If you've been married and divorced what went wrong? When you met your husband/wife did you think they were the one or did you have doubt?? Were you ever really happy?? If you've been divorced why? If not and you are happliy married did you feel your spouse was the one from the beggining?? I hope this makes sense. I have a friend/neighbor that just told me she's getting a divorce and moving out and she's never really been happy. It just seems so drastic to me she's moving out to an appartment with her 3 her old and her husband is staying out their really nice house. She's telling me that her husband is really sad about it and having a hard time. They've been married 5 years and seemed happy to me just not real lovey to eachother infront of people. Anyways, I'm thinking why did you have a child is this your only way out??? She had to have loved him at one point. I just don't want to ask her these questions and I won't. Anyways just wanted to know what you think.. Thanks..
2007-01-08 02:17:33 · 4 answers · asked by ? 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
i married for all the wrong reasons, none of which was love or attraction. some people find themselves in desperate situations or are so tired of being alone that anyone will do. then years later after you think a baby will make it better you realize you were wrong from the very begining and you have to live your life without the misery of being with that pwerson that you dont love and being alone wasnt so bad after all.
2007-01-08 02:24:10 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Divorced twice.
The first, we were high school sweethearts, married young. But we had different goals. I wanted a family and a little house. He wanted someone to wash his shorts...lol. Kidding. But we were on different tracks. Stayed friends, actually tossed around the idea of getting back together much later on. Always loved him and he me...and I guess we still do in a way.
The second, we had the same goals, 1st 3 years were good. After some unsuccessful fertility issues (on my part) he became belligerent, started drinking more, then abusive. Verbally and then it started to become physical. No matter what I did I could do nothing right. Even when I did what he wanted, somehow I was still wrong. I guess now looking back I can see the abusive behavior at the beginning...but it was never direct at me. Live and learn. Took alot out of me to get away from him w/out involving the cops. He did a great deal of damage. And though I can definitely say that I do not love him, I don't wish him any harm or ill feelings either. But do still get a sick feeling when he calls me.
2007-01-08 10:29:54 · answer #2 · answered by gypsy g 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe she was not sure of what she was doing, and had a really wrong concept of happiness. Maybe she was looking for an easy living with everything nice and dandy.
Life has its ups and downs. You have to cope in your downs, so your ups may be upper. A marriage is made when two people love each other, and decide to share their lives forever. But some think that sharing a life is like living in roses without thorns, or like living in some pillows. Life is like roses. Roses are beautiful but DO have thorns. And you have to learn to manage those thorns to enjoy the beauty of the roses.
You have to both learn to remove the thorns of each other, and cleanse the wounds that those thorns leave. Both to comprehend each other, and to help each other. That's the way to happiness. Sharing your life and living with other person may not be easy, but toghether can help each other to make it easier.
Hope that this helps.
2007-01-08 10:32:38 · answer #3 · answered by roxifoxiv 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
plain and simple no communication
2007-01-08 10:24:49 · answer #4 · answered by poptart 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋