Has a loved one, ever passed away on you?

Question

my grandma has cancer...and she knows shes gonna die...its so hard to be happy now..it really hurts

she already has a song picked out and a poem i wrote for her book thing to give out at her funeral..

So have you ever lost anyone? Does it still hurt so much?

Answer 1

My grandmother lost her battle with cancer about 4 years ago. I still think about her all the time but to be honest it definitely does not hurt as much as it used to. If there is a bright side to be found it is that you are able to still spend time with her now. Too many people lose someone suddenly having never REALLY had the opportunity to say goodbye.

Answer 2

I'm so sorry to hear about your grandmother, this is one of the most difficult times in a person's life. Yes, I have lost someone, my dad passed away when I was 20...my mother was ill with Multiplescerosis and I was the only one left to care for my 14 and 16 year old brothers. He died from an anyurism and I'd seen him in the morning when I left for college and he was rushed to hospital in the afternoon before I got home.

A very close friend also died of cancer, he was 32 and then my husband's mother died of cancer about 6 years ago.

You'll find it hard no doubt, but your grandmother will always be as close as your thoughts and always within your heart so she will never really leave you...and if you believe in such things, she'll also be there to watch over you always even if you really won't see her physically.

You still have time to make very special memories together, try to make as many nice ones as you both can...take care hon.

Answer 3

No, I've lost my grandmother and my grandfather a couple years back, it hurt but it wasn't as bad because I wasn't very close to them.

I feel your pain though, I have had a horrible week and I almost lost my mother Monday night. She's hanging in there but I am trying to come to accept the fact that she is not going to live much longer.

There is no greater pain than losing someone you love. Everyone says that remembering the good times that you had helps you to heal but in all honesty, its the good memories that hurt the most. The fact that you will never again get to share any wonderful moments with the person whom you love so much again.

Its helps to remember the fact that everyone has or will loose someone that they love at least once in their life. Though it hurts like crazy, time and prayer heals all wounds.......

Answer 4

My grandparents (all but one grandmother) have all died - but they lived long full lives. My mother died when she was still pretty young though in her 50s of cancer. My natural father died when he was only 29 - hit by a drunk driver. My best friend died of cancer in her 30s. My brother (youngest of 4) died when he was only 40 yrs old - and my brother n-law when he was only 30 yrs old (of brain cancer). Lots of losses in my life. I had friends I lost in the world trade center on 911 too. Part of life is sadly losing those we love as nobody lives forever. There is not a soul walking down the street with you that hasn't lost someone in their life unless they are very very young - but often even the very young experience loss of a loved one. It's one of the things we ALL must go through. It hurts hard for awhile and then it subsides some, but we keep our loved ones alive by holding onto good memories of them and sharing stories about them through the years so they will never be forgotten.
I'm sorry for your grandma's illness. I know that it hurts you and those she loves around her to see her go through cancer and prepare to leave this earth. I'm sure your being near here is a great comfort though. (((((hugs)))))) to you & yours.

Answer 5

my granny was 92 when she died; she'd have been 105 on the 17th of this month. I try to remember all the good times and how because of her I was allowed to be a child during summers with her. Remember, your grandma is going to a better place. It does hurt, though, and you and your family will be in my prayers...

My Granny Bell, God I miss that woman.

Talk about your feelings, kid and go through the process. Just make sure she knows how much you lover her; I'm sure she already does!

Answer 6

I lost my son,he was 43,It is awful.Please tell your grandmother how much you love her.Write down things she remembers that you do not know about your family. Try to talk about the good times you have had.Thank her for all she has done for you and your family.Read to her,spend as much time as you can with her. If she loves flowers bring any kind and fill her life with as much joy as you can.Remind her all must join God passing through nature into eternity.Tell her to be in Heaven waiting for you and others.Please feel that she will be watching over you when she is not on this mortal plain.Do not blame yourself for what is happening,accept it ,knowing time will help you!Bless you and help you always.Yes it hurts forever,but better you had this wonderful woman than not.

Answer 7

I'm sorry! This must really be hard for you! Yes, I've lost many people in my life. I've lost all my grandparents. I never met my grandmother on my father's side. I lost my father at the age of 8. I've lost my uncle on my mother's side of the family. She had two brothers, but I only had a chance to met one of them. Yes, it still hurts. Sometimes, I'm going through my regular routine, and I think of someone, and I just begin to cry. It's weird, but I deal.

Answer 8

My Dad died almost 9 years ago, and it still hurts after all these years. His mother (my grandmother) died 8 months later. It was a terrible year for my family. Especially since we lost my dad to a massive heart attack and we didn't even know anything was wrong with this heart. Some things you never get over.

Answer 9

sure! I miss my sister every day. we are 11months aside in age. My father died of maximum cancers in 1984 and my mom in 1999. My sister exceeded in 2002. it incredibly is with the aid of far the worst and toughest dying I even have ever dealt with. We have been very close and spoke to one yet another the two in man or woman or with the aid of telephone a minimum of 15 to twenty cases an afternoon/night. maximum painful experience i've got ever had. I had a destroy down and wound up interior the psych ward for a pair of weeks. It helped me have the flexibility to deal however the soreness of dropping her in no way is going away.

Answer 10

Both sets of grandparents, my parents, my first husband, father-in-law, uncles, aunts and a cousin.
Time does heal and you learn to move on. I'm very sorry about your grandma, spend as much time with her as you can, and you are already doing such nice things for her~~~~