Am I totally lost?

Question

I recently lost my job. I can't get into school. I am twenty-one and I have been working since I was fourteen with no help from my parents. I have worked as a maid, in a restaurant, and all sorts of other dead-end jobs that barely pay the rent. It seems like the capitalist system is failing when it comes to this huge gap between the rich and the poor, the have's and the have-not's. I always thought that I would somehow change the world, volunteer, help people in need, etc., but those are just nonrealistic goals at this point. Am I totally lost?

Answer 1

Yep, You are. The capitalist system is designed to help me, a Person whom has both money and priviledge; not You. Get onto this side of it or seek a socialist system to live in, like my native Canada for an example or some of the European counties that are more kindly disposed to the poor.

Answer 2

your not that lost. everyone at some point in their life goes through just what you are doing at the moment. take some comfort in knowing that. you must be an amazing person, if you have been working from the age of 14 to now and even though you have fallen, gotten up, dusted off and set out at another job, yet you still have the desire and will to help others. many people would have given in to the stress of life. there are huge gaps between the rich and poor. it's what you do with that gap and how you approach that that makes the difference. I'm wondering why you can't get into school though? Your 21 you have this whole amazing adverture just waiting for you. Don't throw in the the towel just yet. Good luck and Best Wishes.

Answer 3

No, you certainly are not totally lost. Same thing happened to me; Do you know what happened? I took a job at one of our local hospitals - once you get in, even if its working in the cafeteria - whatever jobs get posted MUST get offered to employees first, before they put an ad in the paper. That means that even if the job you took there isn't really your dream job, you can just watch the job board until you see something better. Also, a hospital not only will give you great pay (there's a joke in hospitals, that the two best paying jobs are maintenance and heart surgeon) but also the benefits are incredible - they will pay 100% of your tuition if the study is related to your present job, or if it is medical in nature. You could go to xray school, lab tech school, pharmacy tech, physical therapist school, accounting, you name it. And, even if you didn't go to school for a year or so, the salary alone would most likely be way better than anything else you're gonna get.
Another idea is apply for a job at a college - even janitors who work at colleges get offered free tuition for themselves AND their children, as part of the benefit package.
Keep an eye on the classifieds, and when you are selecting jobs for interviews, think smart. Ask yourself: Is this going to be another dead end job, or do they offer something that is in line with your desire for a better future - always think ahead. Think, act, and even dress as if you have that future, secure career you desire. Most important: Do not get depressed - it will show on your face when you go to interviews. Stand up right this minute, and say: "I will not accept this situation - this is not what my life is going to be - I absolutely refuse to be downcast - period".
Then you live it, breathe it, dream it, wake up with it, eat it - make every decision based on it. It will take work, but you will get there. And do you know why I am sure of that?? Because you've already taken the first step towards it by knowing and understanding that theres a better way to live your life, and you desire to have it. Why not call the hospital's Human Resource dept today - ask them what they have open - usually you don't even have to talk to someone - usually they have a taped message with all the job openings and the skills required, and what the starting salary is. Go for it!!!

Answer 4

Get registered with a doctor and make an appointment. You sound very depressed and you need someone to talk to. If your boyfriend is suggesting he'll help you die before helping you to get help........I question his motives, but guess he's also young and may not know how best to help you. Your esteem is low, but with the right help you can begin to cope with life as it is and even improve on it. Please, i tis important that you seek medical and professional help. It is out there but you have to take the first step and ask for it. I know what it feels like to be that low, felt like it myself when I was in my 20's but..........it takes more courage to fight it and get help than to give in. I'm over 50 now and if I'd given into my darkest times I'd not have had my wonderful sons. So, I know that there is light at the end of the tunnel. Uni jucking you because you didn't do the work is not fatal. I've made a successful life and career without even having a shot at uni. A favourite quote I'd like to share with you........ You can give in, you can give out..........BUT YOU DON'T GIVE UP!

Answer 5

With anything else, just hang in there. Try your hardest to get back up and get another job, and to get into school. Things may seem tough now, but one day you will look back at this day and think that it was silly of you to think that. And dont be afraid to ask anyone for help, if you like helping others, then theres no reason why people cant help you. Things will get better, I promise you.

If theres a will, theres a way, and dont give up hope...ever.

Answer 6

You are not lost but a great job to get into would be your own house cleaning business put ads in the paper and tell the person how much to clean their home a lot of people need this done and you can make tons of cash

Answer 7

You are NEVER lost, unless you convince yourself you are. Now, stop saying that before you do. Get out of that slump, quickly, and find a new job, (whatever it is, you don't have to stay there forever), and find a way to put yourself through school. There are government loans. Keep on the move...find out, you'll be fine. Many have succeed when "all seemed lost". Never give up on yourself!

Answer 8

This may not help but.. I never knew ANYONE who was 21 had it "all together", and that includes myself. The best advice I can give you is that you need to find what makes you happy. As in what you want to do for a living, and work hard at it. You will NOT start at the top. You need to work for everything and educate yourself as much as possible. Good luck!

Answer 9

Why can't you get into school? You seem fairly smart. Maybe you just need to not have a job for a bit and then you'll qualify financially for aid. Try checking out job corps... the peace corps... the military. These may not sound like your cup of tea but I can guarantee if you do one of them it will change your life, you won't feel like you are on a one way track to nowhere. Feel free to email me if you need help looking up options.

Answer 10

Swami Sukhabodhananda
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One youngster comes to me very depressed and asks this question "Why is God creating so many difficulties for us? How to handle stress?" I tell this youngster to reflect on this beautiful story:

A man goes to a shop, picks up a beautiful cup and says "my god this cup is so beautiful" and suddenly the cup starts talking to the man. The cup starts saying "O man, I am beautiful right now, but what was the state of my being before the pot-maker made me a beautiful pot?

Before I was sheer mud and the pot-maker pulled me out of the mud from the mother earth and I felt why that pot-maker is so cruel, he has separated me from mother earth. I felt a tremendous pain. And the pot-maker said, "Just wait." Then he put me and churned me, when I was churned I felt so giddy, so painful, so stressful, I asked the pot-maker "Why are you so cruel?" the pot-maker said, "Just wait." Then he put me into a oven and heated me up, I felt completely burnt. There was tremendous pain and I asked the pot-maker "Why are you so cruel?" and the pot-maker said, "Just wait."

Then he poured hot paint on me and I felt the fume and the pain, I again asked the pot-maker "Why are you so cruel?" and the pot-maker said, "Just wait." Then again he put me into an oven and heated it to make me more strong, I felt life is so painful hence pleaded the pot-maker and the pot-maker said, "Just wait." And after that the pot-maker took me to the mirror and said, "Now look at yourself". And surprisingly I found myself so beautiful.

When god gives us lot of trouble, it appears god is very cruel but we need patience and we have to wait. When bad things happen to good people, they become better and not bitter.

So all difficulties are part of a cosmic design to make us really beautiful. We need patience, we need understanding, we need the commitment to go through in a very calm and wise way. So all difficulties are not to tumble us but to humble us.

With this understanding, let us not be against difficulty. Understand difficulty is a part of a purifying process. A purifying process at present which we cannot understand and hence we need faith and we need trust.

Let us understand how to handle stress with this background. You can be affected by stress from two angles. There is an internal stress and there is an external stress. Nobody can avoid stress; one has to only manage stress. Managing stress can be internal and also external.

The internal stress is; your thoughts can create stress, your values can create stress, and your beliefs can create stress, meaning thereby your stress is coming from your mind more from the outer world. Many people suffer not from heart attack - they suffer from thought-attack.

For example, when somebody says you are an idiot, we get so hurt, we get so victimised. My boss has called me an idiot and I am feeling tremendous pain. Now where does this stress come from? If my boss has called me an idiot, I have to ask myself "am I an idiot"?

If I am an idiot nothing to be upset about; and if I am not an idiot, then also nothing to be upset about! It is the perception of the boss. But why do we suffer from that stress? I suffer not because my boss has called me an idiot but because of the thought-attack.

I may say the boss has called me an idiot; therefore I am suffering? It is true that the words are unpleasant. But what hurts is the interpretation of the unpleasant word. The thought in me interprets. That is pain and therefore it becomes pain. Much of our stress is our mind interpreting it as pain. So we suffer from thought-attack more than heart attack.