He also doesn't seem to care that I'm homesick for Sheffield. He says I knew where he lived from the start. True - I did, but I've had to change my job to be with him and now I know he doesn't seem to care, I'm regretting it and I don't think I can get my own job back with hours that will suit him. Help, please?
2007-01-08 02:28:28 · 35 answers · asked by TEE S 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Put yourself before him he obviously thinks more of himself than what he does of you..you are never going to be happy with him..you will end up resenting him.
2007-01-13 20:51:14 · answer #1 · answered by fajita 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
If he doesn't care about your issues, that's a pretty good indication about how much (or little) he cares about you. And you're still wondering about if your hours would suit him if you could get your old job back? Come on!! Look, no one MADE you do this. You didn't HAVE to do anything. You decided to give your life up for a man, and unfortunately, this is the usual result.
Never give up your life for someone. If they really love you they'll find a way to build a new life with with you, so that neither of you have to give up everything.
Good luck.
2007-01-15 03:44:57 · answer #2 · answered by Vix 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you'v had to give up all that u were familiar with.if he don't see that and appreciate it, then take a few days of work (pretend to b sick)and go back to Sheffield and stay with a friend, tell ur boyfriend ur unsure about the relationship and the change in your life because your not getting any support from him and you need a few days to think...he'll prob sh*t himself that you will leave him. Hopefully wen u come back from Sheffield he'll b a new man and stop taking you for granted....and if he's dosent give him the K.O.
no point in you being unhappy, don't waste you time on him, think of the future (your future)....good luck
2007-01-13 05:13:41 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
Hello, pursue the job/career you have always wanted. If he continues to fight over little things then maybe you should realize that attitude won't change and will you really be happy living in that environment for the rest of your life? Life is too short to be unhappy. Pursue your dream and if that doesn't involve him then so be it.
My niece stopped going to college because she got engaged to this guy. She thought he was wonderful but he was kind of a bully and would always put her down. She finally realized what the family realized a long time ago that he wasn't the right guy for her. They broke up and she re-entered college to become a Dental Hygeinest. A good man for you will be one who supports you 100% in what you do and vice versa. Don't ever settle for second best in anything.
If he is a great guy then work it out somehow but that is not what is presented in your question. Good luck and I wish you the very best in life.
2007-01-08 02:38:16 · answer #4 · answered by Execusuite 3 · 1⤊ 2⤋
My goodness he sounds like a stubborn manipulative idiot. Go back to Sheffield, even for the weekend and see how he feels then. You have compromised with him but he is obviously not able to return it. He cant have everything his own way, relationships are about compromise. Anyway you are not married, you can walk away anytime you want. Dont let him boss you about.
2007-01-08 02:36:11 · answer #5 · answered by goobygum 2 · 2⤊ 1⤋
going back to Sheffield that's a good enough reason in its self a great place,great people , plenty of talent for girls like you, do you want the bus fare or a lift,you are only here once ,its not a dress rehearsal its the real thing,if he loves you he coming running after you,good luck.
2007-01-15 17:02:32 · answer #6 · answered by Bobalong 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, you need to look out for yourself and it sounds like you know things aren't going well. You need to check back with your employer and see what he/ or she can or will do for you. Don't think the worst yet, make that call and check on the job first, then let him know you are not happy there and move on back to where you call home. Good luck to you. Don't get too discouraged, it will all work out.
2007-01-15 12:26:20 · answer #7 · answered by ddy'sgrl77 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He sounds pretty insensitive. Maybe you could go back home for a visit. While you're there, think long and hard about your direction. The other thing I found disturbing is "I don't think I can get my own job back with hours that will suit him." Suit HIM? You need to get your priorities in order. Your job and its hours need to suit YOU.
2007-01-08 02:34:28 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
sounds like he doesn't consider your feelings, consequently does he care all that much about you anymore? Move back to sheffield. Be near your folks. Try to get your job back with whatever hours are available. lose him.
2007-01-14 05:18:21 · answer #9 · answered by minion 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
You're homesick for Sheffield? You can't be that interested in the guy if you're homesick for Sheffield. Dump him and move somewhere nice - kill two birds with one stone!
2007-01-08 03:05:59 · answer #10 · answered by Diarmid 3 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Every couple who start as a long distance romance deal with issues like this. It can go through a very messy period of transition and adjustment. But if the connection is strong enough, I can attest that the problems can be overcome. All relationships entail hard work, in part.
2007-01-08 02:31:41 · answer #11 · answered by martino 5 · 2⤊ 1⤋