When is the best date to have sex and get pregnant ?..Pls. help.?

Question

I am in my early 30s & me and my husband want to have a child. My period arrived Jan. 06 and im still havin it up to this date. Usually its 3 - 4 days. I want to know when is the best time for us to have sex so i would get pregnant.When is my ovulation ?

thankyou for the replies. i dont know how long or whats the meaning of the Question how long is my cycle (sorry). And where can i get this " prediction thingy" ?

Answer 1

I'm sure you will get answers telling you that you will ovulate on January 19, but the truth of the matter is that no one can tell you (or anyone else) when ovulation will occur based on only the date of a period and how long it typically lasts. (That doesn't mean you can't figure it out; read on.)

In the "textbook" scenario, a woman has a 28-day cycle with ovulation occurring on day 14. But MOST women do not fit that description. (And even if a woman does have a 28-day cycle, that doesn't mean she ovulates on day 14.) You can't tell when a woman ovulates by counting 14 days into her cycle. Or by counting 14 days backwards from her next expected period.

You CAN determine when you're going to ovulate by using fertility monitors or ovulation predictor kits. They work by detecting levels of LH (leutenizing hormone) in your system; your body experiences an LH surge roughly 24-48 hours before ovulation, so when you detect a surge you are most likely going to ovulate within 24-48 hours. The downsides of kits and monitors are twofold: they don't work for everyone (although they do seem to work for most people), and they're not cheap. Also, a lot of people find them difficult to read/interpret. However, they are simple and many women like using them.

You can also learn to read your own bodily signs for ovulation, to determine when YOU are at your most fertile. It involves basically three things: taking your basal body temperature daily; noting the changes (quality/quantity) in your cervical fluids at least daily (easy, just check when you use the bathroom); and checking your cervical position. In brief:

Basal body temperature (BBT). Your temperature responds to hormonal shifts, and it increases right after you ovulate due to increased progesterone levels. Many women also see a dip in temperature right before ovulation occurs. The thermometers for this are more sensitive than your run of the mill thermometer (but costs the same, it's just a few bucks). BBT should be taken every morning at the same time, after at least 3 consecutive hours of sleep, and before you do anything else -- no getting out of bed to use the bathroom, no reaching for a glass of water, no talking...just keep your thermometer bedside and take your temp when the alarm goes off.

Cervical fluids. Cervical fluid changes as ovulation approaches, and becomes more "sperm-friendly." Generally it has an egg-white like consistency leading up to ovulation. So when you see that change, you know ovulation is near.

Cervical position. I never did this one myself because, frankly, I couldn't reach! But whether your cervix is high/low, open/closed, hard/soft will also give you clues about how soon you're going to ovulate.

When you do these things you'll also see a pattern emerge, and you'll learn, for example, that you have a 30 day cycle and usually ovulate on day 19. And the best time to get pregnant, of course, is when YOU are most fertile! As I said, most women do not fit the textbook example. I'm not at all unusual, and I have a 33 day cycle and ovulate on day 20 as a rule; if I were timing sex based on the textbook 14-day-ovulation rule I'd still be trying to have kids instead of getting ready to celebrate birthdays around here.

Fertility Awareness is not difficult and doesn't cost much. Your basic expense is the few dollars to buy a thermometer to take your basal body temperature. The drawback may be that it can take a few cycles to get the hang of it and see your own fertility patterns. So in the meantime, have sex every other day throughout your cycle so you'll maximize your chance of conception. While sperm can live for as long as 5 days in a fertile environment the released egg lives for just a matter of hours and you don't want to miss it; on the other hand, having sex every day is actually not recommended, as every other day is better for the sperm count. (And if you don't want to have sex that frequently or it's difficult because of schedules or whatever, use ovulation kits for the short term.)

I laid out the bare bones of charting your fertility here; I really recommend that you take a look at Taking Charge of Your Fertility, by Toni Weschler. There's also a great website at http://www.tcoyf.com. Another site used frequently by people who chart their fertility is at http://www.fertilityfriend.com; to be honest, I find the message boards at tcoyf to be superior, and the charting tools at fertilityfriend to be less accurate. But either would be good, of course.

Sorry for the novella, but I hope this helps. I really believe in fertility awareness and charting. It helps you determine when you're at your most fertile, and also arms you with information -- so if anything were amiss or if it were to take you a long time (which hopefully will not be the case!) you'll have information about your cycles already if you go see your doctor.

Best of luck to you!

Answer 2

Everyone's cycle is different. There is a myth that woman ovulate 14 days after their period begins...but that is only an AVERAGE and each month can be different. The other thing is that sperm can live inside you for up to 5 days.... so if you are having a shortened cycle one month and you have sex right after your period and you ovulate earlier than day 14 than yes, there is a chance of getting pregnant. The only way to know is to know exactly when you ovulate. There are several ways to know and some are more effective than others. Some can only predict before ovulation happens and some can only predict that is has already happened. The absolute best info I can give you is to go read a book called Taking Charge of your fertility by Toni Weschler. It will help you understand your body and all the myths about it. It will help you time when you are ovulating and the best times to conceive – or not! . It's about knowing your body and knowing when you are fertile or not.
My husband and I tried for 1 year and had no luck..… We tried ovulation predictors , laying with pillows under me for 20 min. everything……the first month that I began using the book I realized that my timing was WRONG!. We got pregnant that very first month and I am now due Feb 2, 2007. You can pick and choose what you do with your info. Good luck and don't listen the all the myths! Even if you don't get into charting and everything....it will help you in so many ways!

Answer 3

Well... the rule of thumb is supposed to be that a woman ovulates between day 10-14 from the FIRST day of her last menstral cycle. So, if you started on the 6th, you should be fertile between the 16-20. You should start seeing a clearish, mucus type of discharge when you are ovulating. Or, you can go the commercial route and buy an ovulation kit. However, I think you'll do just fine on your own!! Good luck and happy ending to you!!

Answer 4

My husband and I tried for 13 years before we were able to conceive. I listened to everyone about the 14th day of my cycle for years. Finally, we just gave up and had sex when we wanted. Turned out that I ovulate late (22nd day of my cycle). I became pregnant. My advice would be to use an ovulation predictor and find out when you are ovulating. I hope this helps.

Answer 5

Have intercourse (a minimum of each different day) the week after your interval begins. That might be day 7, nine, eleven, thirteen, 15, 17, and 19 of your cycle. The extra quite often you might have intercourse, the much more likely your probabilities of conceiving whilst you're so much fertile. GOOD LUCK!

Answer 6

How long is your cycle? Go to babycenter.com and click on ovualtion calculator, it is very easy and they can tell you when you are ovualting to get pregnant, or try buying the ovualtion predictor kits. Best of Luck.

Answer 7

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