so cindy has decided to move out. she has also decided that we need to take a break and see others and the only way to get her back is to convince her i have changed for the good of everything and am ready to settle down with just her (i have a man living with us.........) and start adpoting and raising a family. i am only 22, dont wanna settle down with just her because i have great sex with her and this man all the time and i just wanna live in the moment. should i let her go and find some other girl that lives the life style i do or should live the life stlye she wants and kick out this man? im so cornfused about things. i love her. but love what i HAD more and i want that back. i dont want her back and things be different and i dont want her gone and things be different!
2007-01-08 02:11:10 · 11 answers · asked by rudi trudi phoenix gordon 7 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
If you really love her...then you would love her enough to let her go. She should not have to suffer the things she wants in life because you are not ready for them. And it's alos not fair to you to have someone pushing you in a direction you don't wan tot go in. If the love is really true then you two will find your ways back to each other in the end...but for now you two need to let each other go.
2007-01-08 02:17:02 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honey it may be painful but changing yourself for the sake of another is just a betrayal of your own nature. It will only make you unhappy in the future. You are probably going to have to just let her go. Your love for her does not have to end but sometimes the compatability just isn't there anymore. It's the way of the world dear. Some people just grow apart.
2007-01-08 10:53:00 · answer #2 · answered by Ricky J. 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Having one lover dictate what you do with another is unacceptable, so long as your behavior is honorable and honest.
Try to find out why the man makes her feel so insecure.
All of you need to sit down and talk. Seriously communicate. Find out the true cause of the feelings here.
The polyamory community has a number of resources for dealing with this sort of thing.
2007-01-08 11:43:40 · answer #3 · answered by Radagast97 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ask her why she wants this guy out of the house there must be a reson why just sit her down and talk about it how long have ya'll been to getter ya'll dont have to be married to be in love. give it time things will work out for the best
2007-01-08 11:44:49 · answer #4 · answered by askharley 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't want the things she does. If you change to what she wants and you aren't ready for it, you will only grow to resent her and it will be a disaster. Bid her a fond farewell and move on.
2007-01-08 10:14:58 · answer #5 · answered by tjnstlouismo 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You do what you believe will make you happy. If Cindy isn't prepared to accept you for who you are and how you want to live, then perhaps you are better without her (as she is without you).
2007-01-08 10:15:37 · answer #6 · answered by unclefrunk 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
why would u put a man b4 your gf? you should kick him out and settle down with her.
2007-01-08 10:38:41 · answer #7 · answered by HI!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
YOU SHOULD JUST FOLLOW YOUR HEART IF YOU LOVE HER SO MUCH STAY WITH AND MAKE THE CHANGES OR KEEP LIVING THE LIFESTYLE YOU WERE LIVIING BEFORE AND LET HER GO. ITS YOUR CHOICE.
2007-01-08 10:44:09 · answer #8 · answered by SKITTLE 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How to love you when you are so fickle minded. Be true to her to see the difference.
2007-01-08 10:14:52 · answer #9 · answered by Ptuan 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋
your novel is quite old style
do you have something new?
2007-01-08 10:16:11 · answer #10 · answered by someone 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋