How can I tell my mother that I'm having a baby at 16 with a boyfriend she isn't even fond of?

Answer 1

Just be honest with her. That is all you can do. You made an adult decision by having sex now be an adult and talk with your mom about it. My family wasn't very fond of my boyfriend when I got pregnant with my first (17). They came around when they saw how wonderful he really was to our child and I. We have been married for 8 1/2 years and loving it. My family now loves him. I didn't think my mom would understand but parents are sooo cool about handling these kind of situations. Good luck

Answer 2

Well, are you ready to be a mother? Having children is a huge responsibility! And you will have your child everyday until he/she is 18 or longer. I would tell your mom as soon as possible, she will get upset, because her baby is going to have a baby, that's normal. Parents expect that their children will make no big mistakes in life, but some of us do. I was preg. at the same age. I made the decision to keep my baby, (I'm glad I did) But if I were you, I would tell her. And I would think long and hard about what you're going to do, also, your boyfriend has a say in this matter, whether your mom likes him or not. The child will be his too. I don't believe in abortion, I do believe in adoption agencys. But the ultimate choice is yours. You are the one who is pregnant. Weigh out the pro's and con's. Tell your mom and see what advice she has to offer. Give her some time to adjust to the situation too. You can't expect her to leap for joy at the news, but if you have a good relationship with her, she will help you out. Just remember, babies are not play things, you can't play house and just put them away. Are you ready for the responsibility at 16? Having a baby will be your responsibility not anyone else's, you can get help from your mom(maybe) or some other person that you trust if you're still in school,or if you have a job ect.. but it's your choice. I wish you luck in your decision. I hope you make the right one that's best for you and your baby. Good luck..

Answer 3

Everyone here is telling you.... TELL YOUR MOM NOW... but heres what they are not saying... its not about telling your mom and worring about what she will say ...its about telling your mom b/c shes been there and the baby and you need the proper vitamins and doctor care right now. my (foster)sister got pregnant at 15 with a "boy" who was also 15 ... i was the first one to know and the one who pushed her to tell my mom... and my mom thought i was decetful b/c i didnt tell her first. so the longer you wait the worse its gonna be. does your boyfriend know? if he does and hes "cool" with it.. dont bet on it.. most young fathers walk away. my brother-in-law has two kids hes 20... my sister-in-law has 2 kids shes 22....it happens...by the way.. i think you should have the baby... you'll never forget an abortion (my mom had one when she was 16 and both my bro and i almost didnt make b/c she had had that abortion,also something to think about) and if you do adoption its a great thing but i think you should try to be a mom first... you'll always wonder where your baby is and it will take a piece of your heart forever.

Answer 4

Just be honest and tell her and be mature about it. Nothing you can do now. Try to be adult about it. I have a new baby and I am much older than you are. When I look into that face I can tell you the responsibility is heavy. They are innocent and deserve the best. If you are a mature 16 and your boyfriend and you work and make good money you should be able to cope nicely.

Answer 5

WELL.. . I know this story all to well ! The same thing happened to me and I figured I ruined everyones lives! I told my mom by giving her a card. Say Congrats your gonna be a grandma. Then when she read it I broke down crying telling her how I felt, How I felt like I had ruined everything. But she never yelled She just told me it would be okay and together we would get threw it. BUt most important right now is you have to figure out what you are going to do for this baby. Are you going to raise it? Are you going to give it up?
That baby didnt ask to be brought into the world so you have to put everyone else aside including yourself and do what is best for this baby!!!!!
And you need to figure things out with the father. to marry or not to marry? He will need to be apart of things to. Good Luck it will be a hard road to go down.

Answer 6

DO you know what you are going to do when the baby gets here? I want to tell you about me telling my parents. I was 18 still living at home. I had just got out of High School. Oh by the way i am 30 now married to a wounderful man i thought no one would want me cause i have a baby. You know i told my mom and dad and they did not like itbut they liked it later down the road like the day she was born. I have a 9 year old now and she is my joy and my world and her grandparents spoil her to this day. So my advice to you listen to your parents about the boyfriend in the end he want be their for you he will get scared and run off. God loves you know matter what and you need to get on your knees and ask him to lead, guide and direct you threw this. Oh by the way you can all ways put the baby up for adoption their is all ways a loving christian family out their that wants a baby. I would love to have another one. My husband was adopted. He turned out great. So will your situation. We are mangers of a christian Camp in Mississippi. If you need some more advice here is my email address [e-mail]. I want to help you. If you need somthing do not hesitate to write me. If it does not go so good with your parents. Please get in touch with me . The name of the place that we have is Dorroh Lake Baptist Assembly. I know that it cost money to have a baby and raise one at your age and feel like no will help you. I love you and your child alreay and GOD does to. Emily C. Henry in Mississippi

Answer 7

I was 20 and a junior in college when I got pregnant. I didn't feel close to my parents and what they knew about my boyfriend(not much) they didn't like. I waited until I was so sick with morning sickness I had to be taken to the doctor after losing 10 pounds with no explanation that my parents were scared to death. It was then they found out about the pregnancy. It wasn't pretty my Mom was so mad and disappointed that it took until the birth and after for her to come around. My father stepped up and helped me make some tough decisions ie abortion and adoption. Just tell your parents they might be more understanding than you think. Don't wait, it only prolongs the fears you have. You might want to go to another adult you're comfortable with and have them help you break the news. You might be surprised who steps up and supports you and your decision... I was.

Answer 8

Just tell her!!! She is going to eventually going to find out. Of course in the beginning it is going to be tough and she is going to be really upset, but TRUST me.. she will get over it. It may take time.. but once your baby is born she will love him/her to death. Grand kids always have a special place in their grandparents hearts. So relax.. and try not to stress things because it is not good for the baby. Also, don't pay mind to what other people say about you in your situation. Some people tends to be so ignorant and begin to talk about others for their sake of pleasure. So yes girlie.. stay positive and much luck to you!

Answer 9

honesty is the best policy. you've got to come clean because you need prenatal care. don't expect her to be over the moon excited about your baby. she may yell at you but know that she does love you. i was 19 when i had my first and my mother wasn't excited because i was in college and i have to move back home so that she could help me. once my daughter got here we bonded on a different level. so tell her and give her time to adjust.

Answer 10

Umm..yeah. Don't be deceitful. You're going to have to grow up and act like an adult now that you're going to be a mom. Show your mom the same respect you would want from your child in this situation.