Would you allow your 13 year old daughter to wear a thong if she asked?

Question

or.... Rather sneak behind your back.... these teen years are driving me crazy ..... great kid....teen attitude of course but for the most parts tells me alot I know alot of her friends bought thongs and hide them or secretly have my space accounts is it better for me to allow her to do these things instead of sneaking behing my back because we all know at this age most ARE sneaking behind they're parents backs...sometimes I feel like I am too involved and know too much but at the same time I think by being so open and honest it dosent make things as much fun No sneaking around..HELP.....

Answer 1

Plain and simple.....NO.

Answer 2

This is a hard one. Like you said, she'll most likely do it anyways because her friends are but you can still make your point clear that you don't approve of them.
Let her know that if you find them, you will simply throw them away.
Make sure though to explain why she can't wear them. Let her know that girls her age don't need to wear them that they are just a fashion statement (even though ideally they can't be seen on) and she would be more comfortable in panties designed for young ladies. Tell her you will take her to any store she wishes and she can pick out cute, more suitable pairs.
My 11 year old daughter was curious about them and I simply told her that they aer not meant for girls, only women and she accepted it and moved on, however, a few more years and I may have the same problem.
If it is a power struggle thing, then let her have something else she has been wanting (i.e. give in to something else like a later curfew or a new i pod.....) but make her agree that she only gets it if she waits a couple more years to wear thongs.
I find you go further with negotiation then with a basic NO. Good luck.

Answer 3

She probably just wants to keep up with her friends. Since you are close have a sex talk about boys and the way they think(sometimes thongs attract guys who think you are sexually active just because you wear a thong0. Remember they're teenage boys(i have one,15). As long as she has a good explanation as to why she wants this and it sounds ok to you- let her buy it. She may even find out she doesn't like it. If you have doubts, or think she is wanting this for attention- say no. Kids do sneak around but if you're upfront about this maybe she will be too. Good Luck.

Answer 4

Think about when you were 13. Why did you care what kind of underpants you were wearing unless someone else was seeing them? I didn't really get anything other than cutesy designs like the big smiley face or tweety in the back, until I was almost 16. That's about the time I started dating. He was almost 18 and a senior, and I was going to the prom! We had planned it since I started my sophmore year at 15. That's when I started buying sheers, and lace and string bikini types. All over a boy! So, since not much has changed in that area over the years, my guess would be that most of her friends are talking about sex, and she's thinking about it too, and wants to be prepared. But kids these days start having sex so young now, she's probably under a lot of peer pressure for her to start too. And some of her friends might be telling her that they have and she should hurry up. It's about time for that little talk,mom. You're not alone. I have a 13 year old girl too, and I know it's not that easy. But you'll live through it, and you'll probably have to repeat yourself over and over again too. So, in answer to your question, no, I wouldn't allow it, but she will probably ease some on in her underwear drawer anyway. (They aren't that expensive). Talk to her about it, anyhow.

Answer 5

Yes I would and do let my daughter that is 12 wear a thong. I think that in this day and age with alot of the styles it's impossible not to wear a thong. I think that white is a big color choice for pants, capris, etc and who wants to see underwear lines. I say as long as she wears undergarments it's all good. I would rather buy them for her and know she is wearing them then her buy them herself and wear them behind my back. I also feel that she is old enough when she got her period. I can tell my daughter she has to wear a tampon but that she can't wear a style of underwear? They are comfortable, they don't show your panty lines, nobody else is seeing them but her what is the big deal?

Answer 6

i would let her wear a thong, WOW, ur lucky, she actually asked... also, a thongs pleasure is not really sexually, it is a way to get rid of panty lines... just make sure she gets the low risers, if it peeps above her pant, thats bad, and trashy.....

also let her get a myspace, but make it a private account, and dont let her fill out her hair color, ect....... also a proven FACT is 50 % of myspaces users r OVER 50!!! also a good alternative is every1 get a sumthin called a piczo, baisically myspace except 4 MUCH safer, lol there is not even a search 4 ppl.....also look at itt this way (the way my parents and website teacher does) it teaches html and site desining, which CAN come in handy...

u should be a pround mum, she comes up to u w/ her probs... a way to solve ur delima is not ? her or put pressure on her, simply answer the ??s she askes you...

also she is getting to the age where u should let her do that

Answer 7

Yeah I say let her. Like you said she will do it anyways. The more limitations you give the more they will want to break the rules. Us girls remember what it was like being a teen! Have to fit in. If the cool kid is wearing thongs then we have to too. I hate thongs and hate looking at them sticking up someones butt while they are hanging out there pants, but maybe as your daughter gets older she will appreciate the feel for cotton.

Answer 8

I have a teen too and it is really tough. You need to choose your battles. I wouldn't worry about the thongs. Panties are panties. I would worry about the myspace though. If you give in on some of the things that don't matter as much, you will have a much easier time putting your foot down on the things that can really lead your daughter to trouble without hearing, "you never let me do anything!!!". Good luck and look at the bright side - in a few more years, she's off to college!

Answer 9

ask her why she wants to wear one and make sure the answer is suitable for you. i honestly dont think there is anything wrong woth wearing a thong, i started wearing them at about 15. personally, id rather her be honest than sneak around. ok wearing a thong has nothing to do with sex, i didnt have sex til i was 19, so all you people who said shes gonna have sex next are crazy

Answer 10

Unless it is for a sexual reason....why not? It's just a different "form" of underwear. I would make sure you have access to her "mmyspace" page though to make sure she's not wearing them, taking pictures, and putting them on my space of herself in the thongs. Other than that, she may have pressure from other girls at school...or just be embarrased about "underwear lines". ALSO...I'm 21...I wanted a thong when I was 14...my said yes. 5 years later....I HATED THONGS...To this day, I do not own one pair. The fad will pass when she understands it's a string digging up her butt.

Answer 11

I would say yes. They are only a type of knicker and as long as she is the only one seeing them and they stay on then I don't see the problem. I started wearing them when I was about 12, my mum bought my first one for me. And I find them a lot more comfortable, especially under trousers as they don't all bunch up, and you can't notice them when you put your trousers on over them. I don't see what the problem would be at all.
Sorry, missed the myspace bit. I wouldn't be too keen on myt daughter having one of those at 13. There's lots of weirdos out there and she can also make herself out to be anyone at all. A bit risky that 1, I would say.