You've been with this loser for how long? Girl - open your eyes and realize that you are the only person in this relationship who gives a crap. Get out while you can... He'll only drag you down, make you lose any self-esteem you have left and you will have no one but yourself to blame.
He's not the only fish in the sea - take control of your life and maintain it - for this you will only find happiness. Remember, you allow others to make you feel something, be it happiness, sadness, or anger. The sooner you realize that the only person you can count on to make you happy is yourself, the better off you will be.
Good Luck!
2007-01-08 02:38:12
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answered by Nicole 3
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You really should be with someone who is supporting you and helping you. Your boyfriend sounds like he's not putting much effort into the relationship. Just be thankful you found out before you got married!
I'd suggest you start working on getting back to your old area.
Try to find a friend at work, or a family member who would come, to help you during your surgery. It should be out-patient, but it's nice to have someone there to bring you home.
A couple good books for you to read are He's Not That Into You and Why Men Love Bit**es.
2007-01-08 02:45:43
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answered by Faith 4
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Well, is your job or your relastionship more important? If it's your job, YOU need to stop being selfish, and let him go so YOU can pursue your dream. If it's your MAN thats more important, stop being so selfish and trying to do both. See a pattern here? YOU ARE BEING SELFISH, NOT HIM. His job is to provide for you and your family (which you don'thave yet) and your job is to take care of the home and make it so he FEELS like a man.
And What operation? Is it major like you haveing something amputated, or soemthing minor like plastic surgery and cyst removale? If he can't get the time off for a MAJOR surgery, call your mom to help. (keep in mind, he needs his job to afford to take care of you) or have a girlfriend over to baby you.
If you KNEW where he lived from the start, (and you didn't want to change your job) Why in the world did you move in with him? He cares, trust me. You just want him to give you all those girly fluffy emtions saying "it's okey hunny, we'll give up my power as a man so we can do what you want" Geez..makes him almost sound like a pushover.
"You gather more bees with honey than nags" If you give first, you get more in return. If your sacrifice to be with this man is give up a silly little job, then do it. But if you are woman enough, leave him so you don't screw up his life by getting married or making a a baby.
2007-01-08 02:42:32
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answered by Pandora 6
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Is he your boyfriend? I think he is using you to wash his pants!! LOL What's so important that he must stay at job from 7 am to midnight every day? Call to his job and ask for him at 7 pm, to see if he is really there or is somewhere else.
If he says you have to face your operation on your own as he says, tell him that you are going back to your mom's house so she can take care of you. He seems not to care about you. And, take your life on your own. He will not leave his job for you as you did for him. So I suggest you to go back to Sheffield and take another job. He doesn't deserve you.
2007-01-08 02:45:53
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answered by roxifoxiv 3
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hun face facts u picked a loser, I do not care how important his work is if he cannot be there with u at ur time of need he is not worth being with. also it sounds like he does not even meet u half way but expects u 2 give up all 2 be with him.
if it was me I would cut my loses n move on, as hard as that may seem it's easier than sitting around waiting being treated like second class in his life.
good luck n I hope that ur operation goes well.
2007-01-08 02:38:34
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answered by Lady Geo 5
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I do understand ur pain. From this itz hard to know he is selffish. he might be working for ur future or his parents. there can be many problems. U can chat with him ur problem and get the solution urself. sometimes or mostily faith plays a role against every will. I hope u understand what i meant. if my answer hurts ur feeling i am really sorry
2007-01-08 15:23:23
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answered by Nishad 1
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I missed the first part of your question, but from what I understand you can't rely on your boyfriend. For you the most important person in the wolrd must be you. Cut your losses and move on without him.
2007-01-08 02:39:09
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answered by Alain M 2
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That's horrible. Maybe you should just move back to where ever it is that you are from. He doesn't seem very compassionate or loving. This relationship seems doomed.
2007-01-08 02:48:49
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answered by Anonymous
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leave him. he aint worth it. Just like the ******* who spent ages making a finger gesture out of ascii characters above.
2007-01-08 02:40:21
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answered by tickTickTICK 3
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go with how u feel thats all the information i can offer...talk to him about it...if it cant be resolved but u WANT to resolve it...there has to be sacrifice.
2007-01-08 02:36:19
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answered by mech_warrior172003 3
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