...you or his friends? In other words, would you have your man get rid of some of his friends to show you that you're more important and that you're "first"?
2007-01-08 02:11:12 · 29 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
No...
ADULTS need to make decisions and prioritize LIFE, without ultimatums and nagging.
Going through these type changes in relationships with a person is almost ALWAYS a sign of insecurity and immaturity on someone's part.
2007-01-08 02:15:22 · answer #1 · answered by Lady Albritton 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No. This only creates resentment. If a man loves a women she will become first without any ultimatums. If there are friends in his or her circle that are detrimental to the relationship, then the person should make their own decision to put their relationship first. This can also be a sign of insecurity in some people and getting rid of the friend wouldn't fix that situation either.
2007-01-08 02:14:50 · answer #2 · answered by Melli 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
It is really important that she understands that you should have some guy friends! That is messed up if she is having you choose between her or your friends! Maybe she feels that way because she is not getting the attention she wants when you guy friends are around! I would try giving her more kisses and hugs in front of your friends! That would probably make her more happy and let you have more time with the guys! Try that if that is the problem!
2007-01-08 02:16:25 · answer #3 · answered by ~*Sweet Pea*~ 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Not just to show that i'm more important but my husband and i both had friends that we had to get rid of in order to not hurt our marriage. So, yes there are circumstances in which a choice has to be made.
2007-01-08 02:13:49 · answer #4 · answered by notyours 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, I would never make him choose. His friends were there long before I came along and it's not my place to pick and choose his friends. I know I would be upset if he tried to do that to me. If I didn't like some of his friends I just wouldn't hang out with them. There are always going to be some of his friends that annoy me or whatever, but I will always be civil to them. They are obviously important to my boyfriend, and it wouldn't be fair to put him in a situation to make him choose. I guess it comes down to how accepting we are. I accepted my boyfriend for the way he is, and that includes all his friends. Who am I to try and change who he is, and his friends are part of who he is.
2007-01-08 02:15:38 · answer #5 · answered by photogrl262000 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It depends on the type of friends he has. For example if they are the kind that constantly try and get the guy to go out without her or constantly put her down. Then yes. Also if they have "addictions" that she may feel tempt you or that their actions could get her guy into trouble then yes. Of course women want to feel "first" , but she shouldn't expect you to never go out with any of your friends or have the occasional "guys night" , that is just to clingy.
2007-01-08 02:16:13 · answer #6 · answered by TakeNoticeNow 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you are a man you might not understand the woman's point of view. And if you are in the relationship that this is happening. Maybe she wants more of your time. Or maybe she thinks the friends are no good. Maybe she is a control freak and you need to set your boundaries with her.
2007-01-08 02:17:57 · answer #7 · answered by LESLIE M 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Show her that she is "first", and she may not make that demand. If you can honestly say that you spend enough time with her, and don't neglect your relationship with her, then one of you is being unreasonable in your expectations of the other. Just remember, spending time with the significant other is paramount to a healthy relationship.
2007-01-08 04:37:06 · answer #8 · answered by Happy Wife 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
depends on the friends, and why she wouls want you to choose I don't think it is a good idea for a girl to do that because the guy will resent her, on the other hand if he makes it totally obvious that his friends are his life and she is on the backburner, he should prioritize his time or get lost
2007-01-08 02:16:37 · answer #9 · answered by Stuck in the middle of nowhere 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My hubbys first marrige ended cause his Ex told him to choose Her or his Friends. She didn't want him to hang out with his friends at all. Only be with her so I learned from her mistake. My hubby can hang with friends when ever. All I ask is that he lets me know. "hey I'm hanging with the guys tonight be home at 10:00. "
2007-01-08 02:14:33 · answer #10 · answered by cc 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋