself pregnant. (2 weeks max.) Honest opinions please. Criticism is not needed.

2007-01-08 03:13:01 · 10 answers · asked by Reenie: Mom of Marine 6 in Health Women's Health

10 answers

What a difficult decision. I think I'd find someone to talk to (like a professional) to sort through all of my feelings about the decision. Someone non-biased (who would help me with WHATEVER decision I made, not try to force me to have the baby if that isn't what I decided was best for me and my family)

That way whatever I decided I would know that it was the right choice for me and that I had really thought it through and considered all of my options.

Best of luck to you... I know this is a hard choice, but there are people who will be supportive whatever choice you make.

2007-01-08 03:19:02 · answer #1 · answered by answerlady1021 4 · 0 0

Well, at 2 weeks pregnant, that would be 4 weeks (I'm assuming you mean 2 weeks gestation or whatever they call it...). If the 38 yr old was younger, let's say under 34, I'd say to have the baby, but at 38, I would probably get an abortion right away (I know people are going to be against it here and I could never abort myself, but I can understand an older woman doing it). For one thing, there's the risk of down syndrome and the smoking and drinking... unless you're willing to stop smoking and drinking or the child will come out with down syndrome or fetal alcohol syndrome. You (or the person this is about) should talk to her partner and see what he wants as well. If you're happy with just your son, then get an abortion right away and live your life.

2007-01-08 11:18:30 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0 0

I have been it the same boat, only after the kids were gone, my Dad died and we've spent the last 8 yrs taking care of my Mom. I had the same plans too, to travel. My Mom is still alive and soon to be 93 and we still want to travel, so I know just what you are feeling. What a hard decision you have to make! At least you two would be able to get some traveling in before the baby would be school age, and you could always home school on the road. You are still young enough to have a child so, all I can wish you is for your heart to be at peace with whatever you decide to do. Best wishes on whatever path you choose!

2007-01-08 11:21:03 · answer #3 · answered by wish I were 6 · 0 0

I agree with Sarah. You should definitely tell your partner before making any decision. Against what seemingly the majority believes on this site, if your partner and you should decide, it is OKAY to have an abortion. Not that I promote it in every situation, and I definitely don't believe in using abortions as birth control, you have waited an awful long time to have this time to yourself and your partner to travel, etc.

Good luck in your decision.

2007-01-08 11:23:43 · answer #4 · answered by cey12000 3 · 0 0

Well, it is your decision. What does your husband think. Stop smoking and drinking until you have made a decision. This is your decision to make. I really do not understand why you posted this question. You know what sorts of answers you will get. I can not tell you what I personally would do because I am not in your situation so I just do not know.

2007-01-08 11:17:59 · answer #5 · answered by Kogetsu 3 · 0 0

Take it as a blessing.. raise this child you created or find an adoption agency. There are a lot of loving people who want children, like my husband and I, but cannot have them and you may make someones dream come true. What is best for you and this baby you may be having?

2007-01-08 11:17:35 · answer #6 · answered by PenguinsWife 4 · 0 0

This is a tough one. However if you choose to abort the pregnancy you will have it on your mind forever. Book some time with a professional counsellor to discuss further in depth.

Good Luck.

2007-01-08 11:18:34 · answer #7 · answered by youronmyfoot 2 · 0 1

i am not shore what you are asking but if it is would you keep the baby yes i would because that baby is their for a reason. it might be your last chance to have a child . besides you'll aren't that old you have plenty of time to do what you want latter. good luck.

2007-01-08 11:21:01 · answer #8 · answered by janelle p 2 · 0 0

Talk with your partner and decide together wether to go through with it. Its a personal choice and you should really talk to him about it. Its not too late to have a child, IF you want it.

2007-01-08 11:16:18 · answer #9 · answered by Sarah 3 · 2 0

(Groan), I would have to have the baby, but make sure your partner has a vasectomy before the baby comes, or he/she could have a brother or sister.

2007-01-08 11:17:18 · answer #10 · answered by smartypants909 7 · 0 0

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